Annoyed by random man incidents

Men online get very goady too - I used to assume it was bots and try to let it go but I've been getting men on instagram insisting that no one listens to their interests so they don't ever share them. When I point out that women find intelligence sexy they immediately go on the offensive about how women just care about hair and nails, before I ask if they have ever tried to date someone who they meet in a setting related to their "interest"...they never have and usually say they've picked women younger who are unlikely to be interested in "building" although one guy insisted no woman was ever interested in "ancient history" . They all said it was women's fault they didn't talk about their interests.

Oh behave 😂😂😂😂😂

Unless you were serious, in which case "🙄"

Yeah, I've seen a version of this too. My daughter rides horses to quite an advanced level and there is a girl in her lessons who has a dad who goes on and on and on at his poor daughter, critiquing her riding. One day I said to him 'oh, are you a riding instructor?' To which he replied 'oh no, I've never even sat on a horse' . Hilarious. I feel very sorry for his child.

A very similar ’give way’ incident happened to me. The guy actually rolled down his window to shout at me and was absolutely ENRAGED that I didn’t roll my window down to take a scolding. I just turned my radio up, smiled, and went on my merry way. They hate that 🥰

@ThisOldThang had me laughing there, sure you’re on the wind up but you might want to add a lighthearted tag to that!

This is so annoying. I get this with swimming fairly regularly. I now interrupt and ask at what level they competed at as if it's not higher than mine, well I don't need their advice. So many open mouthed at the idea that this 45 year old woman was once a competitive swimmer!

My niece has a customer-facing job. She told me recently that in this role her email address is very masculine sounding as it's using a shortened version of her name. So think for example [email protected] .

She said her work has been transformed! No push back if she says no to refunds, people being polite all the time, much more friendly, less entitlement. Her colleague with a more female sounding email address is not having this experience with the same customer base.

Reminded me of the story where 2 professionals swapped email accounts and the man couldn't believe how awkward people were being whilst the woman had a brilliant week.

It’s called patriarchy chicken- the way that men just walk without moving and the women who step out of the way

I suggest you start to pay more attention to where you're going. That smacks of laziness and a lack of consideration.

This is completely unacceptable! Everyone's taller than small children but it's not OK to constantly barge into them, is it? You jeez to become more observant, that's why your neck moves - before you injure someone!

I am also a very small female primary school teacher and, my god, the number of dads who have tried to intimidate me over the years! They soon learn I am far more intimidating than they could ever hope to be.

They are also very keen to tell me how I should be teaching Maths, until I tell them I have a degree in the subject...

Near where I live is a traffic llight junction, but there's a parade of shops to the left with a slip road that allows you to circumvent the traffic lights if you need to turn left (but only if it isn't rammed with cars parking). Early one evening I took this shortcut and a male jogger pointedly stopped in the middle of my way and slowly shook his head. Luckily I had a car behind me doing the same thing, so the combined sound of two car horns blasting at him soon had him scarpering off.

So nothing to say about the aggressive acts by the men but my response is aggressive? You sound like a misogynist.

Love it! I bet he didn’t know what hit him 😂

@IfYouLikePinaColadaaa just clocked your user name! Spooky 😄

Most recent example I have is I was walking along a foot bridge in our local town with baby in pram and nervous dog.

I made a point of keeping to the side because then my dog isn’t near people when we pass. And this man just kept his line walking towards me… it got to about a metre before he was going to collide with me when I shouted at him that I had a nervous dog I was keeping into the side. After saying that he scarpered to the other side of the bridge… but you could tell he was full on wanting to have an altercation with me.

If I’m a lone pedestrian then I generally try to keep out of the way of prams, dogs, wheelchairs, elderly people because it’s much easier for me to switch the side I’m walking on.

The worst example I had was on the train home when I commuted in london. A man chose to sit next to me even though other seats were free and proceeded to man spread… I was squeezed up against the window. My mind went into overdrive thinking it was somehow going to attack me or kidnap me. I ended up getting off a few stops early and getting the bus because I was so scared.

Just this am DD20 walked to the Post Office. She was warm by the time she got there, so took her jacket off so she could take her jumper off. Random man (also massive dickhead) behind her goes 'woah stop there!'. Like what the actual fuck. No she turned up at 9.30 am to strip for the queue quite obviously you prick!
Where it was quiet in the Post Office and not being one for attention, DD just laughed nervously. I said if that kind of thing happens again, just stare and ignore (if you can't bring yourself to call them what you really want to).

Honestly, people are clueless and hurried. I doubt very much he was literally waiting to barge you out the way at the scanner.

Personally, I'm fairly confrontation when it suits me (completely get that characteristic from my dad!), and I'd probably have given him a shove back and a "I'm still standing here!"

Years ago, when I was a baby primary school teacher, and probably about 24/25, a dad of one of my class took it upon himself to start yelling at me in the playground. This dad was very tall, probably 6'5ish. I'm 5'3 on a good day. He's getting all up in my space, all these other parents (including his wife!) standing around agog.
I say, "You know, it's really not appropriate for a massive tall man like you to be screaming at a tiny woman. Let's go and sit in the classroom where we can do this eye to eye."
WELL. He came with me like a puppy dog. Full of apologies, and "I'd never really thought about that before."
Never had another issue with him, and we actually became quite friendly.

Amazing!

i had a man barge past me and my friends on a train with a suitcase, and then tell us that his suitcase should be on the shelf rather than ours due to his being a ‘proper’ suitcase (were ours not proper?!)

he then nearly whacks my friend in the head trying to force his luggage behind us and i told him he had a wanky suitcase and he marched off.

All these stories of fragile male egos being shattered regarding their height are making me laugh. I get this a lot being over 6'... just yesterday in our lovely little volunteer run library I had a fella creep up behind me until he was almost in bodily contact to say something like "I reckon you're at least 6'4"". When I stepped away and said "nope, 6'1"". He then tried to get in a debate with me about how I was wrong!

I just said (without thinking but I'm retrospectively proud of it) that men always over-estimate how big things are. I genuinely said this meaning height, and it was only when the lady behind the counter started laughing and the fella slunk away I twigged. I could never be that quick with a clever response if I was trying to be!

Another example is female refs. I would share an example but it's all TikTok and it says who shares it or long YouTube videos.

A quick google shows many male players exploding at women and a male ref having to get involved.

https://www.refinery29.com/en-gb/2017/08/169441/manslamming-experiment-personal-story

I had a guy who came through a no entry and got very verbally aggresive because i wouldnt move. 2 things didnt occur to him was 1 i am in a citreon grand picasso and he was in a small old looking bmw i literally could have driven over his car and 2 i had just been dealing with my mil who could drive the pope to become an alcoholic so i was in just the right mood for him as turns out he ended up backing down

There was an interesting experiment before where a women didnt move out of the way walking down the road, and it just showed her constantly being smacked into by men.