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The king has cancer

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TheBayLady · 05/02/2024 18:01

Wow. What a shock

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AcrossthePond55 · 06/02/2024 13:58

WithACatLikeTread · 06/02/2024 13:01

It is automatically given to the eldest son.

P.S not sure if you are replying to the wrong poster?

In 2013 the law was changed; the throne goes to the eldest CHILD, regardless of sex.

WithACatLikeTread · 06/02/2024 13:01

doilooklikeicare · 05/02/2024 19:40

@WithACatLikeTread the throne isn't given in the will?

It is automatically given to the eldest son.

P.S not sure if you are replying to the wrong poster?

Glasshouses102 · 06/02/2024 12:34

QueenBean22 · 06/02/2024 09:09

I’m so sorry, the uncertainty of an unknown primary cancer must be difficult for you all. I work in oncology and we have a consultant dedicated to treating unknown primary cancer , do you know if you have access to this?

Have they managed to take any biopsies from your Mum? Is she symptomatic?

Edited

Thank-you for your reply. Yes she's had biopsies taken, they've established that it's in 5 areas of her body but can't find the origin. Hopefully we'll feel better when we've had things explained to us by the oncologist.

Glasshouses102 · 06/02/2024 12:30

Pottedpalm · 06/02/2024 08:35

If they are continuing to test, could it be that they are not sure yet what they are dealing with? Has she seen other specialists?

Yes, that's a part of it however, there have been delays at every stage.

YeahBrackie · 06/02/2024 12:18

ILoveMyCatButHesAPervert · 06/02/2024 11:34

Yes. Why not?

Then people would moan that he's taking up valuable NHS resources. He can't win 🙄

Diskneedisney · 06/02/2024 11:40

ICutYourNameInMyHeart · 06/02/2024 10:39

This happened to someone I know, diagnosed lung cancer, the hospital faffed and um and ahhed for 6 months over starting chemo dates, but person got an infection and died before any treatment

how terrible!

there was a lovely woman on here too, beautiful woman called Pamela, dreadfully let down by the system too, a lot of time wasted with her too, sadly she passed away

Diskneedisney · 06/02/2024 11:39

2dogsandabudgie · 06/02/2024 10:26

Diskneeddisney - But that's not true in all areas, last year I had a suspicious looking mole, did E consult and had a phone call within 24 hours and a GP appointment within 48 hours. I was referred to dermatology under the 2 week pathway and seen within that 2 weeks. Fortunately it was non cancerous.

The problem is we only ever hear when people have bad experiences because my excellent experience above of the NHS isn't newsworthy.

I’m so glad you got seen soon and more so that it was benign, what a relief for you!

sadly I think now you roll the dice with the nhs, sometimes you have good care like with yourself and speedy referrals and other times you don’t and when you don’t, people can die or at least have worst outcomes and I think that’s the point. A man like Charles is guaranteed the best possible chance whereas joe average rolls the dice and therein lies the unfairness. I don’t think you could deny the nhs is in a dire state thanks to this government and the consequences have been deadly for many. Our health care system has gone from being one of the best to quite far behind on many key metrics such as stroke and cancer treatments.

re the chemo, my dad compared with the nhs and he couldn’t have that at home. Now don’t get me wrong, I think for the most past at home chemo is a luxury but I was just pointing out that the treatment can differ private to nhs. Then their is also the access to treatment overseas not licensed in the UK that Charles will have that someone not of exceptional wealth would

ILoveMyCatButHesAPervert · 06/02/2024 11:34

Cloudbuggi · 06/02/2024 10:31

Why are people complaining charles is having private medical treatment? Would you rather he was treated on the NHS?

Yes. Why not?

ICutYourNameInMyHeart · 06/02/2024 10:39

This happened to someone I know, diagnosed lung cancer, the hospital faffed and um and ahhed for 6 months over starting chemo dates, but person got an infection and died before any treatment

2dogsandabudgie · 06/02/2024 10:34

Diskneeddisney - Also to add to my post above, it depends on the type of chemotherapy you are having whether you can have it at home. There are some chemotherapies that you can have at home on the NHS, but others have to be administered in hospital even if you go private.

Cloudbuggi · 06/02/2024 10:31

Why are people complaining charles is having private medical treatment? Would you rather he was treated on the NHS?

2dogsandabudgie · 06/02/2024 10:26

Diskneeddisney - But that's not true in all areas, last year I had a suspicious looking mole, did E consult and had a phone call within 24 hours and a GP appointment within 48 hours. I was referred to dermatology under the 2 week pathway and seen within that 2 weeks. Fortunately it was non cancerous.

The problem is we only ever hear when people have bad experiences because my excellent experience above of the NHS isn't newsworthy.

Diskneedisney · 06/02/2024 09:42

FluffyFanny · 05/02/2024 21:27

I've had cancer treatment on the NHS and definitely felt like everything they has was thrown my way.

I very much doubt he'll be treated while others are left to die with the same condition. It just doesn't work like that. There are set treatments for different kinds of cancer- that is why treatment for cancer is no better for private patients than the NHS. And it's usually the same specialists treating both sets of patients anyway. The only difference is that private hospitals are more comfortable and you get your own room and nicer food.

That’s simply not true. The 2 week wait pathway is backed up. People can’t get an appointment to see a GP in the first instance at first symptoms. Do you think Charles had to deal with that? Of course not

there are different or more comfortable treatments privately. My father had private treatment and when he needed chemo, it was brought to his home. Surgeries were scheduled in a matter of days and not weeks, it all adds up. Plus then, Charles will have access to other (costly) treatments not licensed in the UK (if it ever came to that)

LINDAHOAD · 06/02/2024 09:33

it is everyone choice to have private treatment and if they choose to spend their money on this that it their business. there are many people who do not have money but choose to spend some of it on their health care rather than other things such as cars or holidays or whatever. that is personal choice. because the nhs is in such a poor state many people who have urgent medical problems are having to do this - it is their choice.

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Whatafustercluck · 06/02/2024 09:20

YeahBrackie · 06/02/2024 08:17

I'm wondering if it is pancreatic cancer which is why they've not said which cancer it is?Pancreatic cancer is one of the worst :(

Doubt it. Sunak has said it's been caught early. Pancreatic cancer is rarely caught early and it's one of the cancers you can't screen for.

QueenBean22 · 06/02/2024 09:09

Glasshouses102 · 06/02/2024 08:29

It's awful, we're all devastated. She's had lots of tests during those 6 months but no actual oncology appointment. She has cancer of unknown primary origin.

I’m so sorry, the uncertainty of an unknown primary cancer must be difficult for you all. I work in oncology and we have a consultant dedicated to treating unknown primary cancer , do you know if you have access to this?

Have they managed to take any biopsies from your Mum? Is she symptomatic?

BarbieDangerous · 06/02/2024 09:09

donteatthedaisies0 · 05/02/2024 22:54

I'm afraid life doesn't care you were born a titled person , just flesh and blood like us , sometimes your family can have a really shit time , and here it is .

Oh yes, 100%

WatchOutMissMarpleIsAbout · 06/02/2024 09:08

@Glasshouses102 thats a terribly long wait. Is it because they can’t find the primary? My heart goes out to you all. Having experienced with both my dad and fil I know how stressful it all is.

ILoveMyCatButHesAPervert · 06/02/2024 09:04

Glasshouses102 · 06/02/2024 06:46

My mum was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer I September. She has her first appointment with her oncologist at the end of this months-a 6 month wait to see someone, not even to start treatment!!

That is absolutely terrible. I'm so sorry.

Pottedpalm · 06/02/2024 08:38

I hope his treatment is successful. William and Kate’s efforts to make the childrens’ childhood as normal
as possible would take a big hit.

Pottedpalm · 06/02/2024 08:35

Glasshouses102 · 06/02/2024 08:29

It's awful, we're all devastated. She's had lots of tests during those 6 months but no actual oncology appointment. She has cancer of unknown primary origin.

If they are continuing to test, could it be that they are not sure yet what they are dealing with? Has she seen other specialists?

Glasshouses102 · 06/02/2024 08:29

FreddyGD · 06/02/2024 08:16

My god that is terrible!!

It's awful, we're all devastated. She's had lots of tests during those 6 months but no actual oncology appointment. She has cancer of unknown primary origin.

Clawdy · 06/02/2024 08:23

I wondered that too.

YeahBrackie · 06/02/2024 08:17

I'm wondering if it is pancreatic cancer which is why they've not said which cancer it is?Pancreatic cancer is one of the worst :(

2dogsandabudgie · 06/02/2024 08:16

On the ITV early evening news yesterday, Mary Nightingale was in black, and one of the correspondents she was talking to was dressed in a black suit and black tie. I thought that was in poor taste.