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Calling somebody else dad

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LongTallSallyx · 28/02/2024 20:04

Child of seperated parents, age 6. His parents have been separated since he was 4 but his dad is still in his life and has him every week.

The mum met somebody new when the boy was 5 and that man now lives with them, the mum is expecting a baby with the new partner.

Whilst at his dads house the little boy drew a picture of "his family" and drew his mums partner as dad, leaving his bio dad out of the picture. When asked about it, he confirmed that yes "Stuart" is his dad.

Bio dad wanted to have a conversation with the mum about it but mum doesn't see it as a problem as "Stuart" lives with them and has naturally fallen into the position of 'dad'

Is the man unreasonable to be upset?

OP posts:
LongTallSallyx · 28/02/2024 20:16

vodkaredbullgirl · 28/02/2024 20:09

Are you that parent????????

No definitely not. The boy in the story is my nephew.

OP posts:
LongTallSallyx · 28/02/2024 20:15

Bio dad hasn't even met Stuart properly at this stage. He's not around during handover which mostly happens at the door. He's either at work or opting to stay out of the way. I think that makes it all the more difficult to swallow because to him, Stuart, is a complete stranger.

The bio dad is my brother, by the way.

OP posts:
vodkaredbullgirl · 28/02/2024 20:14

either

TraitorsGate · 28/02/2024 20:13

vodkaredbullgirl · 28/02/2024 20:09

Are you that parent????????

Which parent?

vodkaredbullgirl · 28/02/2024 20:09

Are you that parent????????

Whattobakeiwonder · 28/02/2024 20:08

It's important that a child understands who their actual parents are

TraitorsGate · 28/02/2024 20:08

No, that's awful, imagine if it was a mum.

Helplessandheartbroke · 28/02/2024 20:06

No thats shocking behaviour. She's know the man less than 2 years and he lives there with her young son.... but also this is very disrespectful to the bio dad and he needs a word with mum and Stuart!!!

purpleme12 · 28/02/2024 20:06

Of course not being unreasonable
No one else but the dad should be called dad
But then I would have told my child 'no I'm your dad'

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