Sick of pretending to wear heels

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Of course clothing can be respectful or disrespectful. It's part of the fabric of society. There is a reason you wouldn't wear certain attire to weddings, funerals, christenings, even to your place of work.

The fabric of society generally tends to be a little bit less uptight about details like shoes these days. The lines between formal and informal wear are blurring, and there is a tendency to dress more casually and comfortably than before, both at social events and at work in many sectors.

I said shoes weren't disrespectful, I didn't say there are no situations where it could be disrespectful to wear certain things. A bikini at the office? A brightly-coloured t-shirt with a humorous slogan at a funeral? Definitely inappropriate. Insufficiently elegant footwear at a wedding? Nope. You might not like it aesthetically, but I can't see how it's disrespectful.

I was at three weddings recently and honestly could not tell you what footwear guests wore by one person who had the same shoes as I did. She noticed we had the same, I didn't.

Personally I wouldn't wear dm with a pretty dress but I am not the kind of person who can carry that look off.

I find next online is a good place to look for flats for weddings etc.

I'm astounded how many people apparently care so much about what others wear. Even at my own wedding, clean and tidyish is fine afaic.

I don't think anyone really cares or notices what footwear other guests wear to a wedding. If I did notice, I would assume you were going for 'quirky ' a la Scarlett from 4 weddings.

I really miss wearing heels but I can't now since I broke my hip. They always hurt like a bastard though, so I preferred chunkier ones or platforms.
No reason why you should wear them if you don't want to or feel uncomfortable. They fuck up your feet anyway.

Just check with the bride and groom.

If they’re reasonable, nice people and not completely batshit and shallow they won’t have a problem with you wearing Doc Martens. I wouldn’t give a toss what shoes people wore to my wedding.

But this is Mumsnet, you’re going to get hundreds of Pearl clutching whiners that think anything that is fashion-alternative is ghastly.

For my dd's prom, lots of the girls wore DMs with their gowns. Not a wedding but it is the way forward.

I have a pair of sequined Kate Spade trainers specifically for events like this. I love them- in Rose Gold.

I used to but not anymore
Size 8 in my 20s, nice clothes, heels and all of that for a culture where in order to be in an office job, you had to be nice.

since came in England I realised that men are most crazy about me when I am size 14

Personally I love the boots!
I got married in the 90's and really wanted to wear my DM's but my mother talked me out of it and i ended up in dainty white heels :( I really really wish I'd stuck to my guns and wore my DM's.

Wear the DM's @EarthyMangold Nobody (except the minority of judgemental types on MN and my mother ) will care.

I wouldn’t appreciate it if someone came to my wedding in DM boots, there are loads of really cool flat shoes around

Such as…???

Im still not seeing any actual options being suggested 😉

I linked the sandals to somebody asking about comfortable footwear for their summer holidays. I wear DMs and trainers. Completely flat shoes really aren't that comfortable to wear all day as they have no arch support. For a wedding, I'd wouldn't wear DMs or flats. There are lots of options.

The people who invited you to their wedding did so because they love you, or at least like you a lot. Why wouldn’t they want their guests to be happy and comfortable? A wedding invitation is not an order to get trussed up like a turkey. It’s a reason to celebrate- to eat and drink and laugh and dance - and that’s all best done in clothing and footwear that is comfortable and makes you feel good. If you feel great in a Herve Leger bandage dress and a pair of Manolo Blahniks (sp?) then go for it. If you feel great in a pair of DMs and a flowing golden skirt - also fine.

It sounds nice for a night out. Depends if your friend would care about what shoes you are wearing. I found that having a baby/ toddler to chase around was a good reason not to wear my special heels at weddings and I never went back. I did get a nice not doc like pair of almost knee high leather boots for fancy clothes, flat heel.

You spoke to soon 😂

@Maybebabble

If you want to end an interaction with someone you only need to stop talking to them. I'm not telling you to "move on". If someone talks directly to me here I'll choose whether or not to respond.

You can stop talking to me if you want to.

Ha. Pot, meet kettle.

and will crave the last word regardless of its value!

It's the equivalent of a man saying "but I'm more comfortable in jeans". It's not fine, it's a wedding. It is about dressing respectfully. It doesn't matter that the boots are fucking horrible. It matters that they're not in any way wedding appropriate.

DMs are great but not really appropriate for a wedding IMO.

If someone posts something to me on an online forum I'll respond if I feel like it. That's how it works.

@Doublenoogahsilvousplait
Good grief. Will you please stop lecturing me.
I disagree with you, and you me. That’s all.

You can move on now 😂

I adore my DMs but they are not a wedding party attire.
Ps I am a massive flat shoe fan here but your choice is inappropriate, you might as well wear jeans.