Annoyed by random man incidents

Mind you I've grown up a lot since I hit a man across the head with a snooker cue for not letting me play. It was winner stays on and you often played people you've never met. He didn't want to play a woman.

It's nothing to do with feminism or being a lady. Treating other humans with respect is something we should all be striving for. If a man holds a door open for me I will say thank you. If I hold a door open for a man I expect him to say thank you and those who don't are reminded about their lack of manners 😀

I sometimes think women’s lib has gone too far and men are not treating us like ladies like they used to do. The respect has gone.

I hear ya @IfYouLikePinaColadaaa

This happened to me last week, and I can see some people saying 'yeah like fuck.' #didnthappen etc, but I swear it did. 😬

I was walking down one of the little roads in my village. I go 4 or 5 times a week for a 3 mile walk. A random man (around 65,) was walking towards me on the opposite side of the road. I wanted to check my phone (in my back pocket) as I thought I heard the notification ding sound.

So I pushed my coat up my back a bit as it's a bit snug, and reached into my pocket and pulled my phone out. Random man now on the opposite side of the road said 'I thought you were about to squat down for a wee.' It didn't register what he had said for a couple of seconds. I just went 'er, ha..... ha...' and carried on walking. Then I realised what he had said.

What on earth possessed this random man to say 'I thought you were about to take a piss on the footpath' (to a woman he had never met before,) in her mid to late 50s (or any age woman for that matter) just eludes me. I just can't get my head around it!

MEN!

I"m 34 weeks pregnant, my bump is bloody huge and I'm waddling like a fat penguin. I commute by tube into London twice a week and it is unbelievable the amount of men who push ahead of me onto the tube to take the last priority seat. Zero shame. They inevitably end up moving anyway - either because I pointedly say "can i sit down please?!" Or because someone next to them offers me their seat and they are suitably shamed into giving up the priority space. So literally no gain. I assume that they just presume noone will ever challenge them? But its just so rude and aggressive!

I was crossing the station concourse at St Pancras once, in the bit near the ticket booths for local trains, and out of the corner I saw this guy, walking at a diagonal to me, racing to get to the point where our paths were due to intersect first. So I didn't slacken my pace at all and right at the last minute, he had to swerve out of the way, giving me the evils all the time. It was funny. He was determined he wasn't going to step aside for me and also that he'd get to the point where our paths met first, and he just assumed that I, a mere middle-aged woman, would stand aside for him and I didn't.

If you watch out for it, men expect women to get out of their way all the time. What I hate most is the word 'sorry' from them, reduced to one syllable, which the use to mean 'get out of my way!' They're not apologising, they're just saying 'I've got important man business, more important than anything you could possibly be doing, so I'm not going to go round you.'

Glad you did that. Some women would have stayed to not offend him as we are taught to be polite. F that if you walk pass my car and I feel uncomfortable I'm locking my doors, don't care if you heard or it upset you.
Better safe then sorry

Women are an Easy target

I used to work in a pub near Liverpool Street. We were cleaning down at the end of the night and putting empty bottles into a wheely mini skip thing, pushing it round the floor. I dropped in a beer bottle and a bit splashed out and must’ve landed on this man. He went apeshit, screaming at me in the middle of the pub, everyone went silent, he was right in my face, spit flying everywhere, bright red.
This was in the early 00’s though, and a lot of our customers spent a lot of time sniffing and wiping their noses after going to the toilet…

I like to play Patriarchy Chicken - find that it is quite rare that a man moves out of the way for me so I just keep going. It either ends in him moving or a bang but quite frankly I never apologise. I have moved out of the way for so many men that feel we are all owed.

if that makes me a tit then a tit I shall be 😂

It's always been that way IMO. I'm still seething about something that happened on holiday when I was about 12. I'm now 51!

My younger DSis and I were in the back room of a pub while my parents and some friends were in the bar having a drink. It was back in the days when children were often not allowed in the bar itself but some places had family friendly rooms they could go into. We'd been there about an hour and were happily watching a film on TV with the obligatory Coke/bag of crisps.

Anyway a family come into the room- mum, dad and two boys. The dad immediately starts throwing his weight around with his family in a way you just wouldn't do in public and would be a complete arsehole to do behind closed doors. I felt quite anxious and intimidated in case he said anything to DSis and I.

But no, what he actually did was pick up the remote and change the channel. No "I don't suppose you'd mind if I put the news on girls?" Not even a glance in our direction. Obviously if he'd asked we'd have said it was okay because you do, don't you? But to not even ask! I wouldn't do that to my own children, never mind ones I'd never met.

As I said, still effing seething.

I have heard this from women with sports cars before. My Aunty for one. She was a high powered business woman with a poster in her kitchen that said 'Behind every successful woman is a man who's surprised'.

I've never forgotten it.

Many years ago (when I was younger and spent all my free time in the gym), I was crossing Covent Garden and a street performer decided to 'incorporate' me into his act by trapping me with a hoop. I asked him, politely, to let me go several times as I had to get to a meeting but he was having a high old time showing off and kept twisting the hoop around me.

It was only when I informed him that I would break his fucking arms off at the fucking shoulders that he stopped. Like I say, hours in the gym every day.

Now, I walk with a stick - ah, well ... I can always thump someone with it, I suppose.

Yes to it being even worse top down! I just laugh at them. Sad acts.

I had a triumphant moment this week for which I am still proud. A puffed up man in a hard hat yelled at me across a car park for being in the wrong place (I was not). He pointed at me and summed me with his finger like a naughty school girl. I stayed put, looked scornful, shook my head and summoned him to me. He had to trot across the car park. Then I pointed out why he was wrong and suggested he learn some manners. Being middle aged and cross RULES!

This Small blonde woman behind the wheel of a Sports car seems to really upset some men. Especially if the top is down.
They don’t do that when DH is driving.

Ah yes, my favourite game 'patriarchal chicken'....

That’s mental, you’re not even that tall. My husband is 6 ft 8 and to my knowledge has ever been known to trample on children or anyone less than 5ft. Do you walk with your nose in the air?

I got quite a high power, sporty car last year, and the attitude of men drivers towards me since has been ridiculous. They drive up my arse, “race” me off at lights, stupid overtakes etc. I had a normal family car previously, and yeah, those things happened now and then, but now it’s every single time I’m out driving. Insecure dickheads.

Haha - serves him right 😂

I walked to to a coffee counter at St Pancras at the weekend and opened my mouth to ask for a coffee. A man just walked up from the other direction and ordered over me. This has happened once before (different place) and I made some 'Sorry, did you not see me standing here' comment but this time I just couldn't be arsed. I can't tell if he was very arrogant or just had no spacial awareness.
I no longer get out of men's way on pavements though, nor make myself small so they can leg spread on the train.

What a total fecking eejit!
There's always men sitting on bits of equipment using their phone in my gym but this is outrageous! Well done for saying no.

A few months ago I was leaving a supermarket car park. The traffic was queued all the way round so I reversed out of my space and then remained stuck right by it for a while.

Suddenly a man who was walking towards the shop rapped on my window, when I rolled it down he indicated the space I’d just vacated and said to me ‘there’s a space right there, don’t hold up the traffic trying to find one that’s easier for you to pull into!’

I replied that I’d just pulled out of it and was leaving and he just shook his head and rolled his eyes as though somehow this was unreasonable! Another interaction which I doubt would have happened if I was a man!

In general I seem to find that I get ‘bullied’ a lot on the roads, I have a very stereotypically girly car and my husbands noticed that if he drives it people behave to him like they wouldn’t in his own car, presumably making the assumption that there’s a woman driving - the main thing is refusing to let me overtake on motorways, speeding right up so I can’t get past then slowing down again as soon as I stop trying! WHY!!!

Imagine being so horrified by the idea that a woman driving a ‘girly’ car might be able to overtake you occasionally!

I remember walking on a busy pavement with my 4 year old. I had slowed down and the man behind me yelled "Move". So I stepped sideways and he promptly trod in the pile of vomit I'd slowed to avoid. It splashed up his shoe and trouser leg. I couldn't stop laughing for ages!

DD tells me it still happens. She reckons for some, getting caught and thrown off the bus (she tells the driver he/she does the ejecting) is all part of the fetish.