Sick of pretending to wear heels

That would be a far more stylish look than some of the monstrosities of shoes posted on here!

Literally any ballet flats, Mary janes, loafers. Why do they need to be "nice" anyway if cheap plastic combat boots is what they're up against?

Precisely. "Nice" is already out the window. Try for "appropriate" and "respectful"

Not in size 10…which I appreciate isn’t the OP’s issue, but it isn’t great to know my only shoe options (apart from hand mates whose prices make DM’s prices look like Primark’s) make people think I’m rude, attention seeking and not making an effort.
And please don’t link me to companies doing ‘size 10’ I can assure you they are nothing of the sort. (Though actually I’ve just discovered ASOS’s own size 11s are just about a 10 - not totally comfy, but n option for some occasions).

Literally any ballet flats, Mary janes, loafers. Why do they need to be "nice" anyway if cheap plastic combat boots is what they're up against?

Similar. Most adult shoes start the size above mine. Even when they say they start at my size, they rarely stock them, and when you look at the Eurpoean size, it's generally half a size bigger that they're using.

I once bought some nice flat shoes for a wedding from Monsoon to go with a dress I bought from there. I had to downsize because the shoes were too big and I eventually ended up buying from the children's dept (where they had children's versions of the adult shoe). Half a size smaller than the shoes i bought had elastic over the top that were designed to keep them on while I was running around and playing! 😅

Workman’s boots? DMs? Madness.
They are a style brand.

They are not appropriate for most weddings. Lots of shoes are a "style" brand and aren't appropriate for a wedding, for work etc.

Having seen the OP's image of her chosen boots I take back "workman's boot". They're more like motorbike boots. Not appropriate.

YANBU OP, wear what you're comfortable in. I rarely wear heels but my shoes are mostly cheap and cheerful so I can't advise on what's more comfortable than boots.

I've just bought these in Primark for a wedding. I would usually recoil at the heel but the platform heel was comfortable in store. May be a different story on the day.

https://www.primark.com/en-gb/p/cross-strap-block-heel-sandals-gold-991070558212

If OP likes DMs, Doc Martens make flat shoes. Much smarter and no doubt comfier than the fast fashion, near knee high faux motorbike boots she's chosen.

Those boots are a statement and if we're looking for comfort, I highly doubt that shoes from a site called "Fashiola" are going to be comfortable.

Doc Marten sell smart flat shoes. The shoes OP has chosen say "I'll wear what I want to your big day and I don't give a fuck what you think."

OP, ask the bride.

Think you had a name change fail OP.

I do think that wearing your DMs will depend on the wedding (and the guests). If the bride and groom won't bat and eyelid, then go for it! But if they are hoping that their guests attend in all their finery, then those big goth boots are going to draw attention to you, which IMO is quite disrespectful. I'm sure there's something you can find which fits your style and is appropriate.

What about something like this? Completely flat.

Do people really care this much about what other people wear to their weddings? Mine was only 6 months ago and I couldn't fucking tell you what anyone wore outside of the bridal party and our parents. I can't begin to think a guest, spending £££ and time attending our wedding was disrespectful by wearing something they were comfy in. Unless someone's titty or bollock is flapping around in the breeze, who fucking cares.

I never wear heels and never feel any pressure to. But Doc Martens at a wedding… nooooo. Just get some flat formal shoes.

Workman’s boots? DMs? Madness.
They are a style brand.

No. There. Aren’t.
I wear pretty much only DMs and Birkenstocks because a) no other non- bespoke company makes my size and b) no other shapes are comfortable anyway.

Not in my size. Strap is exactly where I can’t have a seam/edge because of rubbing.

footwear is rude and attention seeking? I’ve heard it all now.
DMs aren’t the province of secret groups of punks and other special groups anymore. They are mainstream. Nobody gives them a second glance, so they won’t get attention.
The ‘rude’ bit I can’t even fathom…

7 pages into this thread, and I’m starting to think that these “nice flats” are like the mythical Mumsnet chicken, everyone is talking about how they exist but nobody has linked to any! There are couple of links to platforms / shoes with 3-inch blocky heels, and one link to a pair of sandals, but none of these are FLAT SHOES 😂

OP, wear the DMS, I bet you’ll look amazing!

Those are stupidly high, wedges don’t bend and are a danger. The straps would all rub. They aren’t available in my size.
I know I’m not the OP, but honestly, trust people that they know what will and won’t work with their own feet and ankles.

This isn’t true of everyone. A ‘nice pair of flats’ just isn’t comfortable for me as the shapes are all wrong. Also I can’t even get them most of the time due to size 10 feet. Seriously, my choices are DMs or Birkenstocks. Anything else rubs and hurts or is unavailable anyway. And if a bride cares more about how I look in the pictures than whether or not I’m in pain…well, it wouldn’t happen. I’m not friends with anyone that shallow. Don’t give a flying fuck what other guests think.
I would wear new DMs not battered ones though. Hope that’s ok with you.

Fucking hell 😂

OP have the decency to ask the bride about these first. Absolutely pointless asking on AIBU as you don't give a shit that people are telling you you should wear more appropriate comfortable shoes.

@chiwwy

I do think women should be comfortable though and I wouldn't have given a crap had women worn them at my very big wedding.

Neither would I but it's bold to assume. The OP should either ask or buy something more appropriate. Every adult knows what is appropriate wedding attire. And it doesn't have to mean uncomfortable dresses and heels.

This is such a horrible attitude. Wear what you want in your own day to day life but there are standards for certain events. It's like showing up in colour to a funeral.

Colour at a funeral and doc martens at a wedding are fine if you've been given the go-ahead. But the attitude of "you do you hen and stuff what everyone else thinks" is selfish.

The OP could just ask the bride and groom.

Guarantee the answers would be different if you'd ask "can I wear fast fashion combat boots"?

My neighbour's daughter scandalised her guests by revealing a very chunky - and comfy - pair of DMs under her dress.

If the bride can, then so can you. It's hardly going to throw the world ir even the wedding off course!

I think you’ll look fab and you’ll be comfortable so you can enjoy the wedding fully.

I wore pink pumps to a wedding last summer, they looked great with my satin dress.

I thought a denim jacket someone was wearing was too casual though. So clearly different people have different views.