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HR departments see employees as the enemy

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Donke · 19/02/2024 12:46

I have worked in several public sector orgs (NHS, civil service etc) and their ability to stonewall and gaslight is unbelievable. Why are they so convinced that they can do no wrong and that employees are stupid/dishonest/incompetent?

I am currently fighting with HR over my T&Cs, which should follow a locally agreed protocol. They are refusing to accept that it exists or that they have the skills to use it which makes no sense because every other trust in the region uses it. They will not open their minds to an outside pov. I have had similar before where they insisted on refusing to pay me sick pay. Why??

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Runnerinthenight · 19/02/2024 22:01

Oblomov24 · Today 21:35

I've seen chronic HR in many companies. That's coming from a Finance person with some HR experience.

My last job I was treated badly. My friend who is an Employment lawyer said the HR Director was shocking.

Yes, there are some shit practitioners out there. You could literally say that about any function within an organisation!

Trisolaris · 19/02/2024 21:56

MamaAlwaysknowsbest · 19/02/2024 21:38

they are ok just to set you up on the system and nothing else. They do not know you, do not see you, do not want to acknowledge complaints against managers and do everything possible to protect the most of horrible and abusive managers. Might be so, but I also firmly believe justice exist

I guess the majority of my team should just stop doing anything then?

The benefits manager should stop writing her business cases to improve our family friendly policies, mat pay and private health insurance for all countries.

Talent acquisition should just leave managers to recruit by themselves for hard to find candidates and stop pushing them to be more flexible and consider applicants childcare needs and that not everyone can attend an interview with short notice.

L&D should stop arranging new courses that employees have requested, raise employees’ concerns noted on performance reviews and ensuring that we don’t fall foul of regulators as no one has done mandatory training.

Our HRBPs should just ignore when managers raise concerns and leave them to performance manage people with no understanding of protected characteristics and mitigating factors.

Thats just half the team and I know employees would not be happy if we withdrew a single item on that list and each person I’ve listed so far does a lot more than I’ve mentioned.

MamaAlwaysknowsbest · 19/02/2024 21:38

they are ok just to set you up on the system and nothing else. They do not know you, do not see you, do not want to acknowledge complaints against managers and do everything possible to protect the most of horrible and abusive managers. Might be so, but I also firmly believe justice exist

Tatonka · 19/02/2024 21:37

Bruisername · 19/02/2024 12:56

HR are representing the employer and that should never be forgotten when dealing with them.

💯 this

Oblomov24 · 19/02/2024 21:35

I've seen chronic HR in many companies. That's coming from a Finance person with some HR experience.

My last job I was treated badly. My friend who is an Employment lawyer said the HR Director was shocking.

backaftera2yearbreak · 19/02/2024 21:29

At my partners work (a government agency), HR have done such a good job they have had to bring in an independent HR company to sort out the mess 🙄

CleanQueen123 · 19/02/2024 21:24

Donke · 19/02/2024 21:11

I guess my experience is the opposite: I might tell HR they’ve made the wrong call in some way (and provide evidence obviously) and they will go to any length to say black is white. Maybe it’s just a function of there being people in all organisations who don’t like to be questioned or who will twist any fact to the narrative they’ve already chosen

Edited

I'm happy to be constructively questioned if it helps the manager to better understand why I've given particular advice.

I'm not interested in twisting any facts. I've got enough on my plate without looking for trouble or creating more work for myself by trying to turn situations into something they're not.

BlackBean2023 · 19/02/2024 21:14

How often do you tell Hr they've made the wrong call OP? Most people have very few dealings with HR in their employment aside from onboarding and off boarding. Are you a frequent flyer?

Donke · 19/02/2024 21:11

CleanQueen123 · 19/02/2024 20:19

@Donke if I'm wrong I'll absolutely hold my hands up.

However, I also have to spend my days dealing with people telling me I'm wrong when I signpost them to the relevant policy. Apparently it being written in black and white isn't good enough. I must be wrong and have no idea what I'm talking about because they don't like what the policy says and want a different answer.

I guess my experience is the opposite: I might tell HR they’ve made the wrong call in some way (and provide evidence obviously) and they will go to any length to say black is white. Maybe it’s just a function of there being people in all organisations who don’t like to be questioned or who will twist any fact to the narrative they’ve already chosen

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Sapphire387 · 19/02/2024 21:00

I'm a trade union official. There are some wonderful HR people and some truly shitty ones. Same as most jobs in that respect.

sugar87 · 19/02/2024 20:55

JennyLake · 19/02/2024 18:15

My problem with HR is that they seem determined to do everything in their power to absolve themselves of any responsibility for HR matters and then expect line managers to do all the traditional HR activities using a self-service guidance tool that doesn’t work. And when you point out it doesn’t work, they shrug and ask if you have logged it as an issue with the helpdesk which is very well hidden in the depths of the corporate intranet. 9 times out of 10 they 3 weeks to investigate (against their 48 hour SLA) then come back to say they don’t know how to resolve it and can you raise another ticket if you still need an answer….thus ensuring as a line manager I spend most of my working day tied up in HR matters rather than delivery of my actual role. So yeah…I don’t love HR but I have never thought for a second that they are on the side of the worker!

This is so so funny. You are a line MANAGER you are paid to MANAGE - that is part of your role. The cumbersome processes are another issue but people like you are the reason HR teams even have to exist!

CleanQueen123 · 19/02/2024 20:47

FilthyforFirth · 19/02/2024 20:36

Funny how the HR people on this thread keep talking about policies. I am all too aware of our policies, I have made sure I am well versed in them.

I have clearly, and factually articulated how my direct report is in contravention of 4 articles. Still, what I get from HR is we need to show flexibility, can we ignore this bit etc.

It is outrageous. They dont want to deal with the consequences and are somehow annoyed that I am trying to.

Easier to keep problem people, eh?

Personally I'm quite happy to support managers to tackle the problem people within their teams. However, the outcome of that process does depend on the manager being willing and capable of taking the appropriate steps in a timely manner...

Shivermetimbers0112 · 19/02/2024 20:45

Easier to keep problem people, eh?

Not in my experience. I’ve had more difficulty with line managers being reluctant to take appropriate action, or failing to raise issues in a timely matter then expecting HR colleagues to wave a magic wand.
All this thread continues to demonstrate is the inability of some posters to distinguish between their own localised issues and the failings or otherwise of an entire profession.
But we see this attitude time and again with teachers, doctors, doctors’ receptionists, solicitors, and of course Mothers-in-Law…..

FilthyforFirth · 19/02/2024 20:36

Funny how the HR people on this thread keep talking about policies. I am all too aware of our policies, I have made sure I am well versed in them.

I have clearly, and factually articulated how my direct report is in contravention of 4 articles. Still, what I get from HR is we need to show flexibility, can we ignore this bit etc.

It is outrageous. They dont want to deal with the consequences and are somehow annoyed that I am trying to.

Easier to keep problem people, eh?

DivergentTris · 19/02/2024 20:30

I have worked as an employee and never had an issue with HR (Local Authority, Education), however, I ran a small business with 6 staff members. I ended up signing up for an HR company due to difficulties with staff. They were brilliant, they tightened up everything legally for us, helped create staff handbook, contracts etc and offered advice on disciplinary issues.
Without a doubt, without them, we would have hit issues and possibly even a tribunal, however, the issues were resolved and we developed skills in dealing with future issues efficiently, lawfully and fairly.
I must add however, the staff we had the issue with probably didn't like them as they no longer were able to take the pee and were set very firm boundaries moving forward. Most of their previous 'issues' stopped swiftly and whilst they probably weren't happy they weren't able to continue on as before, lateness stopped, gossiping and bad-mouthing stopped, and any issues were recorded and resolved professionally and correctly.

They are not the enemy, it's only from moving from an employee to an employer did I fully understand the importance and real function of HR. If it wasn't for them our staffing issue would have turned out a nightmare and it would have seriously impacted our business. At the end of the day without a productive team that works well in the company, the company will be buggered. HR made sure that everyone knew where everyone stood and what the expectations were etc. and as a business owner I became better at managing my staff thanks to their guidance and expertise.

CleanQueen123 · 19/02/2024 20:28

Runnerinthenight · 19/02/2024 20:23

@CleanQueen123 and then they try another member of the ER team to see if they can elicit a different response....!

And should your colleague give the same message but worded in a slightly different way they'll then be asked to confirm that the original advice was indeed incorrect!

Managers will ask HR to confirm black is blue if it better serves their purpose.

Runnerinthenight · 19/02/2024 20:23

@CleanQueen123 and then they try another member of the ER team to see if they can elicit a different response....!

CleanQueen123 · 19/02/2024 20:19

Donke · 19/02/2024 20:11

My performance has always been excellent. I am competent and professional. But I will not put up with HR re-writing reality to suit themselves. Once they have decided on a particular policy/course of action they adopt a sort of institutional defensiveness against all challenge. People here who work in HR - are you open to employees suggesting that you might have got something wrong?

@Donke if I'm wrong I'll absolutely hold my hands up.

However, I also have to spend my days dealing with people telling me I'm wrong when I signpost them to the relevant policy. Apparently it being written in black and white isn't good enough. I must be wrong and have no idea what I'm talking about because they don't like what the policy says and want a different answer.

Runnerinthenight · 19/02/2024 20:15

@Donke of course, because as well as being a highly educated professional, I am also intelligent and willing to admit if I get it wrong!

Temporaryanonymity · 19/02/2024 20:13

It’s clear that most of you have no idea what HR are for. If you have issues then I’m sorry it’s your manager who should be your target.

CleanQueen123 · 19/02/2024 20:13

@Runnerinthenight same here. Degree, professional qualifications, looking at a Masters next.

My colleagues are diverse but all intelligent and highly competent. We're also all human beings and not afraid to call out managers for unfair or unethical behaviour.

Donke · 19/02/2024 20:11

My performance has always been excellent. I am competent and professional. But I will not put up with HR re-writing reality to suit themselves. Once they have decided on a particular policy/course of action they adopt a sort of institutional defensiveness against all challenge. People here who work in HR - are you open to employees suggesting that you might have got something wrong?

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MrsPinkCock · 19/02/2024 20:10

You’ve got to remember that in a lot of cases, preserving employees’ statutory/contractual rights is also protecting the employer from potentially expensive ET cases. It’s not one or the other.

I’ve come across a mix. The best HR Director I worked with genuinely cared for the staff and wasn’t afraid to tell the partners/CEO when they were in the wrong.

I’ve worked with others who are quite cold hearted and don’t massively care about individual people though.

Runnerinthenight · 19/02/2024 20:09

CleanQueen123 · Today 20:07

StartupRepair · Today 19:52

I work in HR. Much of my colleagues' time is spent mopping up after incompetent managers who do not understand our policies, ignore advice, misinform their staff and then blame us when it falls apart.
Public sector ER specialist here. You've pretty much summed up my entire role.

It's bloody depressing to see yet another HR slamming thread. I bend over backwards to ensure people are treated fairly and compassionately, as does the rest of my team.

Yet when we're not listened too and it all goes wrong the manager will always fall back on "I'm only doing what HR told me to do." Except that isn't true and the manager just doesn't want to take responsibility for their decisions.

Same. I'm also not stupid, BA Hons, MSc, professionally qualified, yada yada yada.

@Millie890 interested to know how you define the type of person? My colleagues are all very different.

stragglebeard · 19/02/2024 20:07

@Lucyccfc68 people are speaking from their own experience, as are you. This does not make them any more 'clueless' than you are.

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