Sick of pretending to wear heels

DMs really arent a good look for a wedding. No need to wear heels, but definitely wear nice flats!

I was very curious on how you pretend to wear heels like if you're on tiptoes or your shows are flats that look like heels from the side or something. I'm slightly dissapointed😅

Anyway, I can't be bothered with too mane dress rules. If you're watched, somewhat polished and wearing a nice dress and FM goes with your style and are styled to your attire. Go for it!

At my son’s wedding there was such a mixture of styles, was lovely to see!

DD will be wearing DMs at her own wedding. She wants to be comfortable and she wants her guests to be comfortable.

I won't be wearing them because they aren't right for my near spherical feet. But I will find something comfortable.

Painful/uncomfortable feet show in your face.

Heels are dated and ugly, and bad for your feet.

After years of wearing heels to look more attractive, I now have bunions. I've spent the last 5 years wearing flats. My bunions no longer hurt. I have told my daughters not to make my mistake. We do it to ourselves. You rock your doc Martins and enjoy wearing them.

I went to a wedding where the bride was in New Rocks. They looked great. Before my own wedding the vicar asked if I'd be in DMs or new shoes. I went for new shoes but it could have gone either way. Just because you are at a wedding you are still you, I've never understood the need to pretend to be someone else. My long haired groom was pressured by family to have his hair cut, on the grounds that in the future the wedding photos would look dated. All wedding photos look dated after 20 years, that's the point, to preserve how things were at a moment in time.

I never wear heels. DMs with dresses are a 'look', so go for it.

Wear what you want. All I cared about was that my guests were happy and comfortable.

Absolutely no need to wear heels, but DMs to a wedding is a statement that may or may not offend.
Why can't you wear a slightly smarter flat shoe or boot?

OP, I'm 49 and don't wear heels either.

I've got a few pairs of DMs - 8 and 14 holes - and I wear them to all the time for everything. DMs and a dress is my standard attire.

I have a couple of 'quirky' pairs of shoes with kitten heels but I very rarely wear them. I'd probably choose something similar for a wedding.

You should wear what you feel comfortable in. I’m sure your host knows your style and would expect to see you in something that reflects that.

If I had a friend whose usual dressy outfit was a dress and DMs then I'd totally expect her to wear that style to my wedding. I wouldn't be offended at all!

I saw all sorts of outfits at my wedding - as long as you don't go all dressed in white, knock yourself out.

Maybe the post helped her reach a decision?
And your second question makes no sense. She obviously is bothered about getting her outfit right, it just doesn't fit what you think she should do.

Oooh you are wise, @Wimpeyspread ! Love this.

I didn't wear heels to my own wedding 😂

But my friends and I normally wear heels to the ceremony and take flat sandals in a gift bag and change at dinner.

'Nice flats' are so boring. I am in my 70s and have rheumatoid arthritis, I gave up on heels in my 50s, and wore Mary Jane's or lace ups, so that I could walk. I can no longer wear anything but boots which support my ankles. I try to dress so that the outfit doesn't look compromised, but is 'edgy' on purpose. I think dms with a dress is a good look for this, rather than 'nice flats'. yanbu!

I don't plan on wearing heels to my own wedding.

Heels are not a mandatory accessory and nobody should feel they have to wear them - plus they're terrible for your feet anyway! Wear whats comfortable and supportive.

What's the point in asking if you've made your mind up? And what's the point in making an effort with your hair and so in if you aren't going to bother with your shoes?

I like DM's but I don't think they have a place at a wedding.

If you don't like heels don't wear heels, simple!

I'm 42 though and love wearing heels when getting dressed up and wore them all through my clubbing years etc so find it strange that you say it's partly because of your age. We can't be that many years different as you say you're mid 40's, heels were definitely a thing in the 2000's from my memory.

You'll rock the boots. There's always the option of flowery/sparkly/pretty laces if that floats your boat.

I think you'll look out of place at a wedding, but if it's that important to you then just wear the boots

Overthinking massively. I’ve never worn heels. Of course you can wear DM’s to a wedding!

I just bought these. Nice comprise. Thick so easy to walk in.

I don't know why people are saying DMs aren't wedding appropriate, I wore them to my own wedding as the bride!

Heels are not mandatory anywhere. Long gone are the days of women having to dress a certain way which is down right uncomfortable and damaging to the body.

there are some lovely dressy flip flops about for occasions like weddings.