To be upset my mum wants to get my wedding photos edited?

We had someone send us their portfolio like this, they were awful, some were clearly in a car park and they were worse than amateur, I think he was the “I’ve got a (relatively) expensive camera so that’ll do” camp

I wonder if you by "natural documentary style" you mean they went round taking non posed shots then I have some sympathy if she's wanting to edit to get a more formal traditional one, even more so if she asked if it was possible to have one done and you refused.

When we were looking at photographers we had one that called his selection "natural" and roughly as far as I can tell he went round like anyone else taking snaps, but charging three times the price of any of the other photographers. I honestly could see no difference in the samples he took than what we got from people who sent us pictures.
One of the pictures he was clearly most proud of had the bride and groom laughing with friends. Only thing was you could only see the back of the bride and the groom was partially hidden by someone else walking across the frame carrying drinks. He kept going back to it and telling us how well framed it was...

I mean the pictures were probably a nice recollection of the day, but not one was the sort you'd display as your son/daughter getting married.

Did you, for example, have any taken just with your parents with bride and groom? I suspect that sort of thing is what they want.

I get that people have different tastes, but when it’s someone else’s wedding pictures I think maybe I’d just cope with it not being my taste? They had their wedding and their pictures the way they wanted them, it just feels sort of intrusive to insist that our wedding pictures have to be their taste too. They’re not even going up in their house, my mum doesn’t like displaying photos.

Iunderstand what you mean. I think in your shoes I would pick my battles, especially as youve already said yes and also they are not being displayed.

Ihave a highly critical mother and for decades I felt like nothing was good enough from my weight, my hand writing, the way i spoke, the way i parented, the list goes on and on. I’ve learned to roll my eyes and remember that there’s not many things in life that truly matter. This won’t be helpful but I normally say to myself’ we will all be dead before we know it and no one will care about…….( what ever the issue is)’

They don't want to look at your photos because they don't like them. They are sending them to a family member to make more to their cheesy taste in Photoshop.

No contract will forbid this. A contract would likely prohibit reproduction for commercial use in whole or in part, but what they're proposing isn't that.

You give someone photos they can cut all your faces out and turn it into a collage of they want. You're not giving them the photos so you can like them

I suppose the crux of my issue is that it doesn’t feel like they’re proud of me. It feels like me and my choices are not up to snuff.

I genuinely don't understand why her not liking the style of your wedding photos would mean she's not proud of you or doesn't approve of your choices

Are you friends with your mates, wifes' mother on Facebook then?

Unless she uses them in a public post, he still won't find out.

The question is you have already said yes. Do you want to make an issue of this by now saying no? Only you know if this issue is worth any bad feeling.

I suppose the crux of my issue is that it doesn’t feel like they’re proud of me. It feels like me and my choices are not up to snuff.
why can’t you see that people have different tastes. That’s all it appears to be. It doesn’t mean mums not proud, she just likes a different style.

I’d say “Please keep off social media” but I say that about everything anyway.

I wouldn’t care - only if they expect you to hang one in your house.

Facebook?

Speak to the photographer. You won't own the copyright, they will.

Given they gave you a reduced rate I hardly think they'll be happy for someone else to tinker with their work and make money from it.

going against the wave here, but give them something to do for goodness sake, they clearly dont have much on their hands, and your wedding is a big hobby. many parents are like that, be grateful you have parents who are proud of you, your wedding, are engaged....if a pink edited photo ends up with your granny, and she shows it to her other granny friends, who cares?

sounds too much control freakery to me tbh. if they had taken photos of you on their phone and edited them to there taste what could you have done?

I do not see the issue. She is not wanting to edit your face - that would be rude. Just get a different style of the same photo. It is purely about taste.

How would he find out?

He's OP's husbands' mate. He's hardly likely to go round to her mum's house and see her photos, is he?!

This! And the fact that the photographer is a friend makes it even worse. You could really upset your photographer friend.

No way would I let a relative have a third party edit photos of me, let alone my wedding photos
I honestly can't see the problem.
Both of you like different styles. So what.
I don't think it's rude, cheeky or whatever.
Apart from the fact it’s against copyright law!
That would be the only valid reason for me, everything else is just making a mountain out of a molehill.

All those going on about being copyright, I hope you never buy a knock off watch or handbag, lent anyone a cd or dvd,use a chipped fire stick that a mate sorted out for you, etc.

Is he really likely to go round to his friends' wife's mothers' house, though? I very much doubt it.

I dunno, to me this seems like a lot of drama over nothing, but then my amateur photographer dad did my wedding photos for nothing so maybe I'm not the best person to ask

Apart from the fact it’s against copyright law!

Please tell me you didn’t ageee to the restaging.

Ooh yes. Good point. Use this as an excuse.