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To dislike WFH. Am I the only one?

117 replies

PrincessBananaH · 06/02/2024 14:55

I appreciate how privileged I am to be able to WFH when some people can’t but, even though I can see the practical benefits (lower commute costs, easier to manage childcare drop off and puck up etc), I really hate WFH.
When I started wfh during the pandemic I thought it was lovely whereas now I find it incrediblh boring and i truly struggle to focus, to the point that on the days I am at home I am much less productive. Does this happen to any of you?
All my colleagues say they focus more when at home so I wonder if I am the only one or perhaps not all pf them are saying the truth.
I likw getting ready in the morning, wear some nice clothes, make up, sip a hot drink on the drain and meet real humans. Am I the only one?

OP posts:
user1471523870 · 07/02/2024 13:25

I really really like it!
It allows me to have a better quality of life (wake up later, manage drop offs/pick ups from DS' school, keep the house clean and tidy during some of the breaks, or go running at lunch time etc).
It allows me to work better: I am more focused as no one interrupts me for a chat, I don't have to look for meeting rooms for private conversations, I can have back to back meetings without having to physically move....
However, I understand we are not all operating under the same circumstances. I work for an international company in the private sector and it's standard to interact with people based in several different countries multiple times a day (meaning, those meetings have always been online/video meetings). Also, I have been with the same company for many many many years and I know the culture and the people already, my need for real networking is very limited.
And at home I have a proper office space, a room I don't have to share with anyone, has only that purpose and has a door I can shut.
I can still go occasionally to my old office and enjoy seeing humans, but I also have hobbies, a social life and a child in school, so I am not lacking human interactions at all.

Clingfilm · 07/02/2024 13:23

I love it, I'm much more productive as I'm not chatting and can concentrate, plus no sitting in traffic, and my house is nicer than the office and I can run errands/housework at lunch time.

I'm not one of those piss takers watching films or whatever, I've too much work to do!

My team are good at messaging throughout the day so we're always connected.

MidnightMeltdown · 07/02/2024 13:18

YABU

In the nicest possible way, you need to get a social life. Don't you have any hobbies etc where you go out and meet real people?

I really don't get the need to go into the office to socialise. Like some kind of forced friendship.

viridiano · 07/02/2024 13:14

YANBU but it's each to their own really. Some like it and some don't.

We are in a job market now where there are options to suit people's preferences, that's a really good thing.

Gobolina · 07/02/2024 13:10

I love WFH too. My cold dead body will have to be wheeled back into an office to get me there again.

Mayorq · 07/02/2024 12:58

Love it.
I sleep longer, eat better, spend less money and get more exercise.

Not sure if I'm more focused, I think around the same, but any shortfall is made up by the fact that I start work earlier and am not feeling the pressure to get out the door to be home for dinner and bed time.

NotFastButFurious · 07/02/2024 12:55

toomuchfaff · 06/02/2024 14:59

so, go work in a non home environment..

WeWork or other office type space, coffee shop... separate your work/home life so you have distinctive differences. A room for your office, drive round the block, come to your workplace, when you've finished, lock the office, drive home. Sometimes it's the distinction.

which is all fine in theory but not everyone has the sort of job that they can do in a shared space due to confidentiality issues and that comes at a price, i definitely couldn't work in a coffee shop because I need at least 1 large monitor ideally 2, and whilst I'd love a dedicated office space at home that would require moving house at a cost of at least an additional £100k on my mortgage.

Alltheshoes74 · 07/02/2024 12:49

Love WFH but I’m older, didn’t enjoy our office atmosphere or the commute. I was seriously unproductive in the office and my team were sat away from my office so I was in a box with bad lighting on my own. Now I’m at home, have dogs, speak to my team lots of teams and my husband comes home for lunch! Honestly if they ask me back in I’ll leave!! However in previous jobs with a better atmosphere I’d probably have gone in voluntarily a couple of days a week.

toomuchfaff · 07/02/2024 11:50

PonyPatter44 · 06/02/2024 18:43

Don't be daft! I've got a perfectly good office to go to - why would I mess about finding a coffee shop to work in?

I hate WFH. Fortunately it's not much of a thing in my organisation. On the rare occasion I do WFH, I spend time moaning at my colleagues that I am lonely 😀

ah no that was more for the people with no offices, maybe self employed etc.

Alicewinn · 06/02/2024 21:48

I agree I think it’s boring af and joined a co work space, which suits me much better. Coffee is better there too 😅

AfraidToRun · 06/02/2024 21:43

Depends on the job as well.

My last job was team based and it all fell apart when everyone else started WFH.

My new role is more individual so it doesn't matter as much but I still prefer being social.

Bananas2 · 06/02/2024 21:42

I agree! I hate WFH so I work almost 100% of the time from the office again now. We have to be there 3 days a week now so there's always people around and I love it :)

May146 · 06/02/2024 21:30

Love it. It’s so much easier instead of the long commute. Means I can make it in time when the nursery closes at 6pm instead of being on a train still. It’s more productive as I find the office chatter distracting as much as I do miss having a chat. Teams means I can work collaboratively still. I do enjoy it when I go into the office but for doing the day to day work it’s easier to get it done at home. Potentially it depends on your job. But I don’t think one way of working suits all. If wfh no longer works for me I will be asking if I can go into office more.

Devilshands · 06/02/2024 21:11

I love it. If I have to go to the office now I deliberately avoid TWAT days. Monday and Friday only.

Went in Thursday last week (big mistake…). Didn’t get any work done. Constantly had people popping by for a chat. Loads of people on Teams call speaking loudly. Had to queue to use the microwave. Awful. Spent all of Friday doing to work I had been unable to do the day before!

Plus my office has mould and damp on the walls and is just a bit grim tbh.

Icantbedoingwithit · 06/02/2024 19:25

I love it but I work for myself so I am my own boss and answer only to myself and that makes a huge difference.

maddening · 06/02/2024 19:25

I think having a home office is key - removes the distractions.

Gherkingreen · 06/02/2024 19:22

I absolutely love it. After 25 years of long commutes & very long days out of the house, it's great.
I'm productive, constantly busy role, my 'commute' is a dog walk before work, I save money, I don't have an arduous and soul-destroying car commute and am around if my (older teen) needs anything after college.
I finish work, close the door on my home office (used to be the garage/then playroom/now office) and am walking my dog or working out just after 5pm. Heaven for me.

PoshHorseyBird · 06/02/2024 19:05

I Imagine everyone will have different opinions.
Personally I would love to be able to find a job WFH I just can't find anything suitable.

PinkEasterbunny · 06/02/2024 19:05

However, losing the commute for half the week has given me my life back. Time to cook healthily, excercise, rest, socialise. Its made the difference for me of being able to stay in this job that I love probably until I retire in 15 years. Without WFH I had another 5 years tops of the commute.

Yes, this is me!

BarelyLiterate · 06/02/2024 18:54

I love WFH. My work requires concentration & focus which I find is much easier at home than it is in a noisy, bustling open plan office full of constant distractions. The massive savings of time & money which accrue from not commuting mean that my work / life balance is the best it has ever been. Long may it continue.

It’s obviously not for everyone, though. It probably wouldn’t work for those who need social contact at work for collaboration & creativity, or for extroverts who struggle with being on their own. That’s never been a problem for me, fortunately.

5128gap · 06/02/2024 18:51

I enjoy my office days much more than my WFH days for the reasons you give. However, losing the commute for half the week has given me my life back. Time to cook healthily, excercise, rest, socialise. Its made the difference for me of being able to stay in this job that I love probably until I retire in 15 years. Without WFH I had another 5 years tops of the commute.

ObliviousCoalmine · 06/02/2024 18:50

I absolutely love wfh. I am a much nicer person both at work and at home because I'm not using up all my social energy being in the office with people all day every day.

I work better at home because I'm not distracted by others, or pulled away into things that people would think twice about normally, because I'm right there.

I can manage my work/life balance much better and feel like I'm not constantly playing catch up because I can put a wash on while I go for a wee or turn the slow cooker on while I make my sandwich.

I think there's a bit of a trap that when you wfh you feel so aware of not taking the piss, that you hold yourself to a higher standard of paying attention than you do in the office, and that makes you feel like you're more distracted at home. I doubt you are, you're just less willing to justify your distractions (cuddling the dog for a minute/finishing a cup of tea stood in the garden etc) than you are when you're in the office (talking Jackie in the staff kitchen/popping to the shop down the road for a decent coffee), because you are in 'office' mode.

OhhhhhhhhBiscuits · 06/02/2024 18:49

I struggle more in the office with the constant interruptions and everyone talking around me. I now wear headphones all the time in the office. If it went back to full time in the office I would leave.

sazzy5 · 06/02/2024 18:48

How funny! Goes to show how different we all are. I have a problem with noise, so that’s why wfh works better. I have my own office at home though which helps.

MichaelAndEagle · 06/02/2024 18:47

OP, if the only reason is to save money I'd seriously consider going in more if you are much happier.
At least have a serious think about it.

I decided to go in even though it cost me more (although the heating was costing me being at home), because I am just not cut out for WFH