Sick of pretending to wear heels

My sister and I both are trainers and docs girls. We own about 100 pairs of trainers between us. Flatter the better. She wore converse high tops and a dress to a wedding the other month and she looked bloody brilliant. Dressed it up with a great bag and accessories, hair was lovely. I’d go for it. I always envy those that have a style they aren’t afraid to show off. I scrutinise everything I wear based on what others could say. No freedom in that of course which is why I hate dressing up for certain occasions because I always feel like a knob, never comfortable.
I work with a lovely teacher the same age as me and she has the most amazing scoobie doo tights! Wear what you want!!!

Heels usually look pretty dated to me these days. I haven't bought any in over 15 years.

If someone had worn DM boots at my wedding, I wouldn't have even noticed, much less cared. We had a full scale church/country house reception do, but literally could not care less what people wore to it!

You know your crowd OP, not every bride/groom will give a shit about your footwear, in the nicest possible way!

I wouldn’t want you to wear Doc martens if it was my wedding… you also don’t have to wear heels! You could go for some metallic ballet pumps if it’s too early for Sandals. Wear flats by all means but not Doc martens! If you like the grungey look you could go with some of the studded ballet pumps with ankle straps that are really in at the moment.

I was going to say it depends on your relationship with the bride, the type of wedding, etc.

Close friend, casual type of wedding? Yes I’d wear my docs.

Family member I’m not close with, church/stately home type wedding - no way. I’d wear some some metallic Mary Jane type flats. Loads in the shops now.

I see your friend is happy so you’re all good.

I'm not good with heels either, I end up looking like Bambi On Ice and not in a good way. I went to a wedding recently and wore a really lovely pair of kitten heel shoes, perfect height, very elegant, supremely comfortable and a great shoe for most styles of outfit.

Our mam always made me wear heels to weddings. She bought them and charged me (£20 in the sale! Bargain!) I only wear them to weddings she's also going to.
I say wear the DMs! Heels are really old fashioned nowadays.

If I was getting married that look on a guest wouldn’t bother me at all.

Apart from the dress and shoes

Unless there’s a specific dress code the poster’s look is absolutely fine for a wedding.

Why do people keep saying heels are old fashioned? The shops are rammed with them so someone must be buying them and think they are fashionable. I see the young women I know wearing them all the time for evenings! I think the trainers/doc Martens with formal dresses look it totally cliche' and it's not a good one if you over 18. Just wear some nice flat shoes.

I wore docs to my own wedding so wouldn't bat an eyelid at a guest doing the same. I say go for it!

FH, nude heels! Ugh… Like giant Band Aids.

I think unless it's stated that the wedding is casual then there is an expectation for fairly formal attire. Even if it's not stated on the invitation.

No one is ever going to state what footwear is appropriate.

Your boots look fantastic.

In the 90s, my wedding get-up was nice dress, heels, pashmina and fascinator. That feels so incredibly dated now!

Thankfully I missed the nude/coloured Kate Middleton trend 😴 Nude shoes should be banned from any event anywhere!

I haven’t had a wedding invite for some time, I am hoping our friends’ kids will start to settle down so I get some invites. I am definitely not going with that dated look anymore!

I never wear heels, and I can't abide pointy flats that wreck my toes and give me heel blisters. I wore black patent leather DMs to my own wedding and they looked great. Shiny, clean and perfect with a long dress. I'd never expect anyone to spend the afternoon in heels for my sake.

We’d never be friends 😆

I was at a wedding last summer and as soon as the (short) ceremony was over there were so many people swapping uncomfortable heels and other shoes for sandals and flip flops. Nobody cared.

Why are you being so rude?

You've not seen the actual boots have you? She's specially bought cheap plastic combat boots. More suited to a 14 year old going through their "edgy" phase than a grown woman at a formal event. Proper DMs would be a significant upgrade.

Everyone has different taste, some like docs some don’t

I wore them for a short time when I was a student, but wouldn’t wear them now, have grown out of that look

Perhaps some colourful doc martens would do and there oare loads of really pretty ones around if you're not brand specific
https://www.schuh.co.uk/womens/dr-martens-1460-pascal-8-eye-turquoise-boots/1447325620/?affiliate_source=AW&campid=1127&adid=0&lpcat=network&channel=affiliate&utm_source=AW-shoppingdirectory&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_campaign=redbrain&sv_campaign_id=176013&sv_tax1=affiliate&sv_tax2=&sv_tax3=Redbrain+Ltd&sv_tax4=0&sv_affiliate_id=176013&awc=2044_1707844395_8fe17d449fa258791273581e98b9a759

Wow what a long link

I'm disappointed with the actual shoes.
I expected colourful classic statement doc martens. The actual boots are really "I've forgotten to pack my shoes" look.

Nailed it. SO many fab docs that would look amazing if styled properly. There's even a velvet pair with ribbon laces. You could do a great Marc Jacobs/90s grunge look if you paired them with a slip dress.

Every wedding I go to always, without fail, has one guest with massive doc martin style boots.

I always wonder if they would be pissed off if another guest showed up wearing the same, a bit like someone showing up wearing the exact same and obvious frock.