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To have yelled and dragged child out

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Yellinginmuseum · 16/02/2024 15:49

I know I was being unreasonable but I’m not sure how else I should have dealt with this.

I took my three year old and nearly 1 year old - not yet walking - to a museum. It wasn’t pram friendly so had to carry her round and she’s heavy. Three year old went round and enjoyed it and then wanted to go back in. It was a one way system so was trying to explain to him he couldn’t get in through the door he was trying. He ended up having a tantrum. Eventually he shot off and ran in through the right door, I tried to follow but a crowd of people got in my way and when I eventually caught up with him I was saying his name over and over and he was just blanking me. In the end I shouted STOP IGNORING ME and dragged him out Sad

I am not sure what else I should have done.

OP posts:
sprigatito · 16/02/2024 15:54

It depends on what you mean by "dragged". If you took him firmly by the hand/wrist and firmly walked him out, or picked him up and carried him, fine. Actual dragging is violent and not acceptable. I teach young children and have made a safeguarding referral in the past when I saw a parent literally drag a child across the playground by the arm.

MixedCouple · 16/02/2024 15:53

I feel foe you my just turned 2yr old has startes to ignore me. And yes some Reigns.
Also a baby wrap so your hands free is a great idea. Used it loads with DS.

SulkySeagull · 16/02/2024 15:52

Meh, sounds like a very average day out with 2 very young kids to me! I have twins and when they were little we had lots of days out that ended in meltdowns/tears/telling off etc.

in hindsight I wouldn’t have put pressure on myself to take my kids to somewhere where they are expected to behave and do what they’re told. The park is really the best place for them!

Daisybuttercup12345 · 16/02/2024 15:51

A back pack with rein on it sounds good. Another time it might be a busy road.

Hoglet70 · 16/02/2024 15:51

I don't see what's wrong with what you did. He was being a little brat and you had to grab him and get him back. He definitely didn't deserve to stay there after running away from you.