Annoyed by random man incidents

@MyopicBunny not if the driver at the front slams their brakes on. It used to be always the driver at the back until essentially too many claims occurred where people were slamming their brakes on knowing it would cause an accident but wouldn't be their fault. The "If not but for" rule. Yes they should have been keeping a better distance but they are trying to cause a crash. It's been like that a long time. I later worked in car insurance

I thought a driver going into the back of you is always their fault? That's what I was told by my insurance company.

I live in an apartment and the elderly guy upstairs seemed to have a real issue with women, particularly the fact I lived alone

He started complaining about cooking smells - I cook fairly standard food like pasta bake, cottage pie etc. My dad was always "he's elderly, be nice"

One day I was making a casserole, my dad was here and commented it looked nice. Next thing there is this hammering on my door, I open it and it's upstairs screaming at me "your fucking cooking smells... blah blah"
I open the door a bit further, he sees my dad and his face just dropped. My dad went out and basically said "you ever fucking touch that door again and I will tell her to ring the police" he was horrified he had told me to be nice and he hadn't realised how awful he was being

Upstairs also told the house a few doors down she needed to take her washing in as it was letting the road down. Her husband stuck his head out the window and asked if he could help and upstairs scuttled off again

I'd have clapped right in his face and said, "Less interrupting, more minding your own business"

Yanbu and please don’t blame your PMS for you disliking bad behaviour from strange men.
What they are doing is an assertion of dominance over women.

Come on @ThisOldThang - Maybe you were below his field of vision? I'm 6'1” and sometimes find myself bumping into short people (e.g. 5 foot).

🙄🙄 You must spend your entire life bumping into children, toddlers etc. That's just stupid. Most people know to look down and around when they're walking.

Oh wow... I know she says why she didn't set him straight in the article, but how frustrating?! A missed opportunity really. He'll have gone off really happy that he had imparted some of his wisdom and skills...

Absolutely this - why join right o the toes of the girl in front, or right in front of her? Purely about intimidation.
Many's the time my daughter would initially be patronised when she got in the pool, asked if she could cope with the speed, distance etc by men, but once they realised she was fitter and quicker, some would go out of their way to be aggressive, cut her up, swim over her etc. She was 16, looked 13 at the oldest. So very fragile

This guy. https://www.theguardian.com/society/2024/feb/23/you-shouldnt-be-doing-that-female-pro-golfer-films-mansplainer-at-driving-range

I had similar happen a while ago where I politely tried to close the door on a man working for a cancer charity, who wanted me to sign up for direct debit. "He ended with I hope you're never affected by cancer!" Jeezo. Now I would complain to the specific charity about the incident, did you try doing that? So many arseholes out there.

When I was in my early twenties, now dh and I were in the car waiting at a busy junction, I was driving and there was a stream of traffic passing the junction and I was waiting for a gap to pull out. A man got out of his car, which was way back in the queue behind us, and came to stand next to my open car window and hurl abuse at me for not pulling out of the junction and holding him up. I took great pleasure in making eye contact with him while closing my window.
And another one that's very outing. I am a nurse by background and taught advanced life support as part of my job. I gave backslaps to someone in a restaurant who was choking while out for lunch and was successful in removing the food from their airway. I was getting a drink afterwards and a man approached me to congratulate me for acting quickly and said it was brave, I thanked him but explained that I'm a nurse, and I just see it as part of my job. He continued to stand there staring at me and then said 'well, it's admirable that you had a go, but shouldn't you have done the Heimlech manoeuvre?'
Not aggressive in this instance but a classic example of man knows best!

Where do you all live? Can't say I've experienced being punished out of the way or felt flustered by someone being too close. Perhaps people where I live are just nicer or perhaps I'm so old they feel sorry for me.

Way to miss the point.

What a patronising pillock.

I am so sorry about your dad @SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius

Are you drunk?! Or just totally incapable of proofreading?

Urgh, yeah right

I never put this down to my sex at the time but actually, this thread has made me think differently. Maybe 15 years ago there was a junction on a busy road that led to the town centre. A man in a van pulled out on me and I beeped with a pissed off look on my face while slamming my brakes on. It was incredibly close. He stopped and shouted at me through the window and as a non shrinking violet, I shouted back equally. I would have been 21ish and he was at least 40. I drove off and he was behind me. There was parking on the side of the road a little distance later so I stopped to parallel park, this was opposite a bus stop with loads of people watching. He actively sped up and went into the back of me. I saw him in my mirror desperately trying to put it back into first gear and move forward. Then got out the van screaming at me etc. said things that made it seem like he'd got one up on me because it would be seen as my fault. I saw the cogs turn when I said it was his fault as I saw him speed up and it was him that went into the back of me. A lady came over from the bus stop to help me.

He made it all very dramatic, called the police etc. he then came in my face screaming that I needed to move the car as we were blocking the road. I said I wasn't moving until I received a call from the police as what was the point in them coming if the scene no longer remained. He said he was on the phone to the police. He did allow me to use his phone to speak to the person and I asked how was I to know that she wasn't his mate. She told me to look up at a camera and she could see me there. Described the scene, so we moved.

He then told his insurance it was my fault as I slammed on my brakes so they wanted 50/50. I remembered the camera footage and they said he was at fault. Would he have done that to a man?

Yeah smile darlin' it might never happen😂. Why, oh why do they do it?

I am sorry @SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius that happened. I honestly don't think random man would even think twice though and probably even said it again to some poor woman the very same day!

I once had a man tell me to “Smile, love - it might never happen!” - to which my reply was “It has happened - my dad just died suddenly, and we are going to see my mum”. I hope it made him think twice about using the same line on other women.

Aww come on, cheer up luv! 😆

I remember the time I was standing in a fairly slow-moving queue in a shop. Suddenly some man came up to me and said "Excuse me, you do realise there's a queue, don't you?" I had been daydreaming and was completely confused, but said "Yes, I do, I've been standing in it for ages" and stood my ground. Not sure if he thought he could guilt trip me into giving up my place or just confused, but even if it was the latter I felt he should have checked his facts before slinging public accusations around.

They are never funny, why do they feel the need to comment though is what i'll never understand, just keep your shitty one liners to yourself you silly old fools😂

It was terrifying. And just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to what we women have to suffer. Some men really really do hate women SO much. It's actually terrifying. Some women hate men for quite a few good reasons. Many of them treat women like absolute dogshit. Men have zero reasons for hating women, and treating them the way they do.

I hope your daughter is OK now.

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@SweetBirdsong that is truly terrifying....when it happened to dd she rang the police when she got home and they said if it ever happened again she can ring from her car whilst driving...really scary that there are people amongst us with this much rage inside them waiting to explode x

I have found this too. Every. Single. One. Even DH! Always try and be funny, and jovial, and think they are hilarious. I get men who are total strangers, randomly trying to chat and be totes hilaire, and they are all categorically NEVER EVER FUNNY.

I have said to DH many times 'that wasn't funny.' He always says 'of course it was, It's you. You have no sense of humour.' His mate from work messages him on his phone (also a man in his late 50s,) with 'jokes,' and my DH is howling with laughter, clutching his sides, and taking off his glasses to wipe the tears off his cheeks.

The jokes are NEVER FUNNY. Middle aged men are a law unto themselves, and they ALWAYS try to funny and clever. In reality, they are nowhere near as smart and funny as they think.

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