Absolutely cannot stand cuddling in bed - anyone else?

Me too. Too hot to cuddle . Sometimes for a few minutes the. We both go to our sides! 😂

I'm at my wits end. My husband wants to proper cuddle in when we go to bed. I just want to hit the pillow and sleep. But when I don't cuddle him he gives me the guilt trip of not showing him love 😟😟 my way of showing love is making sure clothes are clean and ironed his lunch for work is made everyday etc. But when I try say that to him I just get well I don't ask you to do that. Don't do it wouldn't bother me. Sorry for the rant feel better talking to strangers lol x

I get annoyed if my DH even puts a foot over my side of the bed so cuddling is definitely out.

I agree! I can't stand having an arm around me, I feel like I'm trapped! The same with the other person's elbows pointing towards me!

@mitogoshi Agreed.

Hate hate hate it. I dated someone a few years ok who would want to cuddle, but also twitch and jerk involuntarily when asleep. It was hell. One time I just got up at 3am and went home, he wasn't impressed.

I will always have my own bed/bedroom in any future relationships. If that's a deal breaker for future partners, then so be it. Sleep is too precious to me.

Cuddling is for earlier, I turn away to sleep

It's one of my favourite things! He's one of the first people I don't feel afraid to be soft around and actually feel safe with. We cuddle up in bed together and I'm immediately out for the count! Always struggle to get to sleep when I'm alone.

I only cuddle the cat. She purrs us off to sleep. DH runs too hot!

We have our own duvets in the same bed too.. it started when we he had covid and was going hot and cold all the time, only just remembered it wasn't normal reading this thread! It works so well for us, no feeling too warm from each others heat and no fighting over the covers!

Cuddling in bed is one of life’s greatest pleasures. Dp and I live apart so when we sleep in the same bed in the same house we are glued together, we roll over together and respoon in the other direction. On hot nights we just have our legs tangled together. When I get I warm I pull the duvet off me rather than pulling out of the cuddle. I’m glad he agrees with me.

I knew DH was the one when he cuddled me all night and I slept in his arms. Over 30 years later, my body did not lie - not the first man I had sex with, but the first man to hold me all night without my body saying no.

I'm single so not a bother thankfully but YANBU. Sex is fine but I can barely even stand someone in my bed after, let alone cuddling. I had a FWB for a while but my god I just wanted him GONE first thing in the morning, get out of my bed. I'm definitely destined to be alone and I'm fine with that!

I love cuddling in bed but the second we want to sleep, we roll away from each other and leave each other alone. I hate being touched while sleeping.

I've been single for a while but the thing that was hardest to get over was the comfort of night time cuddles with my ex. until our marriage broke down, we always slept completely tangled up . even during the day, just putting my head on his shoulder or chest would send me straight to sleep.

Don't breathe near me, never mind touch me.

I love my OH, but I also love my own space for sleeping. Not sure he's worked out why I always book a twin room whenever we go away, and I sort of hope he never does.

Cuddling to sleep, love it. DH is big spoon, but I think the main reason is because he is always red hot and I’m an iceberg. However, touch me in the middle of the night, especially with your feet, I’ll unleash fury 😂 or probably just push him to his side of the bed!

Me,me,me, hate being cuddled

I'm exactly the same, hate being touched when I want to sleep and have done as long as I can remember, even as a child i didnt like being cuddles in bed... strangely enough I'm happy to cuddle the dog though!

I love my husband dearly and I love affection and cuddles. I am one of the most tactile people. However in bed trying to sleep I do not want to be touched at all. We have a super king, we’d have separate beds if I got my way. Bed is for sleeping and stretching out in and not huddled in sweaty cuddles!!

God no! I put pillows between us 😂 I’m usually in the spare room anyway cos of his snoring 😴

We sleep completely tangled up, if we wake up and are apart we always get cuddled up again. I love it!

Cuddling before trying to sleep, great.

Cuddling when trying to sleep, awful