Thanks for all the responses.
I realised I typed bowel interference, wrong, I meant bladder interference. Equally troublesome anyway. So all the risk in the comments still stands. Just thought I’d correct my initial statement.
i have had a day since the appointment to try clear my head. I’m definitely going back in for another conversation as right now I have a lot of info gaps, likely due to panic induced brain fog at my other appointment. I need it. The conversation will provide me answers that’ll likely have me confident in the plan of care- which is important to me.
Luckily for me, I am already at right hospital for both me and baby.
Regarding sterilisation: It was more that I agreed and consent in that minute of being told/asked rather than it’s something I would not do. It’s more of being shocked with myself that I made the decision right away never having given it any thought before. I mean it is one of the decisions I didn’t need to make right at the minute, in that sense. There is a high likelihood of hysterectomy anyway.
The bottom line is I did not have adequate time to digest any of the info I was given and to make the decisions. I obviously didn’t ask for it, but I also think I didn’t need to do any consent forms in that appointment. If I had asked for it, no doubt it would have been extended to me.
With regards to private care, I had my first in another country where I had private care. I must say, I definitely felt more supported due continuity of care with a single team/person. I think a lot of it has to do with the ease of getting hold of your consultant and team. Whilst I had issues with that pregnancy, it was nothing of this magnitude.
I did spend the afternoon trying to get hold of someone to help me reschedule. The appointment team can’t do it because there is no order for it. So I am waiting for my midwife to call me back (I requested a call), I’ll relay my concerns and hopefully she’ll get one in for me.
I actually have cover here too that would cover birth, it’s just that I am aware that i need a multidisciplinary team and don’t want to be worrying myself with any shortfalls with different pay rate for consultants etc. As I haven’t done the leg work, would too stressful to do this now….My current hospital actually has a private maternity wing. My current consultant would actually be the lead if I went private and wanted to use the same hospital.
@Orangelemonclemon i think you suggested Pat O’Brien? He & my consultant were under the same research professor at some point(I read his profile on the hospital site). He’s recognised by my scheme and consultation would be covered if I were to seek a second opinion. The multidisciplinary team would likely be assembled the way due to the hospital he practices in.
i can’t thank you all enough for your inputs. I will be back to update everyone.