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To be angry that Scarlet Blake is being called a woman.

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ArabellaScott · 23/02/2024 15:42

Scarlet Blake has been found guilty of murder. He also tortured and killed a cat.

He is not a woman.

This shouldn't be reported as a woman's crime.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-oxfordshire-68360122

Scarlet Blake

Cat killer Scarlet Blake found guilty of murdering Jorge Martin Carreno

Jorge Martin Carreno was pulled from a river after being killed by Scarlet Blake in 2021.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-oxfordshire-68360122

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ArabellaScott · 28/02/2024 08:53

LittleCharlotte · 28/02/2024 08:00

They are, but those who assault women are almost always men.
And when it comes to using the penis they are always men. Without exception.

Men are men. Anyone born with a penis is a man. Transwomen are men.

This is the only logical position.

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WomaninBoots · 28/02/2024 08:51

Anyone who thinks "being a woman" can be anything other than "being an adult human female" is, to some degree, a misogynist.

The misogyny and over-stepping women's boundaries and using women's spaces and women themselves for selfish purposes is absolutely baked in to basic concept of trans identification for males. (It's different the other way around because if the imbalance between the sexes).

SaltySoo · 28/02/2024 08:47

I don't think Bryson was trans.
The problem is that you don't get to decide that she isn't trans but your nice friends are trans.

WomaninBoots · 28/02/2024 08:47

Good decent normal people don't take other people's stuff.

TheKeatingFive · 28/02/2024 08:23

LittleCharlotte · 28/02/2024 07:59

It's not a contradiction from me. I don't believe my trans friends have suddenly magically become the opposite sex but I accept them as it because I know they're good decent normal people who wouldn't do this out of some sick desire.

I don't accept those who assault and abuse women as women because I don't think they are "transitioning" for anything other than sick desire/mysoginy.

As a criteria, 'what LittleCharlotte believes to be the case' can, by definition, only apply to your behaviour though.

It is not sufficient criteria to inform the behaviour of others. It is definitely not sufficient criteria for legal rights.

So absolutely fine if you want to affirm the fantasies of your friends, but that doesn't mean anyone else should be compelled to, or they should have rights to women's spaces. I'm not sure if you agree with that or not 🤷‍♀️

Ereshkigalangcleg · 28/02/2024 08:20

It's not a contradiction from me. I don't believe my trans friends have suddenly magically become the opposite sex but I accept them as it because I know they're good decent normal people who wouldn't do this out of some sick desire

You might. But a) I don't know your friends and I don't know whether they are a threat to me when I come into contact with them and b) I don't want to share female spaces with any males, however lovely.

AIstolemylunch · 28/02/2024 08:05

Exactly. So people with penises, such as this person, should be described as men and sent to male prisons when they comit crime and be counted in male crime statistics, not women's ones.

LittleCharlotte · 28/02/2024 08:00

ArabellaScott · 28/02/2024 06:56

I don't ever believe that men who assault or rape women are actually women. Ever

Trans people are just as likely to do good and bad as any other group of people. Males retain male patterns of offending.

They are, but those who assault women are almost always men.
And when it comes to using the penis they are always men. Without exception.

LittleCharlotte · 28/02/2024 07:59

TheKeatingFive · 28/02/2024 03:52

But there's a contradiction here, isn't there? The message I've heard is that you are trans if you say you are - no exceptions.

So if Isla or Scarlet say they're Trans, who are we to say they aren't? There is no criteria, that I have seen, that can be applied that negates their status.

It's not a contradiction from me. I don't believe my trans friends have suddenly magically become the opposite sex but I accept them as it because I know they're good decent normal people who wouldn't do this out of some sick desire.

I don't accept those who assault and abuse women as women because I don't think they are "transitioning" for anything other than sick desire/mysoginy.

Froodwithatowel · 28/02/2024 07:42

DuesToTheDirt · 27/02/2024 22:33

This is the danger: people see trans women represented by these horrors and think this is what trans women are. It isn't.

I don't think that's what all transwoman are like; neither do I think that all men are like Wayne Couzens. But some are. And there is the problem.

Precisely. Its ridiculous to try to pretend that a male with a TQ+ identity who does something abhorrent is suddenly not really TQ+, or that we mustn't notice male people with TQ+ identities when one of them does something abhorrent because it apparently risks people believing that all male people with TQ+ identities are criminals.

This is a population of males, with the same offending rates as males, and in terms of prison population the facts have to be faced that a higher rate of male prisoners with TQ+ identities are sex offenders. It's a fact; that this causes difficult feelings makes no difference. And these cases, and males with TQ+ identities appearing in the press for awful crimes, are not rare and unusual, there's several a year at the moment and those are just the ones severe enough to get into the national press and be well known.

It is what it is, but it means that women should not be forced to pretend that these crimes have been committed by a typical female as opposed to a male with a TQ+ identity, and that safeguarding for women and the gatekeeping of their spaces should not be relaxed to admit male people with TQ+ identities. Additional facilities will be needed to extend the range of provisions to meet the needs of all men. Prisons, hospital wards, toilets and changing rooms, refuges. And yes, I'm sure it's upsetting to a male with a TQ+ identity that he cannot have free access to women's spaces because of Katie D, Isla B, Scarlet B, Karen W, yada yada yada, but the answer is to sort out the sex offending and behaviour to women in his sex class. Not wail at women to just take the risks and assaults for his sake.

GlitteryUnicornSparkles · 28/02/2024 07:31

Missed the poll but YANBU

ArabellaScott · 28/02/2024 06:56

I don't ever believe that men who assault or rape women are actually women. Ever

Trans people are just as likely to do good and bad as any other group of people. Males retain male patterns of offending.

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TheKeatingFive · 28/02/2024 03:52

LittleCharlotte · 27/02/2024 22:11

I don't think Bryson was trans. I think there are a lot of men who claim to be because they get a kick out of it. This is the danger: people see trans women represented by these horrors and think this is what trans women are. It isn't. Obviously everyone is entitled to their opinion, and I'm not policing people's thoughts, but personally I accept there are genuine trans people and whether I believe they've turned into the opposite sex or not I accept them as that.

I don't ever believe that men who assault or rape women are actually women. Ever.

But there's a contradiction here, isn't there? The message I've heard is that you are trans if you say you are - no exceptions.

So if Isla or Scarlet say they're Trans, who are we to say they aren't? There is no criteria, that I have seen, that can be applied that negates their status.

DuesToTheDirt · 27/02/2024 22:33

This is the danger: people see trans women represented by these horrors and think this is what trans women are. It isn't.

I don't think that's what all transwoman are like; neither do I think that all men are like Wayne Couzens. But some are. And there is the problem.

LittleCharlotte · 27/02/2024 22:11

ArabellaScott · 27/02/2024 17:15

Yes.

Criminals have had their sentences lessened and commuted because of their 'trans' status.

'Transgender woman is spared six months in jail for threatening man with a claw hammer in Budgens because judge says he does not know whether to send her to a male or female prison'

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-8050985/Transgender-woman-spared-jail-attacking-man-claw-hammer.html

Further to that, criminals' trans status is obfuscated or hidden or denied:

Andrew Miller/Amy George - initially reported as a man despite having lived for many years as 'Amy George'.

Scarlet Blake - reported as a 'woman' and his sex concealed.

Isla Bryson - several politicians insinuated that he is not 'genuinely' transgender.

I don't think Bryson was trans. I think there are a lot of men who claim to be because they get a kick out of it. This is the danger: people see trans women represented by these horrors and think this is what trans women are. It isn't. Obviously everyone is entitled to their opinion, and I'm not policing people's thoughts, but personally I accept there are genuine trans people and whether I believe they've turned into the opposite sex or not I accept them as that.

I don't ever believe that men who assault or rape women are actually women. Ever.

BobbyBiscuits · 27/02/2024 20:40

Having thought about it more, I actually think that if someone commits murder or rape, they should lose the right to 'legally' transition. Obviously they can dress how they like but people don't have to call them the opposite sex, pronouns/ new name etc and they are treated legally as the birth gender. Same as a murderer/ rapist changing their name. Should not be allowed. As condition of your sentence.

ArabellaScott · 27/02/2024 17:15

WomaninBoots · 27/02/2024 16:07

I think it has already been noted on this thread but it is worth repeating...

Notice that when the victim of the sadistic murder was trans we heard all about the trans status immediately, everywhere, front and centre.
Notice that when the trans person is the murderer he is described almost entirely as a "woman" and the fact of the trans status is either omitted altogether or hidden deep in the text, behind a protective screen of graphic descriptions of the fate of the poor cat in a lot of cases. I know a number of people said they couldn't read past the bit about the cat and therefore had no clue that this wasn't actually a woman.

Yes.

Criminals have had their sentences lessened and commuted because of their 'trans' status.

'Transgender woman is spared six months in jail for threatening man with a claw hammer in Budgens because judge says he does not know whether to send her to a male or female prison'

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-8050985/Transgender-woman-spared-jail-attacking-man-claw-hammer.html

Further to that, criminals' trans status is obfuscated or hidden or denied:

Andrew Miller/Amy George - initially reported as a man despite having lived for many years as 'Amy George'.

Scarlet Blake - reported as a 'woman' and his sex concealed.

Isla Bryson - several politicians insinuated that he is not 'genuinely' transgender.

Transgender woman is spared jail for threatening man with claw hammer

Leila Le Fey attacked a Budgens store manager in Brighton with a claw hammer last year. Her lawyer said she would be sent to a male prison as she did not have a Gender Recognition Certificate.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-8050985/Transgender-woman-spared-jail-attacking-man-claw-hammer.html

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Froodwithatowel · 27/02/2024 16:42

Yes. The facts are always used as a tool to serve the agenda.

SomeCatFromJapan · 27/02/2024 16:21

@WomaninBoots that is such a good point.

WomaninBoots · 27/02/2024 16:07

BobbyBiscuits · 27/02/2024 12:00

It seems weird the narrative was always they were female. Not a trans-woman, just woman. It took me a while to realise they were trans.
It should have been made more clear they are trans-woman. They are being held in a male jail, which is good. But yeah, I agree it seems weird and wrong. Other trans murderers have been referred to as men or at least trans.

I think it has already been noted on this thread but it is worth repeating...

Notice that when the victim of the sadistic murder was trans we heard all about the trans status immediately, everywhere, front and centre.
Notice that when the trans person is the murderer he is described almost entirely as a "woman" and the fact of the trans status is either omitted altogether or hidden deep in the text, behind a protective screen of graphic descriptions of the fate of the poor cat in a lot of cases. I know a number of people said they couldn't read past the bit about the cat and therefore had no clue that this wasn't actually a woman.

Davros · 27/02/2024 13:51

tennesseewhiskey1 · 27/02/2024 09:55

To this guy is a bloke and a sick one at that. He will not do well in the male prison he’s being sent to. I don’t feel a little bad for him even.

He will be fine. He's a big geezer

LittleCharlotte · 27/02/2024 13:37

pickledandpuzzled · 27/02/2024 12:51

Jorge would have been in no doubt Scarlett was male. The PP was suggesting a woman would not have gone to the dark, isolated river place with jorge.

Thanks for clarifying.

kerstina · 27/02/2024 13:24

I heard the news the other day and took it at face value it was a woman.i remember thinking that’s a very unusual case for a women to do that especially with the cat. I didn’t catch that she was a he until later on that day. Whatever sex the person is evil.

pickledandpuzzled · 27/02/2024 12:51

LittleCharlotte · 27/02/2024 10:57

Like others, I was shocked by these crimes being committed by a woman - and the minute I saw "Scarlet" I realised it wasn't. The worst thing I've heard a woman doing to a cat was throwing it in the bin.

Whoever said that Jorge wouldn't have gone to the river with a man was spot on. Also a big part of the defence was that Scarlet couldn't have overpowered the poor sod. Scarlet is biologically a man, no matter how he identifies. Ultimately, it's that that matters.

I believe that genuine trans people exist. I have one in my family (although I think decent therapy & support with autism would have helped a lot more than transitioning, given that nothing has changed in her life apart from the obvious). I have trans friends. I have no problem accepting them as having transitioned. But if they committed crimes - these would STILL be crimes of their biological sex.

I have written to the police force investigating this horror and asked them if "Scarlet"'s case has been recorded as a male or female crime.

For @Erin394 - I am genuinely sorry you were treated the way you were as a child. I remember my brother playing with my Barbies, and my parents taking no issue with it. It's how it should be. Men can wear make up if they want, and more should if they so wish. Gender stereotypes should be disrupted - but not by just assuming you must be born in the wrong body. That's anything but disrupting them (cf: "non binary" - "I'm not like other boys/girls" - yes you ARE, you just have your own way of doing things, and that's fine, but it doesn't stop you being a man/woman).

For the record though I've never painted my mouth to make it resemble my vulva (the vagina is internal. The vulva's the bit you see). I've painted my mouth because I love make up and colour. That's all.

Interestingly, the only person who I've ever heard that from - the "lipstick to make your lips look like your fanny" claptrap - was a man. Go figure.

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Jorge would have been in no doubt Scarlett was male. The PP was suggesting a woman would not have gone to the dark, isolated river place with jorge.

Winter2020 · 27/02/2024 12:44

It is crazy how the articles can be "woman" this and "woman" that when referring to Scarlett but Scarlett is going to a men's prison because - when it comes down to it "she" is actually a man. Always has been, always will be.

There is no denying the biological fact (that Scarlett is a man) so despite all the inaccurate language when allocating the prison they have to remember they are allocating the type of "woman" that is a man.

I agree that the articles leave people confused whether Scalett is a woman - or if people spot the trans sentences they could equally think Scarlett was born a woman and transitioned to be a man.