Announce husbands cheating in WhatsApp group (other woman is in it and l will name her)

The OW should of and could of said no. It annoys me when the AP is seen as the innocent party because they werent the 1 married to the other person. They arent innocent, it takes 2 to tango and could of said, sorry no, you already have a partner. Simple really.

Did she say she was pregnant when they got married? A baby is one hell of a commitment - much more that a signed piece of paper…

sorry, I’ve clicked the wrong person to reply to. And I can’t delete this. Sorry

I think in the circumstances you should do this - and then say nothing more.

It will all come out in the end anyway, so it’s not as though you can hide what has happened.

This is just simple and truthful. No need for more explanations. It’s not your job to protect them from their actions - nobody else is protected.

Wow , I envy your level head. You have changed my mind about the vote actually because, yes, the fallout could impact the future relationship in dealing with the children . If there were no dcs involved I would definitely remain in the 'outing" camp.
I remember how much I 'let go' during my separation and subsequent divorce for the sake of the dcs, it was totally galling. In fact lots of people said that I was letting him off way too easily but I stuck to my guns in order that my dcs did not experience tension.
As with @flowerfairy6004 I would say that I won out in the end in lots of ways including the better relationship with my dcs.
That has to be worth it.

Agree. Why does he get to be undignified to the max and OP has to stay so proper? I wouldn’t think about it too much OP, just do it if the mood takes you. And please tell him I think he’s a wanker too.

…and he waited until you were married, to rid himself of the guilt, whilst hoping you wouldn’t be able to face doing anything about it? What a manipulative shit!

You're better off with out him OP.

Do it OP, it'll make you feel better.

I don’t think this will achieve the kick you want it to. But I understand why you Would want to do this.
I saw a video online and a woman was saying to not even tell your partner you know they are cheating. Don’t give them the satisfaction of it. But to break up with them face to face and give a list of reasons. All the reasons being things that they actually like about themselves 😂. Probably pettie and toxic but it made me laugh

I agree with this.

I think you should. Clear, simple, factual. Actions have consequences, they are about to find this out.

Haven’t read the whole thread so sorry if I’ve missed this but to those saying OP will regret it if she announces in WhatsApp, why will she? If she’s simply stating the facts?

Very sorry you’re going through this OP

It might lead to unintended consequences. Also there is a perspective about going higher when people go lower. Be the better woman and maybe only add your marriage breakup not naming anyone.

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What flowerfairy wrote in her first paragraph “finding out that someone you love and trust has betrayed you and doesn’t even feel sorry for their behaviour is humiliating and incredibly damaging for your self esteem.” Reword it to suit you because i think this if perfect.

Maybe do it as a sorta "intimation" -consequences of actions that were not your own,having discovered you were last to the party re-ex and whasap car crash you are in the unenviable position of sharing the details so there isnt any confusion or awkwardness when group inevitably hears of the split. no snide.just facts.

AGREE, my husband chose dignified silence with his ex wife and now the whole world seems to think he had the affair 😂😂😂

Did you just wake up today and decide to be so distastefully judgmental and presumptuous? Or are you just unkind as person? If you’d actually bothered to read what OP has written, you’d see that you’re wrong on every count.

It's reminding me of that subplot in Muriel's Wedding.

so has OP announced on WhatsApp or not?

you are totally not being unreasonable & since the WhatsApp is mainly his pals I would do it. I agree with an earlier poster that you should be factual letting them know you are splitting up because of this affair. Even as follow up do not get dragged into anything that could be perceived as slagging off in the group chat. You don’t want to say anything that portrays you as the ‘crazy ex’ but telling the facts shows him as the scumbag he is.

Nothing like people without basic comprehension skills posting nonsense!

You really should have bothered to read what she's said before posting. Together years; wedding postponed due to COVID; they chose to go through IVF in order to have a child together - and you call this a sorry, sordid marriage. Shame on you.

I think you’ll regret it in the end and I doubt you’ll get the reaction you expect. A better revenge is to walk away and don’t look back

I would absolutely message the group. When you split up everyone will be gossiping about it anyway so I believe they should all have the truth so there is nothing to gossip about. There’s no shame on your part, you are just putting the facts out there! Good luck with your divorce!

Name and shame