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To think people are getting scruffier?

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HomeIsHardToFind · 25/02/2024 14:27

I am currently house hunting, I have been in a lot of properties recently and to be honest I have been shocked by the state of them!
They look fine in the estate agents photos but when you get there it's a different story.....plates and bowls piled up in the sink, crumbs all over work surfaces, disgusting ovens and urine stains/smells in the loo!
My 'favourite' was the house that had holes punched in the doors of every room (double checked the agents pics and they definitely didn't exist at the time they were taken!).
I get it, I can clean if we bought the house etc, but if you are selling your biggest asset and you want the most amount of money possible surely you make it look the best it can for viewings? I feel like I've stepped into an alternative universe at the moment!
I have also noticed that many more people out and about stink. Not just a bit of a pong or like they have a manual job and haven't showered for 24 hours but full on makes me dry heave absolutely stink!!
I put some fuel in the car this morning and the 'gentleman' that came into the garage as I was leaving smelled rancid, it must have been days and days since he had washed🤢 I could smell him outside in the fresh air!
Maybe I'm getting on (I don't think so, only early 40's!!) but I seem to remember people having more pride in themselves, their home and their families (don't get me started on some of the poor kids I've seen with such greasy hair it looks like it's been stuck to their head with chip oil☹️).
Sometimes I wonder if its COL biting but then I think about people I've known that grew up in the 60's and 70's that were dirt poor taking pride in how clean their mothers managed to keep them with nothing but soap and hot water, so I think the only difference is that the pride has gone?
Has anyone else noticed this or am I just unluckily surrounded by scruffy buggers?!

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GetWhatYouWant · 26/02/2024 21:25

RunningThroughMyHead · 26/02/2024 20:45

I only find it surprising as our washing doesn't dry overnight and our airer is kept on the second floor (up two flights of stairs) and our windows are shut. So yeah, I do find it surprising. Not saying it doesn't happen, but it's surprising.

I think having the windows open makes it dry quicker. If the windows are shut then the air gets more and more saturated with water, not only does that mean the water in the clothes evaporates more slowly but your house gets damper. Having the window open means that the damp air goes out and is replaced by fresh air which can absorb more water. That's my theory anyway and it seems to work because the clothes dry overnight. I also hang each item over 2 rails so there's a good space in between, if you hang them over one there are 4 layers of fabric very close to each other which is bound to dry more slowly.

professionalmum01 · 26/02/2024 21:19

Some people have no basic personal hygiene. I'm the type of person that has to shower twice a day and do the laundry once to twice a day and tidy up every single day. We do have a cleaner to do the big jobs. I couldn't live in chaos and bad smells make me want to vom.
I find it absolutely disgusting when people don't wash...

NoWordForFluffy · 26/02/2024 21:09

We have a security light out there.

Hugmorecats · 26/02/2024 20:58

@NoWordForFluffy do you hang up your washing in the dark then? Or do you have an outside light? Just trying to imagine how it works as some of the year it’s dark by the time I finish at 5, so I’d be out in a cold dark garden trying to get it hung up.

Moonshine5 · 26/02/2024 20:57

Poverty

celticprincess · 26/02/2024 20:56

A couple of things which might be part of it.

Not putting the heating on as much as people used to, means that houses can often smell damp these days. I live in an old property and notice the damp smell when the heating hasn’t been on as much. I do try to keep it clean and use products to make it smell nice but they do cost. I’ve also noticed that if I hang my washing up in the house to dry without putting the radiator on then it dries with an awful smell. In fact hanging it on a radiator airer and not on the radiator itself sometimes means it smells odd. Looking forward to the nicer weather to hang out. I don’t have a drier.

Another thing I’ve noticed is that people are going away from anti-perspirant to more environmentally friendly deodorant. I tried some (Wild) and although it smells gorgeous in its container, after a while of using it I actually smelled awful. I’ve had to go back to my proper antiperspirant that contains aluminium chloride. But the cost of such things has gone up too.

RunningThroughMyHead · 26/02/2024 20:45

GetWhatYouWant · 26/02/2024 19:33

Yes that's right. Is it so surprising, been doing it for decades. All my upstairs rooms have the window open all the time, obviously in winter I don't open them wide, my windows have a small window part so that's open all year round. I have a tumble dryer but there are some clothes that can't go in it and I dry them on an airer in the spare bedroom. I'm just about to put a wash on of clothes that can't be tumbled, they'll go on the airer and will be dry in the morning. The heating will go off about 11.30 tonight but there will be residual heat in the room.

I only find it surprising as our washing doesn't dry overnight and our airer is kept on the second floor (up two flights of stairs) and our windows are shut. So yeah, I do find it surprising. Not saying it doesn't happen, but it's surprising.

Devilshands · 26/02/2024 20:42

Moonwatcher1234 · 26/02/2024 20:40

yuck - can’t believe we have a “stinks like curry” one in 2024. Thought that nonsense was in the past - where it belongs.

Well he does.

He’s a white man, in his fifties. It’s not a racist comment (which is I assume what your comment was about…which says a LOT about you). Not that his race matters. Stinking is stinking. I’d say the same of someone who smelt like fish. Or shit. Or vomit.

And he stinks.

Moonwatcher1234 · 26/02/2024 20:40

Devilshands · 26/02/2024 09:46

YANBU, OP.

When I was house hunting 18 months ago, I constantly viewed houses that either stunk of cigarette smoke/weed, had dishes and plates piled high, dirty floors, dirty sinks (with hair in ffs), gardens full of shit (literal animal shit and also rubbish), clothes on the floor and in one house there was a massive poo in the toilet!

People are just disgusting - both in terms of their houses and their personal hygiene.

Don't even get me started on the man who gets on my train and stinks so fucking strongly of curry that if you end up being the poor bastard sat next to him YOU end up stinking of curry by the time you get into London Bridge. I once had a colleague comment on it to me in a 'I'm really sorry but you smell quite badly...of curry.' I DON'T EVEN LIKE FUCKING CURRY.

yuck - can’t believe we have a “stinks like curry” one in 2024. Thought that nonsense was in the past - where it belongs.

NoWordForFluffy · 26/02/2024 20:39

IloveAslan · 26/02/2024 20:34

Honestly some of you are nuts. I did not ask anyone to Google anything, let alone demand it.

There are some bright people on MN (obviously not you!) who I knew would be able to answer my question - but instead I got a bunch of posters who were incapable of even understanding the question.

If you are all products of this wonderful British education system I keep reading about on here, then I will give thanks every day I was eductated elsewhere.

I will leave you to your ridiculously high energy costs, and not waste an ounce of sympathy on you for them.

If you were that bright, you'd have googled it yourself. #potcallingkettle

IloveAslan · 26/02/2024 20:34

Janetime · 26/02/2024 08:35

I was literally thinking that, I cannot beleive the poster wanted people to google for her, in fact demanded it, and someone actually did it!

Honestly some of you are nuts. I did not ask anyone to Google anything, let alone demand it.

There are some bright people on MN (obviously not you!) who I knew would be able to answer my question - but instead I got a bunch of posters who were incapable of even understanding the question.

If you are all products of this wonderful British education system I keep reading about on here, then I will give thanks every day I was eductated elsewhere.

I will leave you to your ridiculously high energy costs, and not waste an ounce of sympathy on you for them.

GetWhatYouWant · 26/02/2024 20:33

NoWordForFluffy · 26/02/2024 20:28

I'm on the NW coast and we dry washing outside all year. We watch the forecast like hawks, and put washing out overnight if it's dry / windy, where the days around it are forecast wet.

Exactly this. It's perfectly possible to get most washing dry outside, it just requires more vigilance and constant looking at the weather forecast and planning when you'll do it.

NoWordForFluffy · 26/02/2024 20:28

Hugmorecats · 26/02/2024 19:56

@GetWhatYouWant does your mum work ft? Just wondering as even working from home there’s a very limited number of days I can get the washing outside to dry. It’s rare in many parts of the country to get a totally rain free day apart from maybe 2-3 months a year. And if I was having to drop the kids off at school and then get to a separate workplace, there would be no time at all to run a wash and get it out on the line before leaving for work.

I'm on the NW coast and we dry washing outside all year. We watch the forecast like hawks, and put washing out overnight if it's dry / windy, where the days around it are forecast wet.

GetWhatYouWant · 26/02/2024 20:23

Hugmorecats · 26/02/2024 19:56

@GetWhatYouWant does your mum work ft? Just wondering as even working from home there’s a very limited number of days I can get the washing outside to dry. It’s rare in many parts of the country to get a totally rain free day apart from maybe 2-3 months a year. And if I was having to drop the kids off at school and then get to a separate workplace, there would be no time at all to run a wash and get it out on the line before leaving for work.

Not now she's in her eighties! But she did work full time for 35 years till she was 70 and had children living at home for some of that. And always lived in Wales where it rains a lot. She just kept her eye firmly on the weather forecast and didn't do washing on rainy days. I always thought it made extra stress so got a tumble dryer as soon as I had my own place, tried to persuade her to get one but she just doesn't want to, cost not an issue at all. Before tumble dryers were invented people hung out as much as possible.

Nanny0gg · 26/02/2024 20:17

Hoxite274764 · 26/02/2024 07:47

I am sick to death of working and paying taxes to fund other peoples kids. Why is that the taxpayers responsibility?

Because some of them will be caring for you when you're in your dotage (or their taxes will be covering the costs of your carers)

And other people's taxes paid for your education and healthcare.

Janetime · 26/02/2024 20:09

BlueFlowers5 · 26/02/2024 19:47

I think it's the energy costs. Having a bath Vs heating a room.

I just don’t think people have got scruffier or smellier or messier in their homes due to energy costs. Maybe some, but I’m not buying that.

i think it’s only a small percentage that is in this situation In the first place ie dirty homes or smelly themselves , and I think these people have always existed. As a pp said, we can all boil a kettle.

yes for some it is a struggle and they are in abject poverty,but in the main I think there is just a number of people who live dirty or just don’t clean themselves enough and they have always existed.

43ontherocksporfavor · 26/02/2024 20:09

Have not noticed extra smelly people. Have noticed people going out in slippers or very scruffy but that been happening for quite a few years. Depends where you are obviously.

PawsisShady · 26/02/2024 20:05

I can't dry clothes outside so have to dry inside
There is no way mine dry overnight though, it's usually 2 days and that's with a heated airer and dehumidifier!

Hugmorecats · 26/02/2024 19:57

@GetWhatYouWant like you I do leave windows or at least trickle vents open, and also use a heated dryer.

Hugmorecats · 26/02/2024 19:56

@GetWhatYouWant does your mum work ft? Just wondering as even working from home there’s a very limited number of days I can get the washing outside to dry. It’s rare in many parts of the country to get a totally rain free day apart from maybe 2-3 months a year. And if I was having to drop the kids off at school and then get to a separate workplace, there would be no time at all to run a wash and get it out on the line before leaving for work.

BlueFlowers5 · 26/02/2024 19:47

I think it's the energy costs. Having a bath Vs heating a room.

GetWhatYouWant · 26/02/2024 19:33

RunningThroughMyHead · 26/02/2024 18:58

You dry clothes inside with multiple windows open in the winter? I'm struggling to see how they dry overnight.

Yes that's right. Is it so surprising, been doing it for decades. All my upstairs rooms have the window open all the time, obviously in winter I don't open them wide, my windows have a small window part so that's open all year round. I have a tumble dryer but there are some clothes that can't go in it and I dry them on an airer in the spare bedroom. I'm just about to put a wash on of clothes that can't be tumbled, they'll go on the airer and will be dry in the morning. The heating will go off about 11.30 tonight but there will be residual heat in the room.

Navyblueblazer · 26/02/2024 19:06

As someone who lives outside the UK now, when I visit there is a noticeable increase in obesity, overweight people and a very casual attitude to clothing and appearance among a lot more people. I grew up in a working-class household in a working-class area - it was rare for people not to be house proud and take care of their appearance. In fact, it was the middle class at school and work who seemed to be much more relaxed and "scruffy". I know people are financially struggling now but also the lack of social cohesion within families and neighborhoods is very obvious. People were poor in the past, but many had support and encouragement from extended family and those around them. Now I see people in my old neighborhood accepting much lower standards of dress, cleanliness and behaviour. I do think people are overwhelmed, and demoralized.
There is a lack of hope for the future and general malaise everywhere. The closing down of so many high sts and community resources (hospitals, libraries, banks etc.) in many areas adds to the impression of a struggling society.

CloudySheep · 26/02/2024 19:03

I've definitely become scruffier and couldn't care less if I'm wearing makeup since Covid. That being said. We sold our house last year and the place was spotless for viewings. We had some professional cleaners do a deep clean before photos and then kept on top of it before viewings. It was the most miserable time of my life and after 2 failed sales, we took a low ball offer as soon as it came in because we couldn't face another month of cleaning for viewings.

RunningThroughMyHead · 26/02/2024 18:58

GetWhatYouWant · 26/02/2024 18:51

With regard to musty smelling clothes people these days seem to have an aversion to hanging clothes on the line to dry. Loads of people never used to have tumble dryers so hung the washing out, my mum has never had a tumble dryer and lives in rainy Wales, but looks at the weather forecast and hangs her washing out to dry all year round. Obviously she has to sometimes dry things indoors but mainly hangs them out.
Also these days people don't seem to iron their clothes much, when you iron clothes which are a bit damp it dries them out so they don't need to hang on the airer so long to dry. Combi boilers also mean that often people don't have airing cupboards which are very useful for helping to dry things properly, I had a new boiler, chose not to have a combi and kept my loft tanks and airing cupboard for that reason.
Very many people rarely open their windows these days either which must surely add to the mustiness and damp when drying clothes indoors. I have noticed that lots of my neighbours hardly ever open their windows, their houses must be so stale. I keep my upstairs windows open all year round, and if I'm drying clothes on an airer I open it in that room too, they are dry overnight so no mustiness.

You dry clothes inside with multiple windows open in the winter? I'm struggling to see how they dry overnight.