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Is he too full-on or is this just normal interest?

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Pizzzzza · 23/02/2024 18:01

Yesterday met a guy for coffee for a couple of hours, a friend of a friend who I've already spoken to a bit.
He seemed nice enough, wouldn't say there was a massive spark but we had a great conversation.
After leaving we texted a bit and then he told me he's going to see a film tomorrow evening (I'm working) and joked i would've been welcome to join if I hadn't been working/it was a bit out of my way. I just sent a polite reply.
Anyway he's just texted me 30 minutes ago saying he'd really like to see me again next week if I'm free , we could go see a film or just hang out.
Not sure if he's being too full on or am I just not into him?

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tigger1001 · 23/02/2024 18:06

Not full on at all. But you aren't interested, so just let him know

JamSandle · 23/02/2024 18:05

If you aren't interested it doesn't really matter if his level of interest is normal or not. It doesn't raise red flags to me but it may not sit quite right with you. You might want to get to know him over time with a meeting once a week for example.

Pizzzzza · 23/02/2024 18:05

egowise · 23/02/2024 18:04

That's not full on at all.

Tell him you aren't feeling it.

I don't know why but if I had said that to him people would've been saying it's full on.

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Hadalifeonce · 23/02/2024 18:04

Just tell him you're not interested, in a nicer way. No point in making him think this might become something in the future.

egowise · 23/02/2024 18:04

That's not full on at all.

Tell him you aren't feeling it.

Pizzzzza · 23/02/2024 18:03

EnoughNow2023 · 23/02/2024 18:03

If you don't want to see him again just tell him. No point making excuses

I don't want to hurt his feelings.. does he sound OTT or just normal interest? I can't tell. He hasn't said anything else.

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EnoughNow2023 · 23/02/2024 18:03

If you don't want to see him again just tell him. No point making excuses

Pizzzzza · 23/02/2024 18:01

Shall I just say I'm busy and hope he gets the hint?

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