Upset that husband eats my leftovers

Does he not understand that unless your knife and fork are together, you haven't finished? He needs pulling up on his table etiquette, as well as being selfish.

I read parts of this thread to DH earlier. His response was disgust that any partner would happily help themselves to a half finished meal that the other hadn’t finished eating. We both find it very rude and it’s a total lack of respect for the other partner (male or female). It’s similar to the ‘the best bits’ threads we see on here which we find odd too. Neither one of us gives the other the best bits - we share equally if that makes sense.

Getting back to the OP why are you with him if he doesn’t treat you as equal and respect that food on your plate isn’t his to wolf down? I’m surprised that so many people put up with partners who eat everything in cupboards, eat children’s meals when they are at the loo during a meal and think it’s acceptable to eat things given as gifts.

We have never restricted food but we were brought up with restrictions on food. That doesn’t make us greedy with other food though as been suggested on this thread.

I couldn’t live with anyone who thought it was appropriate to eat food on my plate when I hadn’t finished eating.

Nah if a man came on here with this complaint about his wife, people would act like he was starving the poor woman 🤣

He would be dead courtesy of my fork in his eye if he was my husband. Happily mine is well aware of this, this isn’t even leftovers, it’s your actual fucking meal. Send him to deal with the kids then feed his to the dog and claim you ate it.

we also don’t eat each others leftovers unless by prior agreement (or unusual circumstances)

What on earth?!

He isn’t eating your leftovers, he’s eating your meal that you have had to momentarily leave.

That disgustingly rude, greedy behaviour. What is wrong with him?!

Would YOU ever just help yourself to someone else’s food, off their plate - while they’re off wiping a toddler’s bum or
something?

Exactly.

If a women had come on here to say she’d done exactly that, and her partner was getting annoyed, she’d be ripped to shreds.

But a women comes on to say her male partner does it, and people contort themselves into spaghetti, justifying it, and providing endless suggestion of how she should change her behaviour.

It’s boggling to me…. 🤯

1. she HAD said something. He still does it.
2. He’s an adult man. He KNOWS that you don’t just help yourself to other people’s food at the dinner table.

He doesn’t think it’s somehow abandoned or leftover food. He simply thinks he matters more and just helps himself.

Would YOU ever just help yourself to someone else’s food, off their plate - while they’re off wiping a toddler’s bum or
something?

This isn’t subtle stuff where there might be ambiguity. You just do not help yourself to other people’s food. You ask if you can have it. Every time.

He is not a small child who doesn’t know any better. He’s an adult man and a father.

It’s not up to the OP to say ‘don’t touch my food’.

That’s a given.

It needs to be driven into his thick skull that HE should ASK before taking.

You could say before you leave the table, I'm coming back for this so dont eat it. Or take your plate through cover it and say dont touchthis. . He probably genuinely thinks you've just left it as you don't want it any more. If you keep leaving it without saying anything then in his mind it's just left overs.
If you say something and he still does it, that's a different matter!

Greed is disgusting. Tell him if he steals your food again you won’t be touching his dick for a whole week afterwards. Maybe a month. He’ll soon stop doing it.

So you have already told him and he carries on doing it?
What are you going to do now, about his blatant disrespect?

You could cook him much bigger portions when it is your turn to cook, and any excess frozen afterwards.
But the food is not the issue. The way he treats you is the issue.

I’d be telling him he leaves the table to tend the child!
He is greedy selfish and dis respectful

It is absolutely greed. But people confuse greed with gluttony all the time.

Greed is about wanting more than is fair.

I don’t know why people are getting so triggered by the use of the word ‘greedy’ on this thread.

It’s not greedy to eat left-overs. They’re literally kept to eat.

But these aren’t leftovers! They’re the OP’s food that she hasn’t finished and wants to eat!

Yes - it absolutely IS greedy to eat your own food and half of your partners, depriving them of food they want to eat. That’s very greedy!

And if there are people on this thread who do it to other people (I highly doubt it), then maybe this thread is the wake-up call you need.

In the supermarket you can buy little shakers of Garlic granules. It sounds like you should use it on your food....Or you could always have a Small plate to cover your meal if you need to leave the table. Oh better still just dont give that person the pleasure of sharing a meal with. ' Will have to eat alone from now on!!!!!!!!!!!!

Pretty simple solution; until you place your cutlery side by side on your plate it's yours: once you place your cutlery, you're down and he can fill his boots?

This is the second thread in as many days for greedy men eating their partners food?!

WTF is wrong with them? They know they are in the wrong because they get all defensive…

Also OP his size and the fact that he’s a man has nothing to do with it - he’s a greedy fucker. And very rude.

Next time tell him to get off his arse and let you finish eating

Bizarre behaviour and disturbing that it's not just your DH with such entitled thinking. How disrespectful.

@kurotora you need to try and encourage your DH to get some therapy or something before you've also got a neurotic child on your hands as well. If she can't trust that her food is hers, god knows where that will end.

Is it? Would it be as funny if the man called his wife a fat fucker?

I sympathise OP! My DH doesn’t do this to me because I complained sharply about it (but loves any chance to say I’m “possessive” about food 🙄). He does it to our DD - now 3 - even though she often gets upset about it. She’s a difficult eater and does sometimes need to eat half and go back to it. I’ve told him off but get tantrums about “controlling his eating”. Garbage! Eat anything you want, get any snacks you want, but leave her plate alone!

He still does it if to me if I leave a can or bottle of drink out, he’ll always say “I threw it out it was almost empty” even when I knew there was at least half left. Even when told not to touch.

In his defence, he was the child of refugees and they grew up with food scarcity. Hes clearly neurotic about food and has trouble not overeating. He’s SE Asian and has become borderline overweight since we got together and food is now readily available.

^^This

let him get up from the table and let you finish eating

I have sympathy as we had a MASSIVE row about the same issue a few weeks ago. We were out and our son is normally a good eater but distracted by everything going on in the restaurant. I took my son to the toilet and while we were gone DH ate our five year old son's food! We got back and there was only a little left and DH had fork in his hand.

The row was because I gave our son some food later when we got home which DH thought I shouldn't have done as it was a delaying tactic at bed time. He said if he's hungry now he should have eaten his dinner properly!

Kids eat slowly and he didn't get a chance to finish it because Dad ate it all!

Greedy sod. He definitely needs it spelt out to him if you leave the table, Don’t touch my meal !

My DH had an annoying habit if we’re eating a sharer pack of crisps whilst watching the TV and I’m not eating them as quickly as him he’d ask if I’d finished with them ( so he could trough all the rest ) he’d been doing it for years and a couple of weeks ago I just lost it 😂
How about I’ll tell you when I’ve had enough of the snack without you keep asking me you greedy pig !
He’s stopped doing it now 😊