Annoyed by random man incidents

I work in a coffee shop, last weekend, typical Saturday and having to gently encourage people not to linger over empty cups, keep on top of clearing etc etc. Three blokes had ordered and got their coffees and cakes and just as they headed to a table two people ran past and grabbed it, frustrating for them but they squeezed onto a table for two and as soon as a better table became clear, I cleaned it up and told them it was available - as I was standing over the table and saying this to them another bloke who was with about 4 of his mates tried to take it and I politely said no, you can’t have it, it’s taken. I’m not an easily intimidated person, i’m short and gobby but this man who looked at me like he was trying not to smash my face in whilst his mates tried to tell him it was ok actually made me feel a bit weird. He actually apologised to the other men and said “it’s not YOUR fault” and then would glare at me. The intimidation radiated off him, a complete walking red flag!

@IfYouLikePinaColadaaa it's utterly pathetic. It reminds me of that famous video of researchers observing gorillas and one of the gorillas grabs one of the men as it goes past and drags him by his ankles for a bit before letting go. It's just a little reminder not to get too comfortable!

I was following some idiot doing 20 mph on a 40 road in his clapped out man mobile. He also kept randomly stopping to fiddle with his radio or something. It was getting ridiculous and a sizeable queue had formed behind me. I waited until there was a straight stretch of road and whizzed past. He went absolutely bananas! His face! 😂 I just shook my head as I went past. He tried to catch me up and undertake me at the next roundabout, but I was going right anyway 😊 he was honking and everything. What a tool.

Whatever you do, please do not raise your voice, or look angry or flustered in any way - please remain quiet and lady like at all times

I had an incident recently when I delayed going through a green light to let a driver in from the right who had got in the wrong lane. The driver behind me, who was delayed by 20 secs, drove past gesturing furiously so I gestured back. This clearly antagonized him further (I think I was supposed to doff my cap and reflect on how my act had impacted on him). He drove past and slammed on his brakes, then waited there for 30 secs, just stopped dead in the road. It was all rather amusing- I just put my hazards on to warn the drivers behind.
(The driver i had let in would have ended up holding up all the traffic in the lane he was in, as it was lane to turn right and he wanted to go straight ahead).
The whole incident did leave me feeling annoyed as the driver was in a big car and clearly wanted to intimidate me, and could have caused an accident. It was unnecessarily aggressive.

It's fucking always men that think they know better. Doesn't surprise me unfortunately.

I've had this a couple times recently and I was shook and furious. I rarely go out far and have health problems, basically if I fall from standing height while at walking speed my bones WILL break.

The other day, on way back from hospital visiting., this really posh looking fella, tall, broad shoulders, just barged right into my (thankfully good) shoulder, knocking my drink into my jacket. If he's have done the other side I would've dropped as I have a rotator cuff injury. Mumbles "sorry' without even slowing down or looking. I yelled out "Fucks sake, dickhead' to no-one in particular.

The other month I was using one of the only cashpoints in my area. I needed to use 2 cards, so after the first one, i was still fully at the machine, had not moved, this young-ish looking man literally barges past me while I was reaching for the second card, pushing me away from the machine, while bellowing "excuse me!?'. "I'm still using it!" I said with distain. He rolled his eyes, huffed and went back to the road where he should have been waiting all along. When I left I said "oh sorry your coke dealer might have to wait 1 extra minute, wanker'.
Men never used to barge into women like this as much I'm sure. Fucking rude twats. If I fell or was hurt their arsehole would be getting sued.

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YES! I was going 20 in a 30 because it’s busy and a man angrily waved his arms down shouting slow down!

Im not a fast driver, he was just trying exert some dominance over me - you know when you just know?

Happens so often. Most recently I was looking at something in the supermarket, a man came right up close to me and said ‘erm, I’m trying to look there’ as if I’d just barged in front of him or something I said ‘yeah, so was I before you disturbed me’ and he huffed off.

I had one particularly memorable instance when I was walking down a wide path and a male runner was running towards me and starting yelling at me to move. I did not and he smacked straight into my chest. Unfortunately for him I'm built like a brick shithouse and he practically bounced off and had to step off the path while I carried on my way

I can only imagine the carnage you’re leaving in your wake, are you also wearing a cone of shame a la a recently operated on dog? Even the BFG managed not to stand on Sophie.

I think there is a lot of truth here. Men just seem to be flailing and we are still seen as easy targets. Women's worlds have opened up significantly in the last couple of generations, and our stake in the world has changed beyond belief. I think that men have still not adjusted to this change, and are becoming angrier and angrier with the fact that women now have choices, have money, take up space and so on. And giving a woman a little barge every so often makes them feel like MEN again.

@AmaryllisChorus ill take it that IANBU! 😄

On Saturday, I was shopping with DD in a nearby town centre. Very busy with lots of people about. We were heading to the doorway of a shop, and a guy was nearby handing out leaflets. He made to engage with me but I just said "no thank you". He actually put his arm across me to stop me getting into the shop, to talk to me about his church. I was instantly enraged and told him what he could do with his fucking leaflets (he just laughed). The thing is, he would never have done that to any man on that high street.

I’ve had so many random aggressive men experiences that I’ve lost count.

A man who asked me to move and then didn’t like the direction I moved in so slammed my supermarket trolley into me. Didn’t like it when I called him an ugly cunt.

A man who had to give way on a narrow road as the parked cars were all his side of the road. I was behind him and he didn’t want to give way to the woman coming from the other direction. He eventually climbed the verge to get out of giving way. Me and the woman pulled up and spoke about him, just the rage that must have been at him for no reason at all.

A van driver man who called me a cunt for having the temerity to cross a quiet road he came careering down on.

A man who was annoyed I went past on a roundabout even though he was in my left. He pretended to ram my car a few times. I gave the middle finger which infuriated him 😂

Do you really need us to answer those questions or have you worked them out yet?

I find this when walking down the street and men just march on forward and expect others to get out of their way. I just don't move now unless they have mobility issues or something like a white cane obviously
When using self checkouts, usually they don't let the next person start scanning until the bagging area is clear, so in future just don't move your stuff straight away.

Men are angry because women are dumping and divorcing their sorry asses. If they improved themselves they wouldn't get dumped, but they seem to believe that women are happy putting up with their disgusting and annoying habits so are caught off guard when they realise we live in the modern world and can divorce/dump them 😂

ive had a guy ask me to stop using a piece of gym equipment he wasn’t on because he wanted to alternate between the one he was on and the one I was going to use.

it was a busy gym and he wanted me to stand waiting while he used two machines. I told him no thanks, I’m staying on it and his jaw hit the floor. It was as if I had just broken some massive etiquette rule.

ive always wanted to ask- was I being rude ? Or was he?

I had one going mad behind me on a slip road. I'm not a slow driver, but the slip road is uphill and I was in third gear in a 1.2 polo. I can't go any faster!
He was mouthing and gesturing at me, we hit the motorway at 60mph, I moved up to 70 and he carried on at 60 behind me
So what was the fucking point?!

@ThisOldThang by that logic we'd all be constantly trampling over cats, dogs, bushes, bollards, flowers, pigeons, children etc etc. I wonder why we don't? Yours is the best example of deflection from the point I've seen in a while.