To think she shouldn't put him in tights?

OK so I only read the first thread not 24 pages about tights.

So with that in mind:

Based on info in original post I don't think tights in February on a boy is a problem

Based on fact that child is too hot abd doesn't want to wear them then I would have a problem with that of course

Totally fine for a disabled child to be made to be hot, uncomfortable, itchy and irritable?

Fine for a FC to not notice or care what a child she is trusted with needs?

or fine for a FC to do whatever she wants despite what the mother, the SW and the nursery are telling her?

Thank you. That's very kind of you.

It was bewildering at the time. I was 7 yrs old and no one would explain what was wrong: an ambulance took Mum away in the middle of the night because she had a threatened miscarriage and she was placed on bed rest for a few months. Children weren't allowed to visit the maternity ward in those days. (1960s.)

Unfortunately, Mum eventually miscarried in the hospital.

When Mum got home, I vaguely recall her telling me that she'd been away because "ladies sometimes need something called a D&C". (My parents didn't want me to fret over a lost sibling. I was in my late teens before I got the full explanation.)

My very best wishes to your family member and her little boy. Thank you for supporting her. It makes all the difference.

Haven't read the whole thread but Iv seen tights mentioned on sen boards to stop child removing nappy or putting hands in the nappy constantly or to smear

Yep, the disabled non verbal child just needs to speak up. Thank heavens you’ve pointed that out.

He doesn't like wearing them the nursery takes them off when he gets there and puts them back on before pick up time. Did you only read ops first post and then comment? There is 23 pages and you can press on see all to read only the ops posts.

I used to put my boys in tights under their trousers when they were at the sock pulling-off stage

Put your children in tights and leave everyone else to decide thank you.

Most people in the UK don't put boys in tights perhaps

4 year olds don't notice what others are wearing so it's rubbish that other kids at school or nursery are laughing at him.

Loads of boys wear tights in countries across Europe there even have ones with cars, rockets, dinos etc on.

Totally fine if you ask me

@Lumiodes

If the child has been taken into foster care then tights are the least of his problems. If Mum wants to decide what he wears then maybe don’t get him taken off you?

She has cancer. Fucking hell.

Hopefully you're embarrassed by your post.

@lovelysoap

Children are only taken into foster care as a very last resort. There is a huge lack of foster care spaces and they only go to the children most at risk of immediate serious harm and when there are no other suitable family members who are even able to care for the child on a temporary basis. Things generally need to be rock bottom for a child to be in foster care and not even dad or any of dads extended family or friends can care for the child. Parental responsibility now lies with the local authority as Mum and dad and no friends or relatives can keep this child safe.

My advice would be to face up to and try and engage and work with the FC and SW on the real issues that prevent this child living and thriving with his birth family.

Jesus Christ.

She. Has. Cancer. That's the 'real issue'. She's done nothing to deserve this.

An apology to the OP wouldn't go amiss due to how awful your post was.

I'm staggered at the number of people who think children only go into foster care because they have rubbish parents.

The child is non-verbal so can't say anything.

It's not "completely normal" if it's causing discomfort to the child.

If a child is too warm, they should say something and it be addressed, or nursery staff seal with it. tights seems sensible in cold weather, not wearing them because they are culturally associated with the female sex is ridiculous.

Most people don't put boys in tights.

Agreed.

I've been in secondary teaching for 40 yrs. I've seen some amazingly wonderful foster carers. I've also seen some who treated fostering as just another source of income.

Apologies. I referred to the mum as your sister in my previous comments. Thank you for supporting her.