To think it’s pushy to demand all my holiday information?

If you are asking if it is normal, yes, I would see it as normal parent/child info. Not sure what there is to be uneasy about per se.

So, let's say you didn't come home, and your DH went to report you missing, he would literally have to say he had no idea where in the world you'd gone missing? Given that Police have to get warrants and permissions to seek data from travel companies, and mobile phone companies, you could lose DAYS of valuable time trying to trace you. Why would you do this?

Well, Aron Ralston certainly wishes he'd told someone where he was going! Got stuck under a rock, in a crevice for 5 days. Didn't tell anyone where he was going, so they had no idea where to look. He had to gnaw his own hand off to escape.

It's sensible to tell someone your travel plans. It's pointless saying we all have mobiles - if you're involved in a crash or some kind of disaster, or terrorist attack, chances are you won't be contactable on your mobile. I remember the terrorist attacks in Tunisia. I bet loads of those people in nearby resorts (ie. not affected at all), had left their mobiles in the safe. Family members back home (if they didn't now what hotel their relative was in) probably had to wait 6 hours or so, to find out whether their loved one was dead or alive. Easily avoided !!

My son went to USA recently, and wouldn't share his itinerary with me, as in his words "he's an adult". I thought that was really stupid, given that he was travelling alone, and if something happened to him, I would have ZERO information to give to the Police. America is a big place, bloody hell, it would be good to narrow it down, had something gone wrong. He thought I was being ridiculous. I disagree!

I wonder if OP's DM supplies OP with this level of information when she goes away? If she doesn't, it rather washes out the "it's only sensible" type comments.

I would give my mother all the details and perhaps it will make her feel less anxious and she can refere to the details if she has memory problems or her friends ask...my mum has no memory now as has dementia so would love to discuss a holiday with her xx

None of that stops her mother being a pain in the neck.

or if she hears a plane going from London to New York has been hijacked or has crashed. Then she can check whether it is ours or not.

Mine asks for it too. She is quite old and worries easily so I give it to her. I don't mind. I guess she feels she could help in her own way. E.g., we are in Turkey and there is an earthquake. She can then share the information with the consulate.

Ask her 'why do you need to know that?' with a laughing emoji and thereafter ignore.

Stop feeding her info! She doesn’t need it and won’t do anything with it. Her anxiety is not your problem.

My Mum is in her mid-70s and I remember she used to want all this information when I started going abroad and she still occassionally asks about things like flight times. I think in the days pre-internet and mobile phone it used to be very common to share this type of information with nearest and dearest in case they needed to get in touch in an emergency. Now of course we'd just send a WhatsApp. Sounds like your mum is quite anxious/doesn't trust mobile technology? If it gives her peace of mind I'd just share the info - it's not like she's going to turn up and join you is she?

Does she have t know that you are away?

We always share basic details pre holidays, just in case of emergency. Never ask either way. Just automatically do it just in case.

Would like to be having to find info mid holiday though. Perhaps just do it beforehand in future and then cut down the updates whilst actually away.

It seems odd to me. I didn't do that for my mum and I dont't expect it of my adult D.C. in fact I've just come back from a solo trip away and my husband didn't have any of that information. He didn't ask for it and it didn't occur to me to provide it.

We used to just tell my in-laws the country we were going to. That was the extent of the inflection they got as MIL would phone up the owner etc. Now I don’t even tell them! Tell a friend where we’re going and when so someone knows and that’s it

My parents used to do this when I was in uni. Text when you get home and free out if text was more than 15 minutes late.

I know it was well intended but it drive me crazy. They were 3 hours away if anything happened me, they were too far away to help anyway.

I know every single one of their children, me included, lied about bring home on several occasions so they wouldn't worry.

Mil is like this, always has been. Tracked us down to hotels in Italy and Spain before mobile phones worked well abroad. We now give her fight details and address. Text to say we have arrived and ignore all other calls. They have now stopped. In your DM defence DS went away with uni recently and I did sk for flight details and hotel, BUT waited till he started WhatsAppong me photos before I messaged him. Maybe try the MIL option above?

But she would be doing that without the travel info: people who text too often do it whether they know where you are or not.

I get that the messaging is really annoying but not why providing details is.

If you just copy the flight nr and text it to her, she can click on it and all details will show up. She can follow the plane, see if it’s delayed and when it has landed etc.

Same here. Win win.

I think some people are missing the point here. The OP has given her mother her travel details. Mother is contacting OP every single day (and it's only 3 days) looking for this and that about her trip.

Seriously, that constant intrusion would drive anyone crazy, it is very intrusive and annoying really. Be honest - would you like your mother or whoever to be messaging you daily while on your hols, and perhaps with follow on questions looking for more and more information? I would scream TBH. Supplying the basics is enough, together with a photo or two or a message to home.

OP might as well be at home if this constant barrage of texts is spoiling her holiday. I would be mad as hell.

It would be normal for my mother to want the information, not normal in DH's family at all. It wouldn't occur to me to not give DM the info. It's not a hill I would die on. My DC are all adults and I wouldn't dream of needing the info. I'm far more interested in the photos and stories about the trip.

Ott imo. Ds20 has flown to Amsterdam.. Told him to stay safe and have a great time.. No interrogation..

With my elderly mother I'd say the point would be to make sure she had a list of people at hand to contact if she became unwell. There would also be someone else to check on her.

When I go away there is another family member who becomes the person who will deal with any emergencies.

Alternatively - if my brothers were both away - I might ask any friends in the neigbourhood if they minded keeping an eye on my mother.

I think we do need to switch off when we go away. Rather than having our aged parents messaging us saying things like, 'The boiler is making a funny noise.'

We're a family that check out flight radar so give each other flight numbers. Never gave an exact address though just mention the country and rough destination.