Air BnB CF?

I'm not sure I'd still want to go if having the adult children along is going to change the dynamic.

I don’t mean to be rude OP but are you actually going to use any of these suggestions and share the outcome or was it just a thread to see peoples opinions for no point at all?

Surely the fact that you and 4 other people are going to an air b&b at £120 a head is already outing, and anything else wouldn’t matter anyway?

I'd pull out as you just know the food/drink budget is also going to be split unfairly.

Its should be split by room. And since we have no idea on many rooms and how many adults per room, how many couples, singles..

What do the other friends think, do they agree you should all pay less?

If so, agree it between you and one of the friends who have not yet paid, pays £17.13 to the organiser and then £34.29 (so £68.58 in total) each to the 2 friends that have already paid.

Message organiser to let them know or even better pop it in a group chat with you all included and add the adult kids if you have their numbers!

On the face if it, it's obviously cheeky fuckery. But you're being so obviously secretive about rooms that I think there's some mitigating factor you're keeping deliberately quiet to make him look bad. For instance, why would you and your husband have separate rooms?

Ps if the organiser refuses I would pull out, pointing out that the adult children will now have to pay £60 each to cover the £120 the organiser originally asked for from you.

I think you all need to make sure you are saying the same thing to the organiser. Those that haven’t paid only pay the reduced amount. Those that have already paid ask for a refund. The adult children are paying less than £30 a day for three days accommodation, that is very reasonable.

I'd pull out of the arrangement now if I were you. The person organising it is obviously a cheeky cunt.

CF indeed, people count on others being too polite to say anything. I'd be texting back and ask that they recalculate the amounts as an extra 2 adults will be coming along

It pays CFs to be prickly. That’s how they get away with it!
Id just pay the lower price and say you’re paying 1/7.
Then they can prickle away, which you should ignore.

If it sleeps ten but theres only 5 rooms then thats a double bed per room or two singles in some..

So who is going to be sharing with his kids?

Message that you’ll transfer the £85 or would they rather you put your share into directly refunding the others who’ve already paid.

Your posts don't give enough information.to say for sure OP

Is your husband going ? How can he have a link but not know how many bedrooms there are, that doesn't make sense

Well, I think it depends.

I organised a thing for myself and some cousins. We're in our fifties. Two brought their adult offspring, who yes, are over 21 and yes, do have jobs. But their jobs are like bar staff, or part time shop assistant. So there was no way any of us expected them to pay. The rest of us are professionals with decent incomes. So it felt fine to me that we all subsidised the "kids".

More details needed from the op I think.

You've been had @Jbrown76 , the CF booker planned this from the start.

Depending on your relationship with them, I'd either:

1. Not pay and not go
2. Just pay the £87 each
3. Do as @OccamsRaiser says: “Since we are yet to pay, would you like us to reimburse the additional £34 to Person A and Person B who have paid, and send the balance to you CF?”

If you pay the £120 each and still go, they will continue to take the piss during the holiday. You'll end up splitting bills 5 ways instead of 7 etc. You'll end up paying for rounds of drinks for their adult offspring who won't buy anyone back a round etc. Cheeky Fuckers.

So much more info needed - 5 adults? Are any of those in couples? Because 2 couples plus CF means you have 2 spare bedrooms. (Assuming sleeps 10 means 5 bedrooms but please tell us!) Doesn’t mean that the kids go for free but I would be more worried about the sleeping arrangements being compromised than £45

Does CF think he can get away with this as he is going with 2 couples and his kids are therefore part of his party?

OP you really need to provide more info. If you can’t provide enough info because it may be ‘outing’ then don’t start a thread. Because you’re not answering any questions and it’s very confusing. Do we even know if your DH is going?

I bet sleeps 10 means four double beds and a double sofa bed in the living room.

“Since we are yet to pay, would you like us to reimburse the additional £34 to Person A and Person B who have paid, and send the balance to you CF?”
job done?

You can change your vote!

Ok. It’s been established that this is CFery. There are unanswered questions, but leaving that aside; what are you going to do or say OP? You’ve now had a chance to think of a response.

if it was me and I was now concerned about the whole arrangement (and I suspect you are) I’d just pull the pin to avoid the whole drama.

Sorry, I voted YABU by accident. YADNBU !

You say not everyone has paid? I would be tempted to suggest you all pull out and those of you who have not paid refund those who have between because I am petty and would rather do this than subsidise complete piss takers.

Of course those who have paid should try and get the money back from the organiser who has moved the goal posts but do not hold out any hope. It is infuriating but do not buy into the whole 'sunk cost' thing. I am assuming there will be added costs to travel, when you are there so best to cut your losses now. No doubt it will continue when there.

OP, you asked if the person who booked the AirBnb is being a CF.

470 out of 473 people have voted yes. Every person who’s written an answer has said yes. JOB DONE. The answer’s yes.

I’m unclear if you were planning on doing anything about it. If you wanted support, everyone has told you he’s morally wrong. He has made a unilateral decision that changes your vacation, its dynamic (friends catching up unrestricted vs adult friends and some of their adult children), and its cost while insisting you pay the original cost.

You can take any comment’s advice and it will be right: pay him the lower amount; tell the group chat it’s a lower amount now that it’s seven people; pay a lower amount but split it between him and people who have already paid a higher amount so that they will have effectively paid a lower amount too; don’t go because you don’t want a different dynamic and the price will still be the same as there are now two more adults to replace you and your husband and POINT THAT OUT before you bow out and he tries to charge anyone more; or any other suggestion.

But I don’t recommend just quietly seething and doing nothing. The weekend will be ruined because you will not be completely able to let go of your resentment and his adult children will be a constant reminder, ESPECIALLY if they’re in a bedroom and someone paid £120 for a sofa bed.

If you know the location and you can find it on AirBnB, you could approach the owner/renter with a vague question about additional guests that wouldn't be included in the original booking and what their policy is on that.