Dick pics on Partners phone

You've known him for eight months and you have elevated him to the position of partner already? Surely you and he are just getting to know each other? And you certainly are getting to know him now!

Just seen the update.

It's not right is it. Someone would only take those pictures to send to someone and it's weird he's so insecure about his size. If you're both happy with each other and have a healthy sex life then surely he wouldn't care.

I think I'd dump him. He's a relatively new boyfriend. I'd move on.

So sorry! I've often seen old threads revivalised and wondered how it happens, people like me, now I know 😅

@Onlycoffee

She updated in July.

But surely if he deleted his pics he would have also deleted any other incriminating pics, and just left the celebs in case you saw something and he could just say it was those photos?

I don't know, seems a bit off to me.

He is sending dick pics to women, sorry. Get out now whilst you can, these type of men don’t improve.

I would hope in the 5 months since OP posted this, she has sorted it out, @ShatParp

@EBearhug
Tumescence!!! 🤣🤣🤣

OP, I have taken weird body pics before to check nothing looked odd...but I would then fess up if questioned and laugh about it!! If that's what he's doing, do you really want a partner who can't be honest and be able to laugh about it?

I just don't think a man would take pics (more than one is my understanding) and have them on there for himself.

I can easily imagine that a man worried about his size would take pics from different angles, in different states of tumescence, on different days to see if things are improving or not over time, whether it's better after a warm bath or if a cold morning is really bad, etc...

I just don't think a man would take pics (more than one is my understanding) and have them on there for himself. GPs and doctors don't want private pics like that either. You describe online forms and if they need to see the genitals in question- they make you an in person appt.

I'd get out or have it out before ypu get more invested. A small dick doesn't excuse it.

This sounds like someone I use to know. And, he had a whole hidden folder of his dick including videos and of random women who had been with or had been chatting to.

You talk about his insecurities around his dick

Which gives me reason to believe its down to that. He deleted them and lied because he's embarrassed and insecure and didn't want to talk about something he is insecure about

Maybe he's put them on Reddit, maybe it was for personal reference, maybe it was for an online consultation about medication for ED. He just didn't delete them then (I have various random pics I could have deleted but it just never occurs to me to do so)

It's not really gaslighting, just lying. Gaslighting is a far more prolonged campaign of making people question their own reality, make their friends and family question their sanity etc. Using gaslighting because of a little lie is disingenuous and problematic in its own right

Ah this gave me a good laugh, but it’s absolutely true. I used to work in a pharmacy which did photo development and ‘You’re Banned Mr Picnic-Chipolata’ would definitely have been a post-it on their envelope….

its 8 months. Don’t settle for this. Naked images on women, the lies and the very reasonable suspicion that he’s sent this to other women. If he was taking it to look at his size…why delete the pic and not just say?

don’t settle for this.

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Genuine laughing, not some weird sarcastic laugh.
Yes, they are obsessed. If all the short male dictators in the eorld were told their penises were 9" long, they wouldn't be do insecure!!

Because you've said he’s hung up on his size, I do genuinely think he could have taken these photos to further analyse himself. I have done this, taking photos of my body (in particular boobs) to see if they look uneven in photos or if it's in my head type thing. Would never EVER dream of sharing them with anyone. It is just for me to look at and they either make me feel a bit better or worse than when I look in the mirror.

The naked celebs could just be wank bank material.

If he didn't have this specific insecurity, I would probably 100% think the only reason to take dick pics is for shady reasons, but I think in this case it could be innocent. His gaslighting you isn't a good look either way though. Deleting them and then making out you’re imagining things isn't on.

Why though, are men so obsessed with their dicks? It's ridiculous- no pun intended!

Men are obsessed with their dick, though, and they absolutely would have been taking pics of them and taking them to be developed in Boots if it wouldn't have been for Boots complaining about it.

At this point I'd ignore what I'd seen on the phone, as you shouldn't have been looking in his photos. They are his private photos. I have taken questionable pics of myself before, to either see what something looks like, or thinking oh this will look great I'll send to my DH and then realising the pic looked shit. Never cheated on my DH never would. But my camera roll is my business. You'd also find the odd screenshot of a certain celeb semi naked, if I've seen something as I was scrolling and thought ooohhh fit. Doesn't make me a cheat. I wouldn't care him seeing any pics on my phone, but I'd be fuming if he went scrolling. Also, if I'd have only been with him 8 months and he looked through my phone and found those I'd be so embarrassed so I'd delete them too. I'd be more fuming about someone going through my phone though.

I don't think this sounds like cheating. Obviously I don't know but that was my gut reaction. And assuming it's not, then I think it's his private business - his body, his phone.

I was born before smart phones and the internet.
At no point was it a thing to take phoos of your dick, get them developed at Boots, then pop them in a stamped envelope and into a post box.
Why do people do this? Why take photos of any of your bits? No part of reproductive anatomy is picture worthy!

This. Given what OP says about his concerns I think it is quite likely he’s been photographing himself to see what it looks like.