Can my boss contact my husband?

I’d be livid.

If you have concerns about someone you speak to them. Signpost them to help. Speak to HR about what you can do to help them.

You don’t fire random texts to their partners.

The abusive relationship is the worst example, but not the only one. What if OP is quiet because she was planning the end of her marriage? If someone around then is unwell?
And in this case she’s specifically not doing overtime to help a situation with her husbands stress - barrelling in two footed has meant the boss has increased the stress

They need some training in how to deal properly with any concerns about their staff!

Everyone assuming the boss is a man.
It's inappropriate, tbh sounds more like they're wanting you to do overtime than concern.

Some of these replies are way over the top IMO. I really think you should take it as it was intended and that is genuine concern. If he hadn’t already got the number and he’d searched it out from a Hr system for this purpose then it wouldn’t have been different but in this case he did already have the number and I think he’s tried to be kind. So just accept that and move on.

Breach of confidentiality in my view, think the boss and perhaps HR should be approached on that basis. Well meant but wrong nevertheless.

Wow I'd be furious!

It's really not appropriate at all.

This.

It is a GDPR breach because information should only be used for the purpose it was provided.

The boss is no longer organising a party and if the number was provided as an emergency contact, it should only be used for emergencies, not to discuss an employee with their spouse.

This is awful and I would definitely take it further. You are entitled to tell your boss as much or as little about your home life as you like, without them going to your husband behind your back. Really, really bad. I would raise a grievance.

I think it does need to be brought up with HR. At the very least your boss needs training on how to handle concern about an employees welfare.

thank you !

I would be very displeased if my hoss was contacting anyone about me without my permission. OP could have personal reasons for not wanting overtime which are totally unconnected to the home situation.
Out of interest, is the boss a man?

Don’t be daft!

Talk unto your boss. Say you know it came from good place and appreciate the intention, and that this time no harm came if it, youre concerned that had you been in a difficult situation at home because of your husband, it could have put you in a concerning or risky situation and perhaps its unwise to risk contacting peoples relatives in future.

@Janetime if you're concerned you support them at work with the means you have ,you don't stomp in into their personal lives.

The way to support a woman who could be being abused is not to ring the potential abuser and ask if said woman is ok. That would be dropping a match into petrol. The way to support her would be to have a conversation(s), ensure she knows boss and HR there to help, offer access to confidential well-being support

if OP is being abused how has boss ringing helped the situation in anyway?? It quite clearly hasn’t

Your boss is so far over the line, it’s not even in view anymore.

I would have a strong word with them so they’re in no doubt as to whether they do this shit again.

Your boss’ only job is to try and support you at work.

It's utterly and completely inappropriate for your boss to contact a partner or relative about anything. If he wants to support you, he need to do that through you. I'd be livid if it happened to me. Completely overstepping boundaries. Why on earth does he have your husbands number from one incident 3 years ago that is over and done with.
Not appropriate. You are right to be concerned.

Exactly. I assumed woman. And no I don’t think the automatic assumption if an employee is acting in a concerning manner is oh wait she might be being abused. Best I don’t get involved.

the world has gone nuts.

OP has explained the situation, I think you are overreacting.

I can't see that it is a GDPR breach as he didn't access op dh number from work.

He had it due to social reasons (The surprise)

I am also concerned about quite how this is affecting you. I think you should speak to your boss, and I agree it was wrong but also you need to look for support for you.

This. As a manager of large teams for a number of years, and having had to make emergency contact calls in the past this is really inappropriate action in this instance. Speak to your boss. Be open with them as at least they can look out for you.

As others have said, I don't know how your husband's stress is manifesting itself but if you need to speak to someone there are charities out there that can support you. And him.

I hold my hands up to that.
I assumed that a woman would be more mindful of that possibility.

Everyone assuming boss is male. Not sure op specified.

Why is everyone assuming the boss is male? I don’t think the OP specified?

In any case, it’s massively overstepping.