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How do you feel about women that don't wear make-up -thread 2

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flutterby1 · 20/02/2024 07:41

Just wondering what your true JUDGY thoughts are? I don't wear makeup often I'm in my mid forties. How am I perceived? Lazy? Frumpy? Not caring? Boring? Can't be bothered to make an effort for others ? Or self confident enough not to ' need' it, regardless of how attractive you view yourself ?

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Happyher · 07/06/2025 17:09

I don’t wear it everyday if I’m not going anywhere. If I’m out with friends during the day it’s just mascara and lipstick. I only wear full makeup if I’m going somewhere special

MatildaMovesMountains · 07/06/2025 17:09

Are you nice? Clever? Energetic? Funny? Kind? Good at your job? Polite to shop staff? Those are the things that matter, not whether or not you wear makeup.

DPotter · 07/06/2025 17:06

I'm in my mid 60s and have never worn makeup - other than a very, very occasional smudge of eye shadow, which never seems to last for long. can't remember the last time I even had this on.

I simply don't like the feel of it on my skin, never have. If others want to wear it -fine, doesn't worry me. I don't like seeing heavy makeup, but that's more because I wouldn't like the sensation of wearing it myself.

If others want to judge me on my lack of makeup - I think that says more about them than about me. Each to his or her own

BethDuttonYeHaw · 07/06/2025 17:05

Do people really have negative opinions about women not wearing make up?

how very weird of them.

Echobelly · 07/06/2025 17:00

I don't wear makeup most of the time and it's never occurred to me to wonder about what people think about it. Generally I don't notice if a woman is wearing makeup or not and I think more women don't wear it daily than people seem to think. I really don't think it's that unusual not to.

JLou08 · 07/06/2025 16:57

Unless someone has very heavy make-up I don't notice if someone us wearing it or not. I work on a team with about 8 women and couldn't tell you if any of them wear make up or not.

ExercicenformedeZ · 07/06/2025 12:51

I'm 42 and I am often without makeup. I do like a cat eye, but I make a point of not wearing skin makeup every day and I never contour. I loathe the Kardashian/TOWIE overdone look and think it looks very low rent, especially when worn with trackie bottoms (that seems to be a mini trend lately) I do love lipstick, however.

Goingawayistricky · 07/06/2025 11:59

I’m amazed theres a thread!
It’s honestly not something that has ever crossed my mind when I look at a woman’s face.
Some wear it and some don’t. I think more don’t than do but perhaps that’s because I don’t register it.

BIossomtoes · 07/06/2025 11:51

Renabrook · 07/06/2025 11:49

Men dont wear make up so why on earth should I have too?

You don’t have to. I wear it. Nobody makes me.

Renabrook · 07/06/2025 11:49

Men dont wear make up so why on earth should I have too?

OyWithThePoodlesAlready84 · 07/06/2025 11:45

I think it depends, do you mean zero make-up or just not the heavy thousand layer with contouring, highlighter and fake lashes and eyebrows kind of thing?(which has become the norm in 20-30 something it seems!)

I think I am more judgy of the latter, mainly because imo, no matter how skillfuly done, it just looks like too much removed from what the person actually looks like so i'd take the zero make up look over that any day. If someone looks clean (as in clean skin, hair, teeth etc) i would not think them frumpy or lazy or not caring, just confident and not bothered by beauty products and actually maybe more interesting?

I believe in less is more and love it when people subtly enhance their features in a way that only looking really up close you would notice their make up. I also think it's nice if a zero or very light makeup user goes all out for a special occasion, i love the Cinderella effect 😁

Personally , I wear make up every day and it takes 5 minutes. (Eye pencil, mascara, tinted lip balm and sometimes a tinted spf moisturizer). For special occasions its a cat eye and red lip, think Taylor Swift style.😄

MagnoliaTreeBlossom · 07/06/2025 11:35

Although I may notice eye make up or lipstick on others, it doesn't affect my feelings about them. An observation doesn't need to be followed by judgement.

Like many others on this thread, I very seldom wear makeup and would be surprised if my bare face changed how people feel about me.

GreyCarpet · 07/06/2025 11:01

I wear make up very, very rarely and even then it's only minimal.

I've not really worn make up for around 20 years and I'm in my 50s now. I don't really care whether other people have an opinion on it or not. It's not something I think about.

I'm reasonably happy with my face. It's not because I've 'given up' or don't care or because I'm depressed etc, it's because I honestly don't think it looks any better than my natural beauty 🙃

BeNiceWhenItsFinished · 07/06/2025 10:45

CoffeeAddick · 20/02/2024 08:03

If I saw a woman over 40 without make up my thoughts on her will be coloured by the occasion (gym, hospital, wedding), the context in which I see her (recently bereaved, just woke up, recovering from surgery, walking the dog), how the rest of her appearance looks in terms of style and grooming. Her accent and voice as well, does she sound like a posh woman,a rough accent, an essex accent?

If she looks good I would wonder if she has no make up make up on, of if she works in skin and beauty so has access to all the best tech or if she is a rich woman having a day off (sports, tired, feeling down, letting skin 'breathe').

If she has skin issues that would look better with make up like pigmentation, dark circles, sallow skin (basically how I look without make up) then I would wonder if she is ill, depressed or doesn't know how to apply make up (because that's my situation) because I know she would look better with some and it doesn't even take much time or products. The only times I haven't bothered were when I was too sad or ill or both to bother with make up.

If she looks average, depending on her mannerisms, voice tone and clothes I would wonder if she is a butch lesbian or religious or super feminist.

I wonder what you'd make of me then.

KickHimInTheCrotch · 07/06/2025 10:41

Surely the default is that people (male/female/other) don't wear make up and the decision to wear make up is made by some people. Wearing make up shouldn't be the expectation and those who remain make-up free questioned as to their motivations.

It's like asking why people don't have tattoos or inject themselves with fillers and chemicals and asking what we think about

RusticChill · 07/06/2025 10:22

My default setting is… nobody wears makeup, and then I notice when they do.

Cuppa2sugars · 07/06/2025 09:58

If I met someone for the first time and she wasn’t wearing makeup, but was otherwise smart, I would think she’s confident. But if she hasn’t brushed her hair either/looks generally messy I would think she’s lazy, just fallen out of bed and can’t be bothered.

Createausername1970 · 07/06/2025 09:49

I am in my 60s, apart from occasionally wearing it if friends "made me up" before a night out I never wore it and have never bought any.

You can judge me how you want, I don't give a toss 😎

financialcareerstuff · 07/06/2025 09:43

I am 48 and don’t wear make up day to day. To go out on a nice evening, I have a fresh shower and hair wash, then literally take 5 mins to stick in my contact lenses, put a tiny smear of eyeliner on and mascara. Nothing on skin or lips still. I doubt people know I’m wearing it but it slightly elevates my eyes. I’ve only worn foundation- very lightly applied- on my wedding day. I could see the make up artist did a lovely job (I warned her I wanted super natural). I suddenly seemed to have a bit more bone structure and looked lovely, but not enough to make me want to bother day to day. It’s not that I have no interest in appearance. I enjoy nice clothes and often dress quite nicely even at home for my pleasure.

I just feel like the real me is fine to take to the world.

I would never notice if someone had no make up, I only notice if there is so much on I can’t tell what they would look like without it. Then I tend to feel a bit sorry for them because I think they must not be super comfortable with themselves…. But their choices are theirs.

britinnyc · 05/06/2025 21:25

I don’t really notice what other people do. I wear makeup because I like it and enjoy the morning routine. I keep it neutral and minimal but love trying new products and having a bit of fun with it, same as with clothes. The only thing I hate is women who look down on women who do wear makeup and dismiss them as stupid, shallow, insecure etc. Seen a lot of this on this thread.

Tessiebear2023 · 05/06/2025 20:53

StMarie4me · 05/06/2025 20:37

I’m 62 and some days I am bare faced and some days I am full make up. Depends how I feel on the day. Choices! Love it!

That's fantastic. I have noticed that many women in their 50s and 60s become more experimental, and try different things out. There's a feeling of less peer pressure and freedom at this stage of life, you can please yourselves. I've noticed braver colour choices, bold jewellery or glasses frames, and comfortable styles. And, yes, lots of makeup or none at all - it's all good! I'm lucky to work somewhere that I meet many women in this age group, so I'm making the most of watching and learning!

StMarie4me · 05/06/2025 20:37

Tessiebear2023 · 05/06/2025 20:34

I'm not 'team trowel', but how would you know if women who wear makeup are judging you? They probably don't pay much notice to you tbh.

I think that women who wear lots of makeup are more likely to compare themselves to other women who do, if they see a woman who's wearing it well they're going to pay more attention to her to hopefully pick up some tips. Just like, if you're a shoe person, you pay attention to other's shoes, or jewellery, or hair colour, etc (depending on your 'thing').

Since I've been in my late 40s I've noticed I've been paying a lot more attention to other women in their 50s and 60s (makeup or not), mostly because I'm suddenly aware of this 'aging thing' and the next stage of life, and I'm trying to see what's ahead for me. I've noticed that women can look great with or without makeup, it just depends on personality and style, we all have different ways of expressing ourselves.

I’m 62 and some days I am bare faced and some days I am full make up. Depends how I feel on the day. Choices! Love it!

StMarie4me · 05/06/2025 20:35

I don’t ‘feel’ anything about them. What an odd thing to ask.

Feminism is about choice. That’s it.

Tessiebear2023 · 05/06/2025 20:34

Howmanycatsistoomany · 20/02/2024 09:14

IME it's mostly the women who slap it on with a trowel who judge those of us who don't.

I'm not 'team trowel', but how would you know if women who wear makeup are judging you? They probably don't pay much notice to you tbh.

I think that women who wear lots of makeup are more likely to compare themselves to other women who do, if they see a woman who's wearing it well they're going to pay more attention to her to hopefully pick up some tips. Just like, if you're a shoe person, you pay attention to other's shoes, or jewellery, or hair colour, etc (depending on your 'thing').

Since I've been in my late 40s I've noticed I've been paying a lot more attention to other women in their 50s and 60s (makeup or not), mostly because I'm suddenly aware of this 'aging thing' and the next stage of life, and I'm trying to see what's ahead for me. I've noticed that women can look great with or without makeup, it just depends on personality and style, we all have different ways of expressing ourselves.

Babla · 05/06/2025 19:03

I don’t wear it because I don’t need it

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