Sick of pretending to wear heels

Because Doc Martens are casual shoes, like trainers. Not suitable wedding attire. Someone wearing them to a wedding would look like a right scruff.

I don't respect women who always claim that other doing x, y or z is always to titillate men.

I wouldn’t give a shit what anyone wore to my wedding.

But I’m not the one getting married and neither is anyone here so all opinions are kind of irrelevant

OP… if you’re asking on here then you’re not sure. So check with the bride.

You remind me of Dolores Umbridge.

YABU doc martens are inappropriate for most weddings. YANBU heels are the pits.

If I knew my family or friend was livid about my shoes I don’t think we’d be friends for long. I always wear Docs even to weddings & I don’t even hide my tattoos shock horror. Thankfully they’re good people though so don’t mind what’s on my feet

Re: DMs, it totally depends on the wedding, and whether you're close to the couple. If it's your best mate, I'm sure she'll be fine with it. If it's a distant cousin or work colleague, maybe less so.

Re: heels, of course you don't need to wear them! Hardly anyone does nowadays, even in my very stuffy corporate workplace - boots, pumps or brogues are far more common than heels, and those that do wear them wear low ones. Skyscrapers are very passé.

I 100% wear Dr Martens all the time & wear them to weddings even with long floaty dresses. I’m am very alt though & heavily tattooed so I think people would be more shocked if I turned up in a floral dress with heels. I think if that’s what you want to wear then wear them, you know your style. Here’s a pic of the last wedding out with Dr Marten Jadons (had to screenshot an Instagram reel, didn’t have an actual pic)

Absolutely no need for this childish comment.

I bet you’re an unhappy judgmental person that looks down their nose at random people, who dare to have a different sense of style to you, because you’ve got nothing better to do with your time or energy. 🤢

Grow up.

This!

I honestly think the chunky boots look like more effort has been made than the ballet flats.

I’d be fine with it. I hate heels.

I was thinking about this. Would I be bothered by jeans? And honestly, no, I wouldn't. I invited people to my wedding, not their wardrobe. I just don't care anymore how anyone dresses, it is their personality and integrity of character that I am interested in.

How hideous.

I’d be livid if someone turned up to my wedding in battlefield kit. Grow up. There are lovely flattish shoes or low wedged heels that look elegant.

https://www.drmartens.com/uk/en_gb/1460-mono-smooth-leather-lace-up-boots-black/p/12761001

Like these better than the ones OP posted. Ballet flats are awful. Often look uncomfortable, unsupportive, bent out of shape and not appropriate in February.

YABU - heels are obligatory for female wedding guests, I should at least wear flat pumps.

There are lots of nice shoes that don't have high heels.

One of the newest styles for summer is a pointed toe, sling back with a small heel (2cms.) It's a throw back to the 60s when they were in fashion then.

Similar are Mary Janes, some with an ankle strap or a T-bar style.

If you think Doc Ms look good with your dress, fair enough.

Others may think differently, but do you care?

The options are a bit odd, my vote is: heels are definitely not mandatory but I wouldn’t see dc martens as appropriate either.
Weddings are only of the few occasions where trainers/boots etc are not to be worn (exception for a particularly casual wedding ofc)

If I were to show up your wedding in jeans and a hoodie because anything else is outside my comfort zone, would you be ok with that?

Personally I think OP should be looking for either more 'elegant' boots (not sure how to describe it - no I don't mean with a heel!) or shoes like the DM ones linked above.

The only options are not the clunkiest black boots ever or high heels.

I got married in a full wedding dress and DMs, they looked awesome! I wore DMs to my mums funeral and I'll be wearing them to my dad's next week. If it works for you as a style, knock yourself out!

Really good point.

You obviously are known by the couple for a certain look OP (ie. wearing DMs) so why go all drastic and change it for one day (spruce yourself up yes, but to go from flats to heels is alot). They will expect you to go as you.

How do Docs make someone look like a scruff?

DMs will be fine - no sensible bride would judge you negatively!
I don't wear heels, never have, never will. There are all sorts of interesting - and comfortable! - shoes out there. Developing your own style makes you confident.

Doc Martens for a wedding are a no. Might as well wear jeans. There are a million and one other options that aren’t heels that won’t make you look like a scruff.

I know I have said this before, but I just don’t get some of the weird ‘rules’ around what you ‘can’ and more often ‘can’t’ wear to weddings. Wear WTF you like, it’s 2024. DMs are fine if you want op. Or anything else frankly. Presumably the B&G want you there, want you to enjoy yourself, and frankly should not have time to notice or care what you have on your feet!