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Partner makes me feel ugly

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WhyWhyY · 23/02/2024 16:52

I am coming to terms with leaving, but sometimes I second guess myself.

AIBU, one of my children is going through a teenage phase and sometimes her emotions get the better of her. She was being spiteful one day and said
”you’re ugly even dad thinks so” and when I recounted this to my partner he just laughed. Nothing more.

A week later I came home with a new haircut and child said I looked weird (I know I know but hormones are coming in and I try to let it go) but again, he didn’t say anything he just laughed and went back to his computer.

we haven’t had sexual relations in years and he’s not very loving to me at all in any other way but I’m so full of self doubt.

is this normal? Am I being sensitive?

he’s very loving towards our kids, tells them they are beautiful etc so it’s not as if he’s just that way sigh

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Sealover123 · 23/02/2024 17:03

Your kids are being very rude to you. I would tell them to stop with their hurtful comments and treat you with respect. Sounds like your husband doesn't want to get involved.

Goatymum · 23/02/2024 17:02

Not normal.

WhyWhyY · 23/02/2024 17:02

IncognitoUsername · 23/02/2024 16:59

Hormones are no excuse for being rude to someone in this way. Sounds like she’s picked up some nasty habits from her dad.

I agree and we have spoken about it, but if I’m honest it only lands because of how I feel anyway. Otherwise WHAT she said wouldn’t make much difference apart from being rude but to say that which was pretty true, really bit.

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IncognitoUsername · 23/02/2024 16:59

Hormones are no excuse for being rude to someone in this way. Sounds like she’s picked up some nasty habits from her dad.