Partner makes me feel ugly

Kid sounds like a twat who takes after their dad. Call them out

I’ve been with my dh 33 years—nothing but love and support and physical affection and sex even now in our sixties. Its not because im so beautiful! Im not! I never was. Im not so wonderful either—but he thinks I am! Don’t think that the difference between being unloved and loved is because of who you are or what you did. It is the difference between being with a good person who loves you and a bad person who keeps you around but hates you.
Get out and find a real lover/partner.

I’d leave the horrible, horrible man.

I feel sad for you. You don't deserve to be spoken to like that, not by anyone, and especially not your own children and partner.

But all is not lost, OP. You're finding your fire inside, because you have posted here - you know you are worth more than this. Listen to your inner voice telling you that. You can find the strength to put yourself first 💪🏻

Sorry your feeling so low and the people who should bring you up are putting you down. I know leaving isn't easy and your situation has challenges to making it happen. However I believe better single, happy and in love with yourself than living with someone who makes you feel so low xxx

The reason to have a partner is because it makes you both feel good. Otherwise, what's the point? A man should understand that if your life isn't improved by him being in it, he won't be in it much longer. I was chatting to a friend today and he said, "if you were my bird I'd be proud to take you out and show you off". That made me feel good (despite the use of the word "bird")! Nice words, compliments make you feel good. Insults, or a lack of appreciation make you feel bad. And you'd be justified in getting rid of this negativity.

Your kids are rude and you don't have a partner you have a roommate.

No it's not normal and yes you are worth more! You're right in saying relationships aren't always sunshine and rainbows, but in a good relationship you try to make it feel that way.

My partner and I compliment each other every day - 'I love that outfit on you', 'Your hair looks nice like that', 'Can't wait to see you later', etc.

On my ugliest days he makes me feel pretty and that's how it should be.

You should want that for yourself. Why wouldn't you. I think everybody wants to be loved. If you wouldn't want your kids to settle for what they are seeing then show them it's not enough.

Your also not too old. Have you watched first dates? Couples in their 90s looking for love again. I can imagine it's totally daunting and there's so much to consider logistically. I'm sure it won't be easy by any means but please don't think you have to settle and that the way your being treated is acceptable.

Just keep posting on here. You will get loads of support. Sending you strength.

This isn't what real long term relationships are like if they are healthy relationships.

Honestly you don't seem to have any relationship left and I think you should separate. I'm sorry

OP, your post makes me so sad.

You are not ugly and the people you love and should love you should not make you feel that way.

What your DH is doing is wrong and not normal. I've been with my DH 25 years and the love is still strong. Sure we have ups and downs but he still tells me I'm beautiful everyday, even when I feel like utter rubbish.

What others have said about your daughter is true. Your DH is rubbing off. My teenager would never say the things yours has. She would automatically compliment a new hairstyle ect and always says I look nice if I have made a particular effort. She's also got a boyfriend and I believe this one is going well because she knows her worth and sees DH and I being loving and considerate openly and that's what she wants for herself.

Please put yourself first. Don't just settle because your made to not feel good enough because you are.

Is DP the biological Dad?

Sorry op that's not normal at all. Not at all. How can your dh be a loving dad if he taught them all these horrible things. And unfortunately your dc have learnt this too. I would leave them just to get some space and to get your life back on track. Leave the door open for your dc but don't accept this treatment. My dh would never allow my dc to speak to me like that.

OP my heart is breaking reading this because that was what my marriage was like towards the end. My ex just didn't respect me, never wanted to spend time with me and never said or did anything nice for me. He clearly fell out of love with me but was too afraid to end it.

I do recommend leaving. My self esteem is so much better now I listen to my internal voice. I have built my confidence up piece by piece. My lids can still be difficult but they are also challenging me less as my confidence has grown.

No wonder you feel like that. Your self esteem must be quite low at the moment.

I would not stay because of money. You owe it to yourself and your children to do something. I'd start with zero tolerance with the rude behaviour.

You have to leave those fuckers. You can't let yourself be treated like shit. Stand up for yourself.

is this normal? Am I being sensitive?

No and no.

Your posts make me feel sad for you.

I just thought maybe that’s what real long term relationships were like

Dh and I have been married for over 42 years and he never treats me like that.
Unfortunately your teenager's role model is her dad, and it shows. I would never have been rude to my parents like this and DD would never have been this rude to me. She might jokingly say that something doesn't suit me, but she is never rude or malicious about it.

Please get everything in place so that you can leave. This will never get better.