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What does FWB mean to you?

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Curiousto · 14/02/2024 20:07

There has been a few threads across all the boards recently where people in FWB arrangements have been told they aren't FWB by other MN users. One poster said they were exclusive FWB, and was told by another poster they weren't FWB, but were in a relationship.

On this night of lurve, what does FWB mean to you?

I've read with interest as for me, my FWB and I message every day, several times a day. We see each other about once a fortnight for the weekend. I've stayed at his for 6 days in a row. We go to the cinema, to restaurants, on walks, bike rides, to pubs, day trips out to local cities. Been on 2 UK 4 day breaks together. We've got events planned in the diary up to August. We've met each others friends and family.

We talk about the stresses of life and have supported each other through some tough situations. We mostly message, rarely call. It's been this way for 18 months.

I've slept with 3 others and been on a few dates in that 18 months. He doesn't know about them. He may have slept with others. I don't know. Not my business.

It works for us.

If you're in/have had FWB, what works for you?

If you've never experienced FWB, what are your thoughts?

OP posts:
ExtraOnions · 14/02/2024 20:35

You’re in a non-exclusive relationship

FWB doesn’t have that level of intensity

Curiousto · 14/02/2024 20:34

My FWB - was literally that.
We hung out for drinks / with our joint friends; went home, shagged had breakfast repeat.
Literally friends who slept together

That sounds like fuckbuddys to me.

I have things planned in the diary with friends for the year. We restaurant, cinema, walk, bike ride, have days out. I've holidayed wth them. I message with another friend at least twice a day. Lots of my friends have met my family and other friends. I share my life traumas with my friends, as they do with me.

All those things are what friends do.

I'd really like the "exclusive FWB" poster to come on here. I'd like to hear more about how that works for them.

OP posts:
LilBus · 14/02/2024 20:21

Some of the fwb I read on here are clearly just fuck buddies

Hipnotised · 14/02/2024 20:18

Fuck buddy.

Not had one, mind - not sure DH would be too happy 😂

ChannelyourinnerElsa · 14/02/2024 20:18

You’re in a relationship as far as I am concerned.

a FWB for me is someone I can have a drink with, and a shag. I wouldn’t normally message much outside of organising either of those two things. For me, it is “safe” as in not with a complete stranger in a random property, predictable and fun sex, with someone I can chat to in the glass of wine that comes before but I don’t need to explain why I’m leaving at 7am to.

ChangedUserName13 · 14/02/2024 20:17

Yours sounds like a relationship / open relationship.

My FWB - was literally that.
We hung out for drinks / with our joint friends; went home, shagged had breakfast repeat.
Literally friends who slept together

We'd occasionally catch up in the week to see if either of us were around at weekend / if we saw something the it he would like - memes etc

CantFindTheBeat · 14/02/2024 20:16

I think introducing to each other's families is unusual.

Notevenslightlydamp · 14/02/2024 20:13

That sounds like a relationship to me.
I had a FWB - we'd go out for a drink, have a laugh, have a shag, go separate ways and repeat. We got on well but we were mates who slept together but we didn't share our lives to anything near the extent you do. I'd text him if I saw something he'd find funny etc, but he was not in my 'inner circle of friendship' (that is not a euphemism).