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Frustrated with DH and food

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Henriettay · 10/02/2024 19:56

DH has a few health issues including coeliac disease. He refuses to cook or meal plan because he hates it. I make his food most of the time. Occasionally if I don’t cook he’ll have some fresh soup or a snack.

He’s becoming really difficult around food, e.g if I ask what he fancies, he says he doesn’t know, therefore I cook something and he’ll act disappointed as he’s not sure he really wants it. I tell him to stop being so annoying and he apologises but then acts the same the following day.

I’m just so frustrated - I know the simplest answer is to just not cook for him, I tried this and he ate toast for a week. He needs to eat a balanced diet not just because it’s a healthy thing to do, but because of other issues his dietician has advised on certain types of food to include in his diet. I’m concerned he will get more ill from not following this advice.

He is really good in all other ways, but just won’t do food preparation or cooking. I wondered if anyone had experienced something similar and offer advice?

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sprigatito · 10/02/2024 20:01

I would have a very frank "come to Jesus" conversation with him - you're an adult, you've had good medical advice about how you should be eating, and I am prepared to support you in that. I am not, however, prepared to continue in this dynamic where I try to ply you with healthy meals while you shrug and pout like a spoiled preschooler and refuse to engage with your own health. So either buck up and start working with me, or you can live on soup and toast for the rest of your life.

PossumintheHouse · 10/02/2024 19:59

Christ, he isn’t a toddler. He looks “disappointed” when you lovingly make him a home-cooked meal!? 🙄
Toast for a week might not be the most nutritious, but I’d still be letting him have it for another week(s) until he got the message. You aren’t his private chef to cook when he pleases or he knows what the fuck he wants.

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