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My husband still thinks everything is because of Covid

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Woman355 · 16/02/2024 18:51

Sorry, I didn't know how to word the title.

His attitude is making me want a divorce. Ever since Covid he's adopted views which I completely disagree with and I think he's verging on conspiracy theory.

I just mentioned to him this evening that Chris Hoy has cancer.

Instantly he said "that's because of the Covid vaccine."

WHAT???

I'm actually so angry because he genuinely believes he's right and I'm wrong.

Everything that goes wrong is because of the vaccine.

Wwyd in this situation?

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YoureALizardHarry11 · 16/02/2024 21:20

Study after study shows that conspiracy theorists, by and large, lack intelligence and are under educated with no analytical skills. That also plays out in real life as I’ve never met one I thought was remotely intelligent. You can tell by the way they type/talk as well as the way they repeat the same sound bites with no originality. Give it a rest. Yes, it would annoy me and I’d divorce 😂

ShyPinkHelper · 16/02/2024 21:13

Cough on 'im.

PeopleAreWeird · 16/02/2024 21:10

Lots of people like this around now

Someone in the crowd of a football game collapses, Everyone says ‘ Was the vaccine that caused it ‘

‘Someone diagnosed with a blood clot , everyone says
‘Vaccine thats done it’

Its SOOO boring !!!!

ShiveringMeTimbers · 16/02/2024 21:09

I have a friend who does this, except instead of Covid it’s ‘trauma’.

‘X has just found out they have cancer’

’Had they experienced trauma?’

’X has an autoimmune disease’

‘I bet it was triggered by trauma’

‘I don’t understand why X is being such a twat’

’Maybe because of trauma?’

Arghhhh

MamaAlwaysknowsbest · 16/02/2024 21:06

so people ridiculing the poster's husband of being stupid and she should divorce him? What a lovely bunch of people hey

BuffaloGirl · 16/02/2024 21:00

bringmorewashing · 16/02/2024 19:15

Sympathy OP. I have a family member who blames everything on Covid vaccines and has now gone down a rabbit hole of other conspiracies. At this point, they can hardly go five minutes over a cup of tea without wedging vaccines, Russia or Trump into any random conversation! Thankfully I can reduce contact. If DH did this I wouldn't be able to stand it.

Are we related? 😂

I’ve got to the point with my relative that I’m amazed anyone died at all before the vaccine.

I reduce contact. If it was my DH I think I’d seriously consider divorce.

Trulyme · 16/02/2024 20:59

I know quite a few people like your DH and it’s worrying.

I think some people really struggled with the fact that there was something that was out of their/the government’s control and it really scared them and so now they live in constant fear.

The only way they can cope with that fear is to find something to blame.

I honestly couldn’t be with someone who was so stupid and I would need a very frank discussion with him and explain that if he carries on you will have to rethink the relationship.

MamaAlwaysknowsbest · 16/02/2024 20:59

no worries, mama always best.

Combattingthemoaners · 16/02/2024 20:59

Updownleftandright · 16/02/2024 19:00

It's just a difference of opinion surely? I mean you obviously got on when you married, so why would someone saying they don't agree on one thing make you want to divorce them. Is there more to this?

I don't agree with everything my OH says, but I wouldn't fall out over one difference of opinion.

But his opinion is clearly ludicrous and based on conspiracies.

ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 16/02/2024 20:56

Updownleftandright · 16/02/2024 19:00

It's just a difference of opinion surely? I mean you obviously got on when you married, so why would someone saying they don't agree on one thing make you want to divorce them. Is there more to this?

I don't agree with everything my OH says, but I wouldn't fall out over one difference of opinion.

Hmmm. I wouldn’t be with anyone who has this ‘difference of opinion’

Meowandthen · 16/02/2024 20:56

MamaAlwaysknowsbest · 16/02/2024 20:54

Not a conspiracy theorist, no worries
however, I do not do adult vaccines if this what the opinion is based upon

Eh? Your comments are somewhat incoherent. Are you suggesting that you don’t get vaccines??? If so, that screams conspiracy nutter.

edit for annoying autocorrect

Meowandthen · 16/02/2024 20:54

1dayatatime · 16/02/2024 20:34

@Woman355

"I just mentioned to him this evening that Chris Hoy has cancer.

Instantly he said "that's because of the Covid vaccine." "

++++

To be fair to your DH whilst Covid vaccines had bugger all to do with cancer rates, the lockdowns did discourage people going to the doctors meaning that many cancers were not detected or diagnosed until late stage. Equally some cancer patients had their cancer treatments delayed because of Covid as well.

As a result deaths from cancer have increased as a result of the Covid measures. But to be clear this has nothing to do with the vaccine.

That is not due to a vaccine. Surely you can see the difference?

MamaAlwaysknowsbest · 16/02/2024 20:54

Not a conspiracy theorist, no worries
however, I do not do adult vaccines if this what the opinion is based upon

Meowandthen · 16/02/2024 20:52

Updownleftandright · 16/02/2024 19:00

It's just a difference of opinion surely? I mean you obviously got on when you married, so why would someone saying they don't agree on one thing make you want to divorce them. Is there more to this?

I don't agree with everything my OH says, but I wouldn't fall out over one difference of opinion.

That is not a difference of opinion. The husband is a foil hat wearing fuckwit.

Merryoldgoat · 16/02/2024 20:50

faxnoink · 16/02/2024 20:44

It's interesting the one conspiracy theorist on here struggles with reading comprehension

I noticed that too.

faxnoink · 16/02/2024 20:44

It's interesting the one conspiracy theorist on here struggles with reading comprehension

ShinyAppleDreamingOfTheSea · 16/02/2024 20:42

@MamaAlwaysknowsbest

The poster wants opinions , not to be shut down

The OP was asking opinions on how she should handle her husband who has been taken over by conspiracy theories in respect of the Covid vaccine . She wasn't asking for opinions on his views.

Not one person is shutting the OP down . Most are agreeing that living with someone like this would be very difficult .

1dayatatime · 16/02/2024 20:34

@Woman355

"I just mentioned to him this evening that Chris Hoy has cancer.

Instantly he said "that's because of the Covid vaccine." "

++++

To be fair to your DH whilst Covid vaccines had bugger all to do with cancer rates, the lockdowns did discourage people going to the doctors meaning that many cancers were not detected or diagnosed until late stage. Equally some cancer patients had their cancer treatments delayed because of Covid as well.

As a result deaths from cancer have increased as a result of the Covid measures. But to be clear this has nothing to do with the vaccine.

Suchagroovyguy · 16/02/2024 20:33

“You’ve lost grip on reality. You cannot see it. And that’s why I have to leave you. I hope one day you’ll understand, but I cannot live like this.”

I’d leave.

HappierTimesAhead · 16/02/2024 20:30

This is tricky. During the pandemic my OH was the opposite and it really grated on me by the end (when we understood the risk was minimal).
Conspiracy theorists seem to either have a lower IQ or mental health problem or both.

Greenpolkadot · 16/02/2024 20:24

A friend of my dsis has an arsehole husband who prattles on about this to anyone who will listen.
No chance of a normal conversation, he launches straight into the reasons why he thinks it's a conspiracy.Boring as fuck.
Tell that to all the relatives of the poor people who died

bozzabollix · 16/02/2024 20:10

OP I feel for you. It’s not just a difference of opinion. It’s going to make it so you just don’t have any respect for him.

Lots of relationships have suffered because of this utter shit, people become radicalised and you lose them. I think there is help out there, I read an article about a man who went down this rabbit hole but has managed to come to his senses, he now works trying to educate people about these issues.

As for the previous poster saying not every opinion is equal, you’re right, I think it’s the ultimate arrogance not to listen to experts. It shows a total lack of self awareness to not realise the limitations of your knowledge.

AndThatWasNY · 16/02/2024 20:07

Updownleftandright · 16/02/2024 19:00

It's just a difference of opinion surely? I mean you obviously got on when you married, so why would someone saying they don't agree on one thing make you want to divorce them. Is there more to this?

I don't agree with everything my OH says, but I wouldn't fall out over one difference of opinion.

No it shows a lack of basic intelligence and ability to be manipulated which is deeply unattractive.