DP wants more money

If OP thinks she's resolved things then that's entirely up to her. I couldn't live with it personally, but whatever some of us think about the situation, she's the one who has got to get on with it. Quite honestly, I find it much more concerning that she's said her partner drinks too much and is an emergency worker.

Sounds like you’re in a good place with your DP. Now he knows not to push. Good luck to you both!

This man sounds finicially abusive. So you don't really know how much the man's mortgage is? He could be mortgage free for all you know. Sorry but I wouldn't move in a man's house with my DC you are in a VERY risky position. The man can't be trusted. I actually think this would be the end for me!

@Doughnut100 is right. You don't have a claim on your boyfriend's house. You knew the situation when you moved in. He is obviously not very nice but, ultimately, why would you have a claim on someone's mortgage?

Being with someone shouldn’t mean you get to live rent free. At the end of the day I’m with the OP on this, I think your going off on a tangent. I’ve always paid my way, which is half to everything regardless of who owns the house.
the op is happy to pay half but it’s becoming clear she is paying more than half, which definitely isn’t ok.
just curious if you owned a house and was paying the mortgage, would you let a partner move in with you and only pay half towards the household bills and nothing else.

Don't tell him how much you earn, or anything about your finances. He's treating you like a lodger while you help pay his mortgage

Because this isn't her landlord it's her partner! Why should he profit from her?

You’re throwing your money down the drain if you are renting, that’s life. Why should she be able to live somewhere rent free. Should you have a claim on your landlords house if you are paying rent, which is most likely to cover all of the mortgage 🤷‍♀️

@Mirabai
Indeed. Anything less than that is foolish.
OP is bending backwards (I'll be alright, I'll have inheritance... ) to facilitate his financial future as a single man, whilst completely ignoring her own needs and risks.

OP, I hope you don't inherit whilst still with this schemer - he'll most likely persuade you to pay off his mortgage with that money in one way or another.

I assume that sentence in the OP meant half to mortgage half all utilities/bills.

Why would you encourage OP to protect his asset if you married/went on the mortgage? Why are you not considering protecting your own assets? Why would you ever pay a mortgage on a property you will never own? You’d be much better off paying your own mortgage.

So has he now agreed total transparency and access to all utility bills and splitting all costs fairly? Are you now ceasing to pay his mortgage? Will you draw up some kind of rental contract to protect you in the event of a split? At the moment you have less rights than a lodger.

@Itsnotbeeneasy what I don’t understand is why you are paying all bills and utilities (as well as half his mortgage)? Why are you not paying half of the bills and utilities?

I don't think anyone here can judge from what the op has said, if it's a possibility for her.

What we can do is let her know it exists. Then she can get legal advice, if she chooses.

Finally, someone else in a similar situation may be reading this thread.

And they deserve to know, that some totally incorrect legal advice has been repeatedly handed out, as if it was fact.

So depressing that you intend to stay with this loser who has already shown you who he is. Why contemplate a lifetime with a lying problem drinker who is bad with money and shows you no respect. 😟

My 2 above posts explain why it’s of relevance even if OP wouldn’t pursue it.

Moreover, Op continued with this status quo for 10-15 years say, put her payments on DD labelled “mortgage” and contributed to renovations, then she’d have a reasonable claim.

What actually is the point in this bickering about beneficial interest? Yes it's theoretically possible, no it's not actually something that the OP can do. End of, surely?

Because as I said above whether she would actually make a claim is not the point, the point is that her DP is keen to do nothing that could form the basis of a claim, but is doing so all the same. So he and OP needs to know that.

And, as a by the way, any claim on a property to establish a beneficial interest is indeed very complicated. It would cost a huge amount of money for court fees (that's the only way to try to win anything) and hardly a route the OP wants to go down or could afford. A solicitor would need to prepare a case for the courts.

Yes, and some posters rather 'gloss over' these aspects, or don't mention them at all in their earlier posts - don't they?

I read your latest and literally laughed out loud.

Have a good day (but don't read all the other posts saying the same as mine or you ight get very worked up.)

It is possible to establish a beneficial interest in a property without being married.

It's complicated and something you'd need to speak to a solicitor about.

Firstly making sure you have a million or so in your bank account - you'd need this for the lawyers' bills. All very well saying ' you can do this, that or whatever' - and saying 'but it's complicated' is the under-estimation of the year. It's not just 'complicated', it's unusually completely unviable. Where's the money coming from to pay for the legal representation needed to actually do it? It's hardly a walk in the park to do yourself, it requires solid proof, and as I've said on here before, Tightwad partner will hang it out as long as he possibly can (he'll probably take advice and be advised to do so), knowing that she hasn't got the money to pursue it. Let's come into the real world here.

Whether OP could or would go to the stress and expense of a court case to argue beneficial interest after 2.5 years is completely beside the point. The fact is her DP is concerned about any payments that could create just such a circumstance - which is an excellent reason to stop making them.

Better still - leave.

What? You knew you were repeatedly posting incorrect legal advice?

I hope there are no consequences of this for anyone.

@GabriellaMontez At least I'm not wasting my time being insulting and calling other posters names. How childish.

And as a matter of fact I was aware of the legal side before I posted.
The odds of the OP getting a share in the property based on what she has said are incredibly low. So low it's probably not even worth considering.

Maybe take issue with all the dozens of other posters who've said the same thing? You'll find it takes up a lot of your day!

Well it's good to see you've finally done a quick Google and discovered there is a route to claiming a beneficial interest.

Perhaps you should ask for your earlier posts where you declare this is 'misinformation' be deleted.

Its a shame you're still arrogant enough to presume to know what legal route the OP should be going down.

By the way, I don't offer any legal advice on any of my posts other than 'speak to a solicitor'.