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My husband still thinks everything is because of Covid

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Woman355 · 16/02/2024 18:51

Sorry, I didn't know how to word the title.

His attitude is making me want a divorce. Ever since Covid he's adopted views which I completely disagree with and I think he's verging on conspiracy theory.

I just mentioned to him this evening that Chris Hoy has cancer.

Instantly he said "that's because of the Covid vaccine."

WHAT???

I'm actually so angry because he genuinely believes he's right and I'm wrong.

Everything that goes wrong is because of the vaccine.

Wwyd in this situation?

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Lea3 · 17/02/2024 01:28

Srgchh · 16/02/2024 22:43

I thought you were saying you didn’t agree with the lockdowns, but apparently you do so we seem to be on the same page here. I willingly locked down each time and would do so again.

I say: Never Again.

WandaWonder · 17/02/2024 01:24

There is a lot of threads on here people still using covid as an excuse on here

Lea3 · 17/02/2024 01:14

Frequency · 16/02/2024 18:53

I would ask him when he qualified as a medical professional. Also, ask if he can provide any peer-reviewed studies that support his theory, and if not why not?

The "peer review" meme again! Haven't you heard of the replication crisis? Most research is junk.

Arbor · 17/02/2024 01:07

@niadainud

She literally said - twice - it was nothing to do with the vaccine.

But then, awkwardly, she wrote: "Technically I was right as people contracted covid from the time of the vaccine so "from" doesn't mean literally, it could refer to a timescale".

niadainud · 17/02/2024 00:41

Meowandthen · 16/02/2024 20:54

That is not due to a vaccine. Surely you can see the difference?

She literally said - twice - it was nothing to do with the vaccine.

niadainud · 17/02/2024 00:23

bozzabollix · 16/02/2024 20:10

OP I feel for you. It’s not just a difference of opinion. It’s going to make it so you just don’t have any respect for him.

Lots of relationships have suffered because of this utter shit, people become radicalised and you lose them. I think there is help out there, I read an article about a man who went down this rabbit hole but has managed to come to his senses, he now works trying to educate people about these issues.

As for the previous poster saying not every opinion is equal, you’re right, I think it’s the ultimate arrogance not to listen to experts. It shows a total lack of self awareness to not realise the limitations of your knowledge.

Do you have the link to that article please?

CKL987 · 17/02/2024 00:14

MamaAlwaysknowsbest · 16/02/2024 19:18

I don't blame anything on covid nor the vaccine itself. Never taken the vaccine, nor will take it on, so everybody who thinks certain ways, can think what they want. We still live in a free speech country. Stop mocking the poor conspiracy theorists

Actually this country is not a country of free speech. Hate speech is not allowed. You can get into trouble for saying certain things and too fucking right.

Arbor · 17/02/2024 00:11

@hot2trotter

Nonsense. How could you possibly know that it was much worse the first time because you hadn't had the vaccine at that point?

I've also had covid 3 times, the first time was much much worse than the second and third. And I haven't had a single vaccine. It was down to my body having the antibodies ready to fight the infection again.

So - a vaccine induces the body to create antibodies without the need of going through the infection itself. When you then meet the infection itself, the body knows how to deal with it. That is why second and third infections - or infections after vaccination - are not as severe as first infections. You are correct, but so is the other poster.

Charlotte989 · 16/02/2024 23:44

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Mrspatmoresspoon · 16/02/2024 23:41

@Charlotte989 You need to spend more time proofreading your posts and less time being unpleasant

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Er 22:54 and I quote:

@Charlotte989 Well given over 95% of people in the Uk have contracted covid from a vaccine which needs to be repeated multiple times

You - quite clearly stating that people contracted covid from the vaccine. Who’s posting crap now?

Charlotte989 · 16/02/2024 23:38

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Flamme · 16/02/2024 23:32

I'm reminded of the people who were convinced during the pandemic that the whole thing was a government plot to kill us all off. I never heard one of them explain why the government would want to bugger the economy and kill us off, despite numerous requests.

I wonder how those people now reconcile the fact that most of us are still alive with their theories? Do they think it was an incompetent government plot or something?

Mrspatmoresspoon · 16/02/2024 23:32

vodkaredbullgirl · 16/02/2024 23:28

Hopefully they gone quiet

Maybe it’s cos of the vaccine 😂

vodkaredbullgirl · 16/02/2024 23:28

Mrspatmoresspoon · 16/02/2024 23:27

No one got Covid from the vaccine @Charlotte989 and stop hogging the thread, you’re being incredibly unhelpful

Op this would drive me up the wall. I’d find it incredibly unattractive too. Does he have other redeeming features. Marriage counselling worth a try?

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Hopefully they gone quiet

Mrspatmoresspoon · 16/02/2024 23:27

No one got Covid from the vaccine @Charlotte989 and stop hogging the thread, you’re being incredibly unhelpful

Op this would drive me up the wall. I’d find it incredibly unattractive too. Does he have other redeeming features. Marriage counselling worth a try?

1dayatatime · 16/02/2024 23:26

@MadeOfAllWork

"The vaccine doesn’t stop you catching it, it stops it being so bad. I’ve had Covid 3 times. Once before I was vaccinated and twice afterwards. The one when I was unvaccinated was so much worse."

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I absolutely agree with you that the vaccine doesn't stop you catching or spreading Covid it simply stops the reaction being so bad.

That said at the time the majority believed that the vaccine did indeed stop you catching it and did indeed stop you spreading it. The whole campaign and societal pressure that those refusing the vaccine were endangering us all. Anyone questioning the vaccine's ability to stop you catching it or spreading it was labelled an anti vaxxer conspiracy theorist or with a low intelligence.

Further more I have no doubt that the as a novel virus the first time you contracted Covid your bodily reaction was worse than the second or third time.

Genuine question, do you think this was due to having had the vaccine by bout two and three or by having developed natural antibodies by bout two and three?

Davros · 16/02/2024 23:16

I suggest anyone interested in this topic listens to Why Do You Hate Me? On BBC Sounds

owlsinthedaylight · 16/02/2024 23:13

@Woman355 I think, unintentionally, your thread has perfectly illustrated the problem that you are currently living with.

It must be utterly exhausting. I don’t know how you are managing.

Does he recognise there is a problem? Does he see that something has changed? Or is he oblivious?

Has something happened that might have triggered his behaviour?

Iwantmyoldnameback · 16/02/2024 23:12

Why do people blame the vaccine but not the original Virus? No one knows what they were trying to create in that lab and the lying about it for so long was not helpful.

Charlotte989 · 16/02/2024 23:09

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StarDolphins · 16/02/2024 23:09

Prizefighter · 16/02/2024 23:05

This is awful but also typical. Conspiracy theorists of one theory start subscribing to lots of other unsubstantiated theories.

There is a typical believer and it is to do with mental health/lack of control/narcissism. A need to believe they know more/better than the next person. It helps make up for other anger or resentment. Conspiracy theorists don’t tend to be happy and successful types.

This is so interesting, thank you. The reason we split was his need to be ‘top dog’ and in his words ‘put on a pedestal’ along with other grumpy behaviour, which just didn’t work for me once we had a child. He also is prone to anxiety & very highly strung.

Makes perfect sense!

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