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Terrified i'm dying!!!!

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Lostmymind11 · 16/02/2024 16:37

Sorry if this is on the wrong thread but i'm not sure where to put it

Nearly 2yrs ago i had surgery to remove a sarcoma (no treatment afterwards as not needed). My 6 month scan was clear and i had another scan 4wks ago to check if it had come back. The hospital have rang today and told me they had booked me in next Friday to see a member of the surgery team. I am abaolutely terrified and beside myself with worry. I am a single parent to a very young child who has no contact with dad due to domestic abuse. I barely have any family/friend support. If the cancer is back i really don't know what i will do. I feel physically ill

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Acapulco12 · 24/02/2024 02:18

I’m so sorry OP 🌺🌺

ImANameChanger01 · 24/02/2024 02:17

Wishing you all the strength in the world for your treatment plan. I can’t sleep so will check back incase you want to speak here in these early hours. Sending hugs your way

CraftyTaupeOtter · 24/02/2024 02:16

I'm sorry you're going through this OP. It's a scary time for you, definitely. I'm glad you have the support of your Mum and I do hope the doctors are able to give you some encouragement when you see them. I take it you have no prognosis as of yet?

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Lostmymind11 · 24/02/2024 02:10

My mum is going to take time off work and move in while i have surgery/treatment to care for us. I just can't stop thinking i won't see my child grow up and won't remember me. Life isn't fair

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Salaaaaaaaah · 24/02/2024 01:26

SophiaLaB · 24/02/2024 00:47

So sorry to hear your update. Hopefully they have found it early and the medics will get a treatment plan in place quickly. Sending hugs x

Echo this entirely. You poor thing having to wait a week for the update. Think I'd have been too impatient and lost it over the phone.

Fingers crossed everything goes well with the next course of action OP.

JadeandGreen · 24/02/2024 00:53

Thinking of you Flowers

SophiaLaB · 24/02/2024 00:47

So sorry to hear your update. Hopefully they have found it early and the medics will get a treatment plan in place quickly. Sending hugs x

PebbleDashAtOne · 24/02/2024 00:39

Oh Lordy that’s rough, I’m sorry. Wishing you all the best with treatments. Sending hugs. X

weebarra · 24/02/2024 00:28

I didn't wish you luck yesterday but I've been following your thread and thinking about you. I'm so sorry to hear your news.
I'm a ten year cancer survivor so don't feel I can really comment but I do think getting in touch with social services is a good idea.
I'm thinking of you.

adriftinadenofvipers · 24/02/2024 00:17

That's just shit. Thinking of you xx

caringcarer · 24/02/2024 00:07

Lostmymind11 · 23/02/2024 18:46

Thanks everyone.. Its not goos news at all, the cancer is back and in my liver. They aren't even sure they can operate at the moment

I've been thinking of you all day OP. It must be a terrible shock for you. Although it's bad news it's returned, they have found it so hopefully they can treat you quickly. If you don't have any family or friends who can care for your DC whilst you have surgery then you need to ring SS and see if they can go to a foster carer temporarily. Hopefully if they need this SS can find one who lives close to you so kids can stay in the same nursery/school. I'm a foster carer and in the past I've looked after 2 little brothers whilst their Mum was in hospital having an operation and then follow up therapy. After the first 3 days I took them into hospital to see their Mum most days she was there. I taught them to play Top Trumps and their Mum played that with them. They stayed about 30 mins each time. They made her a get well card.

Londontown12 · 23/02/2024 23:43

Sending u lots of love
🥰 this is awful 😞
Praying for u x x x x

Strugglebus · 23/02/2024 23:41

I’m so sorry you’ve had this news today, OP. Especially after the stress of waiting. I am sending you strength and I hope you get a plan soon. I hope you find plenty of real life support too. When my daughter had cancer I found some of the best support came from unlikely places like her nursery and her sister’s school. I had to swallow my pride and accept more help than I’m used to and I’ve never forgotten how kind lots of people were. It really helped. Thinking of you

ArtificialIntelligenceBeingUnreasonable · 23/02/2024 23:21

Op so sorry to hear your update. Wish you all the very best.

Frazzled2108 · 23/02/2024 23:06

So sorry it's not the best news. Hopefully you will be able to have surgery. Please continue to post if you feel it helps. We are all here for you.

Definitelynotem · 23/02/2024 23:00

Sorry to hear this OP and how frustrating that you had to wait so long for your results. I hope you get a plan in place soon x

mcmooberry · 23/02/2024 22:54

Oh God I am so sorry to hear this, there is a cancer and serious illness board on here, sometimes you just need to speak to people who know exactly how you are feeling and can talk you down and stop you feeling everything is hopeless. This was picked up at a routine scan and not because you felt unwell so that will surely be positive in terms of getting treatment at an earlier stage. Please don't feel alone. Am sure practical help will be willingly offered once you know what you need and if you are willing to say where in the country you are xx

Nanaof1 · 23/02/2024 22:51

Lostmymind11 · 23/02/2024 18:46

Thanks everyone.. Its not goos news at all, the cancer is back and in my liver. They aren't even sure they can operate at the moment

I am so sorry to read this.
I'm glad you had someone with you. The MRI/PET scan will be the best way to figure out how to fight this.
Hopefully, they can get a plan in place quickly. You have a lot of MNers pulling for you as you fight this fight.

{{HUGS}}

DollyPartonsLeftTit · 23/02/2024 22:51

Thinking of you @Lostmymind11 xo

Frangipanyoul8r · 23/02/2024 22:47

💐

Everythinggreen · 23/02/2024 22:46

So very sorry to see this. I hope you're holding up OK. Very glad you have your friend there to support you.
Much love to you x

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nocoolnamesleft · 23/02/2024 22:36

I am so sorry. I hope you have a plan soon. Fuck cancer.

Mugcake · 23/02/2024 22:34

So sorry to hear this OP, thinking of you and your little one. Try and lean on what support you do have and look after yourself as best you can 💐

Goldbar31 · 23/02/2024 22:33

Really sorry and thinking of you ❤️