To be upset my mum wants to get my wedding photos edited?

I'd let ber have a couple of her but normal of them. I have a beautiful photo I took of my children in the bluebells, colours of flowers are gorgeous and also shows the colour of their eyes well. My MIL printed it out in black and white and framed it. I haven't said anything but think it's weird, she has plenty of colour photographs around it! If there's a particularly nice one now I just print it for her (in colour!)

Mostly, I'd find this funny. Like the fact that from our wedding photos, MIL has multiple photos up of DH, her and her DC (Dh, SIL, BIL) and DGC but I think there's only one that actually includes me! I just roll my eyes.

I'd find it LESS funny, if she presented you with the newly edited photos as a gift in a sort of "I have now improved your photos and you should be grateful to me" kind of way. Similarly if she was splashing them all over social media or something.

It is rude but your wedding was 2 years ago? Maybe she's fed up of waiting.

Is this type of micro aggression typical of your parents?

For my graduation photos I bought the package of photos I wanted and had a plan of who to give each size too. My mum took it upon herself to give her picture to my nan and then moaned endlessly about how I didn't buy her one. My nan was getting a photo just not the biggest photo which was marked for my parents. 6 months later my mum decides on a solution....she will do an oil painting of my graduation photo and put that on her wall. I promptly bought her another one.i had as she is prone to throwing a strop and making things about her so I do make sure I stand up for my views more with her compared to my MIL for example who by and large takes our needs into account. In this situation with my mother it would be a hell no and with other people I would be more engage in the conversation probably settling on a no

Because as lots of people have said, you are generally not allowed to do this.

Usually wedding photographers will retain copyright of the images, or will charge more to pass that copyright onto the client.

If you don't have explicit permissions to alter the images, then that is a straight easy no.

If you do, I don't really see the harm in your mother having them edited for her own use. I mean, you don't have to look at them.

I might be in the minority here but I don't see what the issue is. They would be her copes - not hanging in your house.

Why does it matter?

Did they pay for some of this wedding? Because she's acting pretty entitled.

I’m with others here. She’s proposing that a third party edit someone elses’ photos. I would tell her that your photographers’ contract doesn’t allow it. In fact, come to think of it, wouldn’t your own photographer have to give permission anyway ? After all, it was his commission and it’s his work they’re proposing to alter. I think the suggestion that they ask other guests for copies of photos taken independently is a good one - they should leave your wedding photos alone, they represent your big day as you wanted it recorded.

If it was just going on someone's wall or in a photo album, then I really wouldn't give a toss.

If it was used for profit or in the media then that's different.

I've had photos published before btw.

Because you don’t own the copyright. The photographer does.

Yes, it would be in breach of copyright. It matters. How would you like it if someone stole your work, butchered it and reissued it - and still with your name on it? The only way round it would be to ask the original photographer if they might be prepared to change some photos - for a fee.

A professional photographer would normally have retained copyright precisely to avoid this kind of thing - his work being butchered and it affecting his reputation.

Don't do it.

I don't see the issue.

They want digital copies of your wedding photos so that they can curate their own album to their taste / style?

Why shouldn't they do that? Maybe they really liked some photos that didn't make the cut to your album?

I don't think you can 'control' the look & feel of your wedding day once it has past

This is exactly what I was going to say. It wouldn’t be fair on the photographer for someone else to edit their images.

I would fib and tell them you didn't have the digital copies saved, so have asked the photographer to resend - and he/ she has hit the roof and is threatening to sue you.

In all seriousness, if your Mum is likely to show the butchered photos around she could do some commercial damage to the photographer's business. I wouldn't do that to any small business owner, let alone one who is a friend and gave me a discount. Do the right thing!

Most professional photographers wouldn't allow this. The digital images are for you

As they are photos for them to keep I don't see that it matters. You have the originals which are more to your taste. But I expect the photographer will have copyright on the photos so noone can change them
Often at weddings though people take their own photos which could be edited in any way. Are they personal photos she is talking about or the official photographers?

Copyright’s a thing. Just tell her she can’t do it.

I wouldn't really care what someone did with their own set of my wedding pictures, as they, not me, are going to be the ones who are looking at them. The original photos will still exist and you will still have them.

Personally, I loathe cheesy editing like the sort of thing you describe, but as my own set of photos would still be as I wanted them, I wouldn't really care what my mum's set were like... but I would certainly be telling her in no uncertain terms that she wasn't to send the edited versions to anybody else, ever.

However, as other people have said - it's possible that your photographer doesn't allow his work to be used in this way, so do check with him!

The wedding was a couple of years ago, so why are they doing this now ? Do they want to present you with the altered ones for an anniversary gift or something?
Tell them you like them as they are. Thanks but no thanks, plus copyright means you can't do this anyway.

I think you need something to worry about! Who cares!