To lose my temper at MIL

1. I’m not ignoring it, you keep banging on about it.
2. Its not helpful or relevant to keep going on about something so hurtful.

Are you actually going to address my comment? And if not, why are you quoting me?

You are full of shit. Honey.

OP, if you have had mcs have a look on Tommys website about progesterone prescription- 400-800mg a day reduced mcs by 40 percent in the first trimester. print it out and take it to your doctor, so if you get pos again, you can call up and start progesterone immediately, it also reduces early labour risk in second and third trimester

If you look at the most recent meta-analysis, they included two studies which found and increased risk and three which didn't. (Table 2)
https://www.maedica.ro/articles/2023/3/2023_18(21)_No3_pg463-469.pdf
Even the ones which did, the increased risk was mainly EBF which the OP is unlikely to be doing at 15 months.

Personally, I think anyone is mad to choose to breastfeed for longer than 6 months, but it's none of your mother in law's business and your DH needs to be telling her that.

Again, why are you determined to ignore basic facts of biology?

Again, why are you determined to hurt someone suffering a loss?

*other hormone is oxycontin that is injected to induce labour and after birth to induce uterine contractions, in nature oxycontin is produced naturally by nursing.

Based on the article you linked to, it would seem they would be better off advising women to mix feed, including breast milk, as that has a lower rate of miscarriage than not including breast milk.

I am so sorry op. If you are trying for a new baby do consider stopping breastfeeding,there is a slight connection of miscarriage,breastfeeding hormone is prolactin where for pregnancy you need progesterone which is surpressed during nursing, prolactin also causes uterine contractions (hence why its great to nurse as soon as baby is born for uterus to contract and start to return to its original position)

i am high risk pregnant for many reasons and tried once to nurse and fall pregnant. I lost that pregnancy in the first trimester. My ob advised to stop nursing completely,and i had a baby with the next pregnancy

Do you understand scientific research? The article you linked to, claiming it supported your position that the op's breastfeeding is likely to be a cause of her miscarriage, directly contradicts it. Complementary feeding which includes breastfeeding results, according to your article, in lower rates of miscarriage than that observed in women who do not breastfeed.

Did you know ivf clinics wouldn’t then turn around and blame a woman suffering a loss. Stop being so bloody horrible.

Did you know IVF clinics still require women to have stopped BF before any transfers as it can impact success?

I’m not clear why your husband told her?

This is from the link you’ve just posted

”Results:The results revealed that breastfeeding during pregnancy appeared to be unrelated to pregnancy outcome and miscarriage risk, notwithstanding the need for caution in women at risk of preterm birth and high-risk pregnancies.”

It was an extremely callous thing to say. Losing it was totally understandable. I'm sorry for your loss OP

Did you know IVF clinics still will tell women to stop BF before going through any additional transfers?

Do you think they’re ignorant to the facts here?

And mil was.
End of story.
Youre purposely trying to hurt someone suffering a loss. Shame on you.

do you understand the impact of Oxytocin in early pregnancy?

If your MIL had read the information that does indicate a higher risk when EBF, she may well have been misguided in her claim. She was crass and reactionary in her comment, but not totally incorrect.
Did she know you were pregnant considering your DC was conceived via IVF which she helped fund? Being told about the miscarriage over the phone may well have blindsided her hence her response. That doesn’t make what she said any less hurtful of course. She is misinformed about certain things, but then so are many women who have had children 30+ years ago, as they (myself included) would have been told different things when they were pregnant. One example is, the midwives in hospital 40 years ago when DD1 was born all laid the babies on their sides to sleep. That was considered good practice. We now know differently. No doubt in another 40 years things will be different again.
So what you have to ask yourself is, do you accept that people can get things wrong and move on, or do you choose not to and cut them out of your lives.

It's the article you linked to and claimed that it supported your position. It doesn't. It actually contradicts your position. Doubling down makes you look ignorant or a deliberate shit stirrer. I'm betting on ignorant

The OP asked if she was being unreasonable, did she not?

@Dancingtuna you are embarrassing yourself now.

You linked to a study which doesn't back the claims you are making. In fact it explicitly contradicts them. Now you're saying "there are more studies" and calling people "honey" and have the audacity to still be talking about "facts".

I would be finding your ridiculousness hilarious if you weren't doing this on a thread started by a woman experiencing something distressing.

@Dancingtuna regardless of your views what do you hope to gain by going on like this? OP will obviously be emotional already and you’ve taken it upon yourself to try and hurt her more, why?