To be upset my mum wants to get my wedding photos edited?

This is what I would do.

If they really wanted the photographs, they would have to approach the original photographer. I can't see that going well for them!

Good plan to knock this on the head, OP. It's not on. Plus who needs 100 digital images of their wedding day ending up who knows where. Because this relative with photoshop is bound to want to post 'his' handiwork all over social media.

your parents are mean and act like it's normal. It was your wedding, your ceremony, your time. And I bet you looked incredible!!! I hope you had a great start to your marriage and many congrats. With respect to your parents, tell them you don't want them to touch your photos, they are yours and you'll decide what's best for you. I also love the natural documentary style photos! Your parents are just showing how dated their mindset and taste is.

TBH if I was her I would've just said can I get digital copies, then privately got them altered to the cheesy style she seems so enamoured with. Telling you was blowing it somewhat. I'd refuse and say she can have a few photo prints from your originals for a book if she likes but that's it. If she wants to make cheesy pics from your photos she'll have to lift them from social media or something.

Making a few prints for her private use is probably not a big issue. Presenting her Altered Images (anyone else old enough to get that one?) all over the internet to everyone at the wedding - is a bit odd and I wouldn't be happy with that.
Its a bit like rewriting history, like its not good enough for people to see it through your eyes, as you planned and designed, the way you want to present it.
Everyone has to see it through her eyes. Yes that is rude, especially if your taste is very different from hers. Its like saying your efforts were not good enough, so here is how it really should be done.
Its altering the memory of something that's special to you and riding roughshod over your wishes.

If you do go ahead - make sure your original digital files are saved intact and not permanently edited by accident, because that would be a shame.

@lifeispainauchocolat the photographer is a friend if the grooms. So could very easily find out.

Yes, say this.

logically I can see the point of letting her get on with but I wouldn’t like it at all.

Once they’re edited that much there not really pictures of your wedding anymore…. Pictures of a wedding a very different style to yours

How would he ever find out? Unless he's a family friend who's going round to OP's mums' house on a regular basis?

There's no.way the og photographer would agree to that. They still own the images, and they will.not want some bastardised version of their photos out there with their name.on.

And yes, it's effing rude of your mum.

That's different

That's very rude

The copyright aspect is a subterfuge - it’s you she’s being bloody rude to. They’re your photos which you spent money on (probably a lot of it) and they’re in your style because it was your wedding. No one should do anything with someone else’s professional wedding pictures beyond gratefully receiving them as a gift if they’re given as one, and choosing whether or not to put them on display. She was there on the day - if she wants to start fucking about she can do it with pictures she took herself!

Definitely look at the contract, this wasn’t allowed with my wedding photos (wouldn’t have wanted to edit them myself anyway).

@Seas164 l laugh about what you mum did. But it’s not beyond the realms of possibility that my mother would want this. Her self awareness is impressively poor, as she loves to tell people “how relaxed she is”, “how she never interferes etc”

@riotlady l would be blocking this move. I think it’s rude and an overstep. Plus the actual photographer may find out

@Pacifybull obviously if copyright /legalities are involved OP should adhere to the contract.

When I got married, my photographer gave all my photos on a disc and I could do whatever I wanted with them.

I mean if OP's mum just wants to make her own album on vistaprint, I don't see any harm in that, even if she changes filters on it a bit.

I would also get your photographer onside, tell him/her what your DM wants to do and even if you didn't have a contract (unlikely, it seems from other posts) he almost certainly won't agree to what she wants to do.
(So just covering your arse with your DM anyway, especially if she contacts him directly. )

Didn't any guests take any pics that she can have "improved"?

A friend's mother in law once proudly presented her with an entirely rearranged kitchen - literally everything that wasn't built in, was moved. From the dishes to the microwave. She honestly could not understand why my friend was less than impressed as "but it's so much more practical now."

I thought my friend was going to go into orbit!

Email the photographer and explain you can't find your paper copy and you were hoping there was a clause about not editing the photos (due to the reasons you've explained here) and ask if you can have a digital copy.

Sorry but this is hilarious 😂 What goes on in people's minds?!

When I saw the title I thought she wanted to edit out your husband or photoshop someone else in his place ......

"This is what you could've won ."

Could you say that you can’t do it as you don’t have the copy right to the photos ( that is often held by the photographer)

Same. It wouldn’t bother me at. Everyone’s got what they like - win/win.

Your family friend should know he's break the photographer's copyright. Strictly speaking the photographer still owns copyright even though he's sold the photos to you.

Don't let her have them

Bizarre. I can’t imagine my MIL doing that-she’s just pleased she has a nice picture! It sounds pretty naff and I wouldn’t be happy to have my good photos look like something from B&M.

This would annoy me intensely. They’re your photos, of your wedding, and you chose the style of the photos. She can like them or lump them..