Announce husbands cheating in WhatsApp group (other woman is in it and l will name her)

Wait so we can do whatever the fuck we want before we get married. Once the certificate is signed, then you're committed and having sex with others is a no-no?

l was pregnant when we got married

Honestly, pages and pages of drama.

Hope you kicked them both to the curb and are making a fabulous life for you and your child.

I'm not sure I've understood. Do you mean you've literally just found out about something that happened before you married? How did you find out? Were you and your DH already together when it happened? How come he seems so relaxed about it? Perhaps he feels it's all in the past? Do you now have a child together? Is this the only reason you want to leave him? Is he a good father?
It just seems that you're very angry and looking to have a maximum impact but I'm not at all sure what this would achieve and I really agree with others that it rips apart your dignity.

I vote don’t do it and get your ducks in a row. Cool, calm and collected as best you can and get yourself as financially secure as you can. Gather your true friends and family around you and make plans for a life without him.

Chances are people in the WhatsApp group know so who cares about telling them. If it’s to shame them both I doubt they’ll be shamed.

Having been through something very similar I am so so sorry for you but you have an exciting future ahead, I promise.

Yeah, apparently people like you, who think it’s fine to cheat on your partner as long as you’re not married….

FFS 🙄

You have a DC with this creep? You need to think about the future because, unless he's one of those men who disappear out of your life and your DC's life, you will have to deal with him in the future. I'd say dignity is pretty important at this point. Make it plain how badly he has behaved, to your close friends but don't broadcast it unless he starts claiming non of it is his fault. They do that.

I would.

announce it…. Announce the divorce

Add a mic drop meme

exit the group

I think you'll feel better having not done it. Most people probably know and they are the 2 who look really bad already.

Yes ....never thought of it like that before but you are exactly right !!

So… did you do it? 😂

Sorry but as soon as you make a relationship exclusive you have made a commitment. This comment is ridiculous.

I’m not sure I would put it in a WhatsApp, that can be screen shot… but I might do a group WhatsApp call, tell everyone at the same time and then hang up and watch the car crash unfold. Nothing in writing, and it’s unlikely anyone would be recording the call ;)

I think it's fine to put it in the group and it gives you control of the narrative. Keeping it simple is good. You could literally say I'm leaving x due to the cheating with a mutual friend. Onwards and upwards! Good riddance to bad rubbish!

What are you thinking now, @TruthorDie?

I think the only problem will be the inevitable backlash from people that will insist it is not true and that you are just being petty in a divorce. So, proof would be a good thing to post with it.

Im so sorry this has happened to you

I Would 100% do It, you’ll only get this one chance, and better to regret doing it (why?) than keeping schtum, which is highly convenient for them. In all honesty I’d go further and say your husband had the cheek to try and mitigate by saying she’s had flings with one or 2 others, put in brackets that they know who they are, to cause everyone else to steer clear of them, and cause some pain for the 2 of them.

This. Keep dignified silence and don’t air your dirty laundry in public. You will be glad you did in the long run

You were pregnant - does that mean you have a child together?

I think divorces are hard on kids and you might want to have an amicable split if possible. If you can be civil with each other, the child would be better off. Calling him out on the WhatsApp group won’t help you achieve that. You are moving on and ending this relationship - this is the important part. Doing all this won’t help you move on and will be worse rather than helpful for your mental health.

I would.Cold hard facts, no emotion. Get your side out, show your disgust and move on. But only if you are never gonna get back with him, and if you are cutting these people out who probably knew anyway

Interesting if they do stay together and she ends up being your child's stepmother. Have you considered this?

Andcl what exactly is going to come out of all that? Think ! Move on. Deal with your relationship and how it is now.

Does he know you want a divorce? If I were you I’d make him think you might be willing to reconcile and ask to get a post-nup written and agreed.

Once you decide to leave it can get really messy. A post-nup is likely to be a lot less traumatic as he’s more likely to be reasonable at this stage.

Do it. Do it. Do it.

seriously though, they only benefit from you taking the high ground. Call them the heck out.

I’d do it in a heartbeat. Fuck dignity, pair of sneaky bastards. Why do you have to have dignity? Name and shame then leave the group.