Colleague going to same hotel

Riu Touareg? Absolutely massive, you'll hardly see them. I was there at the same time as a vague acquaintance and didn't see them until the last night.

This must be about the dynamic between the two of you. You hate him; you fancy him or he fancies you; you've already shagged each other? In which case YABVU to have booked a hotel he recommended!

In all other cases, YABU to be annoyed that he's exercising his free will to book a holiday he knows his family will enjoy.

If it’s the swingers’ hotel in Sal, you’ll probably need to lay out expectations before you go. Assuming you aren’t planning to play with your colleague, just remove yourself from a public play space when he arrives, or don’t engage in public play at all.
if I’ve misunderstood and it’s not the swingers hotel, you don’t need to worry.

I completely agree!

I had to read it twice as I thought I must have got it wrong 😁

OP YABVU

If you don’t want to bump into colleagues, perhaps avoid places you know that they love and there’s a good chance they’ll visit.

Shocked that OP hasn’t returned 😂

Oh, don't be so silly. 😅

yabu, it was 'his' Hotel first.

I wouldn’t like seeing a colleague on my holiday but you probably wont really see them if its a very large hotel. Personally I wouldn’t ever book a hotel if I knew a colleague was going there at the same time, but if he raved about it, I guess theres a high chance he would go back (and you’re teachers so limited times to go in the year).

Between this thread and the 6am flight thread, people are quite spoiled about holidays. Sorry but you're being really precious.

Yeah they’d obviously discussed already that she’d booked it but maybe she just said ‘for next year’ or something, which could have been any of the half terms, summer or easter. Or even Christmas. In which case OP is BU, as the colleague wasn’t to know she was already going at Easter, and it probably only occurred to him it could have been a possibility after he booked.

I feel like there is something going on here about different types of people and their approaches to holidays

I’ve travelled a bit and gone on a few holidays, as you do. So many of them I’ve enjoyed and would recommend the area and hotel/accommodation to others.

However I have literally never been back to the same hotel twice. Most of my friends are the same – the fun is in discovering somewhere new. So I would take a recommendation from a friend without it occurring to me that they might be going on the same holiday again and again.

I’m aware that some people stick with one place and return every year, but I suppose I associate it with an older generation. And I don’t think (in the OP) the colleague said they go there every year.

But I wonder if this is why so many people on the thread see it as obviously ‘the colleague’s place’ and think it was really expected he would be there the same week again the next year, where for the OP, she never expected that he would be returning to the exact same hotel having recommended it to her for her holiday 🤷🏻

The hotels in Cape Verde are absolutely massive. There’s usually more than pool, too, so the chances of you bumping into each other are quite slim, tbh.

This is such an odd post.

I would've thought as you're a teacher you'd have anticipated that this would be a possibility. What exactly is your concern?

If you want privacy then moving forward I'd book a villa.

So OP you are the colleague going to the hotel at the same time. They recommended it, so there is no reason to they might not be there in their time off.

Did he? He only asked her yesterday when she was going and then said he'd booked a last minute there for that time, too. Could not not have been as part of the same conversation? It reads like that, to me.

I love this. You basically copy his holiday (same place, same hotel, same time of year) and then get annoyed he is going again this year.

Classic

Just don't get drunk and dance naked on the tables

Yeah but it’s only very specifically because he already knew she was going there that week!

I never felt the need to consult colleagues when booking my holiday. Fortunately most of them would not share my tastes.

This. I would be more embarrassed than annoyed tbh.

You booked it in his recommendation but now he's not allowed to go back because you're going? Sounds a bit odd

That is hilarious 😂😂😂😂😂

Fucking Hell

YABU

If you feel awkward and irritated about it then my advice is to change hotels pronto. I think you will be on tenterhooks during the stay and might feel obligated to be social with him and wife.

Personally I would hate being in the same resort (not to mind hotel!) as a colleague or even acquaintance. It can get awkward as I feel the need to avoid them or feel I have to talk to them every time I see them and they probably feel the same.

It did happen once in funny circumstances actually. Years ago my friend and I being young and adventurous took a ferry to Israel (Tel Aviv) from Cyprus during our two week package holiday. It was an overnight trip and a four berth cabin that we had to share. Now guess what.... a boss at my company at the time and his wife were doing the same trip from a different part of Cyprus and were allocated our cabin. OMFG I think we both nearly died. We got through it but it was so so awkward. So I get it.

“Why should I?” Maybe because you’re the one who’s bothered about him being there?