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Sad my grandchildren will go to boarding school

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MiMaMe · 13/02/2024 19:01

I have 2 sons, eldest lives locally we see his children most weeks. Youngest lives in Paris currently, but they move somewhat often. He and his wife have a 2 year old and are expecting their second. We have come to visit them for a week.
In conversation it has come up that they plan to send their kids to boarding school as they move about every 2 years. His wife boarded from 8, weekly boarding until 11 then full boarding. She went to a prestigious international boarding school and said it was incredible. They plan to replicate this, perhaps waiting until 11 to board at all if they can.

I don’t know many people who liked boarding, we considered it but decided it was very cold. They already have a nanny who seems to see our grandchild a lot more than her parent do. AIBU to be sad about this?

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IgglePiggledidawiggle · 13/02/2024 19:05

Sounds like with their work it will bring the child stability as boarding schools are a home from home now. A lot is done with safeguarding. I loved boarding and my oldest is boarding with the intention that the others will too.

If it’s very obvious that the child might hate it then that’s a reasonable discussion for them to have but them not doing it because you find it a bit sad isn’t a reason.

LG93 · 13/02/2024 19:04

In their situation it's probably preferable to moving every 2 years as they can form friendships etc but I can appreciate why you're feeling sad about it.

Shiningout · 13/02/2024 19:03

Well ofc you're not unreasonable to be sad, I would be too. But nothing you can really do about it

Naptrappedmummy · 13/02/2024 19:02

YANBU it’s awful. So many people in my life with boarding school syndrome - it’s so sad seeing what it’s done to them.