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To dislike WFH. Am I the only one?

117 replies

PrincessBananaH · 06/02/2024 14:55

I appreciate how privileged I am to be able to WFH when some people can’t but, even though I can see the practical benefits (lower commute costs, easier to manage childcare drop off and puck up etc), I really hate WFH.
When I started wfh during the pandemic I thought it was lovely whereas now I find it incrediblh boring and i truly struggle to focus, to the point that on the days I am at home I am much less productive. Does this happen to any of you?
All my colleagues say they focus more when at home so I wonder if I am the only one or perhaps not all pf them are saying the truth.
I likw getting ready in the morning, wear some nice clothes, make up, sip a hot drink on the drain and meet real humans. Am I the only one?

OP posts:
MichaelAndEagle · 06/02/2024 18:43

sazzy5 · 06/02/2024 18:17

I get loads more done at home, but do get ‘lonely’, so go in to the office once a week. I think I am easily distracted and that is why wfh is good for me.

I'm easily distracted and thats why WFH is bad for me!!

PonyPatter44 · 06/02/2024 18:43

toomuchfaff · 06/02/2024 14:59

so, go work in a non home environment..

WeWork or other office type space, coffee shop... separate your work/home life so you have distinctive differences. A room for your office, drive round the block, come to your workplace, when you've finished, lock the office, drive home. Sometimes it's the distinction.

Don't be daft! I've got a perfectly good office to go to - why would I mess about finding a coffee shop to work in?

I hate WFH. Fortunately it's not much of a thing in my organisation. On the rare occasion I do WFH, I spend time moaning at my colleagues that I am lonely 😀

Ginmonkeyagain · 06/02/2024 18:43

WFH full time during lockdown almost broke me mentally and physically.

I now go in to the office at least 3 days a week. I do like the flexibilty to WFH (which TBH I had before covid as well) but I am definitely more of an office person.

Pancakedayisthebest · 06/02/2024 18:42

I listen to YouTube vids of coffee shop noise. It helps me focus. I also schedule my time so in my calendar I have time for each task which stops it being a long boring stretch of hours.

PinkEasterbunny · 06/02/2024 18:40

TotalAbsenceOfImperialRaiment · 06/02/2024 16:53

Until I worked at home I genuinely had no idea how much time is wasted in offices. Office gossip, office politics, tea runs....and that's before you even factor in the commuting.

This! We do hybrid working, we go in twice per week and that’s a great balance for me. I get my people fix on my office days, and really get my head down when I’m at home. I get more done at home but my ‘people days’ are important too.

No way would you get me back into the office 5 days per week,but I wouldn’t want to WFH every day either.

GoldenMeadow · 06/02/2024 18:37

I really like going into the office, my team are absolutely lovely which obviously helps!

We are hybrid so 3 days in office, 2 days at home. Or more in the office if you want to.

It's a perfect set up

APurpleSquirrel · 06/02/2024 18:32

I love it! I only work 3 days but have been wfh since the first lockdown. In fact my office was closed & my boss relocated to Scotland (from the SW). So I don't have the option of going into an office, which is fine by me.
I work on my sofa; DH works upstairs in our bedroom - but make a point of packing everything away at the end of the day.
I make a to do list & work my way through it - some days are busier than others.
It has allowed us to get rid of one of our cars; PIL no longer need to help with childcare as we can drop off & pick up, as well go into school when needed (our employers are flexible).
Honestly one of the best things to come out of the pandemic for us. BUT it's not for everyone, I have lots of friends utterly horrified at the prospect. So if it's not working for you then you need to suck up the additional commute time/costs, childcare etc.

Tangled123 · 06/02/2024 18:29

I love having one day a week at home but I think I would struggle with more than that. I wouldn’t be motivated enough.

I love that WFH has allowed me to have a second fully WFH job though. It meant I could get through my daughter’s childcare years financially without getting into debt.

I’m also able to study fully online thanks to Covid.

ringmybe11 · 06/02/2024 18:23

Personally I think having a separate work space makes a huge difference. I wfh during Covid in my now husband's home and I was at the dining table which I could see from the sofa in front of the tv. Fast forward to now and we've moved and both have a separate room to work in. I close the door at the end of the day and forget about work. I think hybrid is the perfect blend as I see my team and it gives us time to catch up and then have 2 days at home where I work quietly on my own and save the commuting time. I don't think I'd like looking at my laptop now on a night in my downtime regardless of how much I enjoy working from home.

Ponderingwindow · 06/02/2024 18:22

I absolutely love it. I was wfh before the pandemic. I found being in an office incredibly stressful. I was in a constant state of high anxiety, even with a private office. I now also have a disability that would make working in an office extremely difficult.

the key for me is having a proper office in my home.

IndignantIguana · 06/02/2024 18:18

I mostly like it but have been doing it for the majority of the time since 2002/3. But late to change my ways now, I own more pj's than clothes 😂

TheKeatingFive · 06/02/2024 18:18

I do one day at home. That's definitely enough. The office environment has a lot of advantages for my line of work.

sazzy5 · 06/02/2024 18:17

I get loads more done at home, but do get ‘lonely’, so go in to the office once a week. I think I am easily distracted and that is why wfh is good for me.

coxesorangepippin · 06/02/2024 18:17

I go into the office twice a month

BlueGrey1 · 06/02/2024 18:17

There are pros and cons to it, I generally prefer WFH but think it can be both mentally and physically unhealthy most of the time, I don’t get as much exercise as I would if I was going into the office and also it can be a bit isolating.

On the plus side I don’t have to listen to office politics and annoying work colleagues

coxesorangepippin · 06/02/2024 18:16

I honestly cannot praise it enough

Work/life balance much improved

dottiedodah · 06/02/2024 18:15

Can you not go in a couple of times? Maybe.Every day at home is bad for you if you dont enjoy it

Ontobetterthings · 06/02/2024 18:12

I think hybrid is best. Ft wfh is depressing

rainbowbee · 06/02/2024 18:11

I like hybrid. I think if I were wfh full time I would stop getting dressed.

I like wfh because it takes away the commute. Extra sleep. You can do stuff like laundry without having it waste your evenings. No packed lunches to bother with. No office stinks or noises. No sharing a toilet and kitchen with grubby people. No listening to annoying colleagues droning on and on. Fewer work shirts to iron. Nice on cold wet days or when you have period pain etc.

I also like the convenience of the office being city centre. So any shopping I need can be done on an office day. I like some of my colleagues. Some work stuff can be sorted with a conversation or showing how to do something rather than email.

Wfh/hybrid is so much better for my life/health that I would now classify it as a need rather than a perk.

emmylousings · 06/02/2024 18:10

I like it, but I am not convinced it's good for me really, and I don't think I am more productive. My employer saves money on not providing a desk space etc, and I save time and money, but I am hoping the next role will hybrid!

EmpressaurusOfTheScathingTinsel · 06/02/2024 18:01

I’m in the office on Wednesdays & schedule meetings & anything that doesn’t need much focus for then.

I like seeing my team, but we’re hot-desking in a big office & it’s really hard to concentrate properly on complicated or detail-heavy stuff when people are chatting nearby or coming over to talk to me.

I must have been able to do it pre-Covid but that kind of thing is so much easier when it’s just me & the cats.

On WFH days I always go to the gym or for a coffee before starting & go out with friends a couple of nights a week to still get some socialising in.

LlynTegid · 06/02/2024 17:35

I am more productive working from home. The days I am in an office I plan my work expecting to be less productive, trying to make the most of the sort of face to face conversation that is productive.

Everyone should have the option to go to an office if it benefits them though.

girljulian · 06/02/2024 17:17

I am way more productive at home -- pre-COVID, me and my colleagues would go down to the kitchen to "make tea" at least three times a day and spend 45 minutes there chatting. I'm not very social so it made me itch wanting to get away and get back to work, but no easy way to escape! And what a waste of time.

Moveoverdarlin · 06/02/2024 17:04

I hate WFH, in fact I’ve left my last two jobs because they shut the office and it was compulsory to WFH. I know it sounds dramatic but I feel my home gets infected with work stuff. I long for the days when I would get home from a commute on a Friday and shut the door at 6pm and forget about work. But now my phone is constantly pinging and yet I am so so lonely. Everyone is two hours away from each other, new people struggle to settle and then leave because they have no rapport with colleagues.

I Miss chit-chat, buying new clothes for the office, and generally counting my colleagues as friends.

It’s great for school pick-ups, keeping on top of washing and housework but I find it so so hard to focus on actual work where there are so many distractions.

I was struggling with a technical issue last week, if I was in an office I would say ‘Hey, I’m clicking on XYZ but nothing is happening.’ But as I was WFH I needed to wait for someone to get off a call. What should have taken seconds took hours.

tellmewhenthespaceshiplandscoz · 06/02/2024 17:04

Uncooperativefingers · 06/02/2024 16:27

I like a mix, so that is what I do.

I don't really understand posters who say "I hate it but no-one in my team goes in so there I no point in me going in". Surely that's a self fulfilling cycle?! And do people only talk to people in their team when in the office? Why?

As an adult, developing a social group takes effort, when wfh you have to be more conscious at making that effort

The company DH works for changed contracts to WFH after covid when everyone who now hates it were in the honeymoon period. While simultaneously selling off most of the space. So when you do want to try and get in the office and maybe catch up you've got so many peoples squabbling over trying to boom a handful of desks

It's quite pants Confused