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To ask if Million pound lottery winner who refuses to share money with partner should have shared?

189 replies

SweetBirdsong · 21/02/2024 13:17

I am surprised this isn't on here actually. It's been on the news for 2 days, and has just been discussed on Loose Women.

From the article...

A couple are waging war over a £1 million lotto scratchcard they ‘purchased together’ weeks before breaking up.

Michael Cartlidge, 39, and former partner Charlotte Cox, 37, purchased the
Lottery card together at a shop in Spalding, Lincs. But when Charlotte walked out on Michael a few weeks later, she was deemed to be the sole winner of the jackpot by lottery chiefs.

Michael admits that Charlotte both paid for and scratched the ticket. But he also claims that he was the one who suggested she buy the ticket and attempted to transfer her cash to cover the purchase while they were in the shop.
He says the mum-of-one initially agreed to split the cash, but later welched on the deal after breaking up with him a few weeks later and claimed she was the sole winner of the jackpot.

He said ‘£1million has never brought such misery.’

So, was the woman (Charlotte) wrong to have kept all the money to herself? They were not married, they didn't own any property together or have joint finances, and they'd only been together 3 months. Lottery chiefs said she is the sole owner of the money and does not have to share it.

YABU - she was WRONG to keep the money and should have split it with him. They were 'a couple.' He didn't pay for the ticket, but they got it at the same time.

YANBU - she was RIGHT to keep it - as she paid for the ticket herself, and didn't need to share it. They'd only been together 3 months, they weren't married, and they didn't have a house together or joint finances.

https://metro.co.uk/2024/02/20/man-claims-ex-dumped-weeks-bought-winning-1-000-000-scratchcard-20311093/

Man claims ex dumped him weeks after they bought winning £1,000,000 scratchcard

'£1 million has never brought such misery.'

https://metro.co.uk/2024/02/20/man-claims-ex-dumped-weeks-bought-winning-1-000-000-scratchcard-20311093

OP posts:
Itsbeginingtolookalotlikexmas · 23/02/2024 11:01

He is violent scum so I don’t care if she morally owes him or not.

TwylaSands · 23/02/2024 10:41

I wonder how often he went to the shops without a means to pay for anything.

OneFrenchEgg · 23/02/2024 10:39

His story is the cctv shows him trying to transfer the money, the shop assistant recalls him doing this. My view is coloured by the people I see buying loads of cards and swapping teeny amounts of cash or discussing it.
Neither of them sound lovely, but I think they should split it.

T1Dmama · 23/02/2024 08:08

He attempted to transfer her a couple a quid?? Oh come on!!
He ‘encouraged her to buy it’… again ‘give over!’
If he’d wanted to buy one he’d have bought one too!
And let’s face it, if it was other way round I bet he’d have legged it with the money too… I think pretty much 99% of people would not share a million pound with someone they’d known 12 weeks!!

Rainbowshit · 23/02/2024 08:00

Dibbydoos · 22/02/2024 19:53

There is sufficient evidence of him either attempting to or actually funding the ticket.

I get they can only pay one winner unless its a syndicate but she will need to share it with him.

I think she's being greedy tbh.

I'd get this in court and prevent her spending the money ASAP if I was him. He'll find a lawyer to help him for a cut of the proceeds...

The money was transferred AFTER he knew there had been a significant win. His story about the payment sounds like a lie as others have said, it doesn't try again 40 mins later.

pokebowls · 23/02/2024 07:18

Depends. Did they say 'oooooo we should buy one' or did she just choose to buy one

YDBear · 23/02/2024 06:33

The one who paid for the ticket wins the prize. Unless all money within the family (I realize this isn't a family in this case) is communal--as it is in mine.

Riverlee · 23/02/2024 06:20

I recall that when the lottery was set up, syndicates (ie two ir more people) were advised to set up a contract. So st work, whenever we did a group entry, someone would print out a sheet which we would all sign to agree to sharing the winnings etc

HotChocolateNotCocoa · 23/02/2024 05:29

Well unpopular opinion but it seems it was his idea and she bought them at his suggestion.

And? SHE won!

HotChocolateNotCocoa · 23/02/2024 05:27

LindaHamilton · 23/02/2024 00:27

If this was reverse gender the responses here be very different and the consensus would be the money should be split.

After three months together? I disagree.

There is one big problem here, which is that posters have read about this man’s past and think they has a bearing on the outcome. It doesn’t. But I refuse to believe that people would side with a woman just because of her gender in this case. “I was also in the room” is a pretty pathetic defence, regardless of gender.

IfYourHorseSaysNo · 23/02/2024 00:50

LindaHamilton · 23/02/2024 00:27

If this was reverse gender the responses here be very different and the consensus would be the money should be split.

No. The reasons people think it is solely her winnings are because she bought the ticket and they had only been together for 5 minutes.

If they had been together 10 years, shared finances etc, I may think differently. Nothing to do with their gender sex.

ThirtyThrillionThreeTrees · 23/02/2024 00:47

He's an absolute chancer. Not a hope he would have split it if it was the other way around. 3 months? He's having a laugh.

TheGreatGherkin · 23/02/2024 00:42

I remember a few years ago where a woman in Scotland IIRC won a few million on the lottery and her ex husband (they were divorced) tried to claim half. He wasn't entitled to a penny. I did laugh.

LindaHamilton · 23/02/2024 00:27

If this was reverse gender the responses here be very different and the consensus would be the money should be split.

ftp · 23/02/2024 00:00

I think if he was giving me attitude and pressuring to split and demanding share, then I would walk away with the lot just for the aggro, especially as he stole it and tried to claim.
However, if they were shopping as a couple and he had suggested that they buy some tickets, then perhaps he did have some claim. But the act of transferring the cost of the ticket once he knew she had won is a bit aggressive.
But was she in the habit of buying tickets with her shopping before. I wonder?
Possibly if he had been a bit gentler about it, she may well have shared, or at least treated him. I wonder what she would have done if she had won just £20 or so - bet she would have spent it jointly.
Money like this does often make people act badly.

browneyes77 · 22/02/2024 20:41

Sparklesocks · 21/02/2024 13:46

As others said I bet he only tried to transfer the cash after she’d won. And I know every banking app is different but with mine the money instantly transfers or it doesn’t, it doesn’t do it 40 mins later. If there’s no signal then it will fail and you have to manually try again, but it won’t automatically retry itself some minutes later. Even if that’s true, the money didn’t clear at the time of purchase so she used her own cash to buy them.

i think he’s at it. And they aren’t married so I can’t see how he has legal grounds.

Exactly this.

My banking app (Lloyds) will transfer the money immediately but if there’s not signal the payment will fail. It wouldn’t just sit there for 40 mins trying to transfer the cash.

Simple fact is SHE bought the card. And was smart enough to put her name on it.

And I’ve read he’s up on an assault charge for his ex girlfriend, so if that’s true, I’d say we know all we need to know about this guy!

TheFretfulPorpentine · 22/02/2024 20:15

Dibbydoos · 22/02/2024 19:53

There is sufficient evidence of him either attempting to or actually funding the ticket.

I get they can only pay one winner unless its a syndicate but she will need to share it with him.

I think she's being greedy tbh.

I'd get this in court and prevent her spending the money ASAP if I was him. He'll find a lawyer to help him for a cut of the proceeds...

I doubt that any lawyer would touch the case on a 'no win, no fee' basis, because the chances of winning are minuscule.

THisbackwithavengeance · 22/02/2024 19:58

I've never seen such a load of bollocks in my life.

He's trying to portray himself as her partner.

He was a short term boyfriend who just happened to be in the shop with her when she bought a ticket.

I'm glad she told him to get fucked.

Dibbydoos · 22/02/2024 19:53

There is sufficient evidence of him either attempting to or actually funding the ticket.

I get they can only pay one winner unless its a syndicate but she will need to share it with him.

I think she's being greedy tbh.

I'd get this in court and prevent her spending the money ASAP if I was him. He'll find a lawyer to help him for a cut of the proceeds...

OneFrenchEgg · 22/02/2024 19:43

I disagree I see loads of couples pooling tiny amounts of cash in some areas to buy stuff. I guess I've formed an opinion which is fairly negative about them based on the article and what I see locally.

JustAnotherManicMomday · 22/02/2024 19:41

They didn't buy it, she did, and when have you ever seen a couple buy a scratchcard and the partner is offering to transfer half the price....NEVER. No doubt he tried to buy into it after she won. Then she probably ended it because he kept saying half of it was his when told it wasn't. So his now trying to get his 15 minutes of fame acting hard done by.

OneFrenchEgg · 22/02/2024 18:33

Well unpopular opinion but it seems it was his idea and she bought them at his suggestion. I often see couples buying reams of cards and transferring a couple of quid to each other plus the and I think they both sound unpleasant and should share.

IAmAnIdiot123 · 22/02/2024 18:19

CormorantStrikesBack · 22/02/2024 09:37

Because sadly there’s enough idiots out there to support his viewpoint. I saw this story on fb yesterday and 99% of the comments were saying she should have shared, she’s selfish, etc. men calling her names.

I imagine most didn't read the article and after seeing the word 'partner' assumed they had been together a long time. I thought it was a bit off until I actually read the article.

IAmAnIdiot123 · 22/02/2024 18:17

3 months? No I wouldn't share. 3 years? Possibly if the relationship ended naturally without cheating or abuse.

Greenshed · 22/02/2024 18:13

It sounds as if she has had a narrow escape if he’s facing charges for serious assault on an ex. He hasn’t got a leg to stand on, and no way should she be expected to share the money with him if she doesn’t wish to. He sounds a proper charmer.