@Ohffffssssss
He expects impossible high standards of allmost perfection on the domestic front in regards of yourself and his family,
that i can have a guess, that even he could not live up to himself,
let alone anybody else,
funny he doesn't apply his own philosophy and logic to himself, such as continuously self improvement to the highest standards possible,
His family dynamics are the main issue too,
that have supported and enabling his problematic behaviour for so long...
He mistreats like he is your allmost constang nit picking boss who is on your case back looking for the next thing,
he can project , inflict onto you his uncomfortable undesirable feelings of insecurities whatever they are,
and
other issues too
your his convient scapegoat and his children are in the same way,
I think 🤔 he knows in reality like most or all men of his type do
that they have to keep you down in the emotionally gutter as much as they can get away,
so you will not have emotional energy or and insight to realise the very fact,
that he needs you far more than he wants you to know realise,
as this relationship is essentially relys on and is based on unhealthy dysfunctional balance that's way out of kilter of what a relantship should really be about...