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School detention for forgetting a ruler?

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Wizardo · 22/02/2024 11:04

Just interested - how many people have secondary school aged kids whose school gives a detention for forgetting basic equipment like a ruler?

I wonder does it really teach kids to be organised. Surely it just means disorganised people get lots of detentions? And feeds anxiety?

My schooling in the 90s felt pretty strict but this seems borderline bonkers. My dd currently “can’t borrow a school library book for the rest of the year” as she’s so anxious about getting a detention because she handed her last book in two weeks late. So now we are visiting our local library instead to provide her with books to read! I have obviously told her to just get the detention over and done with but she is adamant and determined to avoid it.

vote Yabu for No detention given
and Yanbu for Detention given.

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FunLurker · 22/02/2024 11:13

They get a negative/behaviour point and 3 strikes and detention. This could be for forgetting a stationery item, having shirt untucked, walking wrong side of corridor anything really. But if caught vaping they just get isolation for 1 day. Fighting is isolation for 1 day. Swearing is also a negative. They get positives for holding doors open and handing books out, which is basic manners really

Bluevelvetsofa · 22/02/2024 11:11

Multiply that by ten, each lesson and it gets really annoying.

Ace56 · 22/02/2024 11:11

Tbf she deserves a detention for handing in a library book 2 weeks late - that’s what I would expect to happen. YABU for pandering to her by using the local library instead - she should just get the detention over with (consequences for her actions) and get on with it!

With the ruler I think it depends how many times it had been forgotten. Once is a bit OTT but several times fair enough.

Maxus · 22/02/2024 11:08

It depends. How many times has your child forgot something? In our school if they forget equipment 3 times they get a detention. Seems fair, why should teachers have to provide equipment?

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