To have yelled and dragged child out

Saw a toddler in Sainsbury’s yesterday running around all the checkouts whilst his grandmother was trying to get to him. Eventually someone blocked him and grandmother was able to retrieve him - she didn’t let go of his hand after that, luckily he was compliant for her.
I had to abandon my shopping once as DS legged it from the checkouts towards the doors - had to carry him back like he was a rugby ball and stuff him in his buggy. He wasn’t usually a bolter I think he just saw a break for freedom and took it - little sod.

Yanbu op. Hopefully it would have shocked him in to realising he was naughty.

Great that you took your son to a museum he loved so much he wanted to go back in! Gloss over the other bits. We've all been there.

I’m reminded of one DT under an arm, the other holding my hand nicely. DT screams to be put down, which I did. He threw himself on the floor only to discover the floor was wet so he roared about that. Back under the arm he went. Those were the days.

Dungarees are absolute life savers. They are the best parenting hack ever.

10 years later I now laugh about having to carry ds surfboard style home from the shops while he was having a full on tantrum at age 3. I could have cried at the time.

I certainly would have said exactly the same op. A child needs to learn to behave to keep them safe. Public outings , car parks etc.
I was strict with mine on safety and they probably appreciate it now (7 and 10).
I've yelled at mine before for crossing the road without me saying go. We then watched safety videos *she was older than 3.
I'd try and explain it to your child in terms of safety.

I thought you were going to say it was someone else’s child you dragged out! Not unreasonable at all. Sometimes all you can do is to remove them from the situation.

I once carried my 2 year old kicking and screaming out of a church like a suitcase, hanging on to the back of his dungerees.
Then stuck him next to a tombstone outside and let him yell in out while I waited in a bench for the fury to subside. Little fecker.

We can’t be expected to keep our cool at all times and model perfect parenting 🤷🏼‍♀️ I’ve been in your shoes many many times - as long as you’re not being violent or screaming abuse at them I think you’re being completely reasonable.

Toddlers push buttons and we’re only human.

We’ve all been there. Those that say they haven’t are lying.

Honestly I lost DC 1 on multiple occasions despite being a perfectly adequate parent.

I didn’t ever lose DC2.

DC1 was designed as a product tester for parent robots I reckon, designed to find and highlight every flaw.

We’ve all been there! And any parent who says they haven’t is either lying or suffering from memory loss!

As a mum who ended up carrying kids under arms out of many attractions and supermarkets while either fuming or crying. You are not alone. You will look back one day and laugh at dc being a wee toad

@Whatsmyusername1235 well, he wasn't exactly being a little angel either so we'll agree to disagree on that one.

Toddlers have tantrums, wouldn’t say he was being “a little brat”

You definitely didn't need to yell, "Stop ignoring me!" at a three year old...

@Yellinginmuseum I'm not a yeller, I'm more of a low stern voice & a 'look' that says 'don't even think about disobeying me'. It's probably more scary than your yelling! Probably less drawing of attention.

But it makes no difference. We all just do what we need to do to get the situation under control. Anyone that doesn't like it can offer practical help or mind their own business!!

id give the museum some feedback.

Hey OP
sounds stressful but for what’s its worth you aren’t the first parent and won’t be the last.
Toddlers are hard work! Be easy on yourself

Yes reins if not reliable recall (as with dogs and leads I always think), backpack or sling/hip wrap for baby, and absolutely you had to grab him, but shouting probably not necessary (though I get you must have been stressed) and you actually in my experience feel calmer later on if you don't shout but just grab and remove. It's already evident to others and him that he's not doing what he's asked to do, and shouting can then make you feel you've behaved badly so you end up apologising to the child etc... I found silent removal and a quiet talk was effective.

I don't see what else you can do in a situation like that OP.

Im passed that phase but my god I remember them, they turn in to little demons. Don't be hard on yourself, all mums have been there

Some occasions are crap- not at all the lovely outing you were envisioning!

What I would do if I found myself there again, is to hold the scruff of the clothes and stand still. You can grip pretty hard, unlike an arm, and he can’t really get hurt. I’d say no and just resist until he pays attention.

It’s quite tough, but explaining only works when DC is listening. If he isn’t in the mood to listen then don’t waste your breath. Just stand still and let him wear himself out until he listens.

You were good to even attempt that outing I’d say! It’s hard work carrying a heavy baby.