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The king has cancer

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TheBayLady · 05/02/2024 18:01

Wow. What a shock

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doilooklikeicare · 06/02/2024 23:57

@mayorofcasterbridge stop deciding that anyone that doesn't think the same as you, with "shock" about a frankly non shocking event is lacking in empathy or compassion!

You clearly are a bat shit crazy royalist and therefore no one can express normal emotions!

He's a 75 year old man, diagnosed with cancer

It.is.not.shocking

LoveLifeBeHappy · 06/02/2024 23:57

mayorofcasterbridge · 06/02/2024 23:34

Well there is something missing in the people you know. Anyone I know was initially shocked!!

I really don’t understand why. An old man in his mid-70s has cancer. I mean, I wish him well, and I hope he recovers. If he doesn’t, it’s sad, but I think most people will just go about their day and put Netflix on.

mayorofcasterbridge · 06/02/2024 23:39

Diskneedisney · 06/02/2024 23:35

So sorry about your mum. To be clear I was referring to IV chemo not oral chemo at home.

i think you’re misunderstanding what I mean, it’s not the good care should be withheld from Charles as a matter of principle but rather his swift diagnosis and treatment is sadly a luxury afforded to few

Thank you, it's a long time ago now but it still stings! I was just saying that chemo is available that you can have at home, as well as being wired up to it.

As head of state, of course Charles should have the best of care - and also of course he will be paying for it too - but everyone should have the best of care, and the NHS has been decimated to the extent that not everyone does.

I am actually disgusted with people. I can't believe how many horrible ones are out there!

Diskneedisney · 06/02/2024 23:35

mayorofcasterbridge · 06/02/2024 23:06

My mum had some hospital chemo and some chemo at home in the form of medication. That was nearly 18 years ago, can't believe that! She only got 2 sessions of hospital chemo before she became too ill to continue and died less than 6 months after diagnosis, still a relatively young woman.

We really didn't have the best experience with the NHS in many ways, but I wish the King all the best, because what we went through was nothing whatsoever to do with him. There would be something wrong with a country not providing the best of care, especially as he will be paying for it, to its Head of State.

So sorry about your mum. To be clear I was referring to IV chemo not oral chemo at home.

i think you’re misunderstanding what I mean, it’s not the good care should be withheld from Charles as a matter of principle but rather his swift diagnosis and treatment is sadly a luxury afforded to few

mayorofcasterbridge · 06/02/2024 23:34

LoveLifeBeHappy · 06/02/2024 23:08

I don’t know a single person other than my mum whose even mentioned it.

Well there is something missing in the people you know. Anyone I know was initially shocked!!

mayorofcasterbridge · 06/02/2024 23:32

doilooklikeicare · 06/02/2024 23:02

Would they have been shocked by 75 year old Bill next door having being diagnosed with cancer?

I imagine they would have, because they are decent, caring human beings!

mayorofcasterbridge · 06/02/2024 23:31

doilooklikeicare · 06/02/2024 23:01

@mayorofcasterbridge again why's it shocking a 75 year old man has cancer?

He's not the number because he happens to be royalty!

I'd be shocked by one of the royal children having cancer.

So stop telling me I'm callous because I'm not shocked!

I'm not shocked, because it's not shocking!!

Of course it's shocking! Who do you think you are to invalidate other people's feelings? As I said my adult children aged 26 and 24 were shocked. TG I have brought them up to be decent, caring people, because we are a dying breed clearly!

mayorofcasterbridge · 06/02/2024 23:29

doilooklikeicare · 06/02/2024 23:02

Would they have been shocked by 75 year old Bill next door having being diagnosed with cancer?

Yes, of course I would. I am a decent, sentient human being.

I was shocked when my father died aged 81, because it was also unexpected!

Should I not have been? Is there something wrong with you? Because I don't think it's me....!!

Rosejasmine · 06/02/2024 23:25

I’m not shocked, 50% of us will get cancer in the UK, he is in his 70s and he is just flesh and blood like the rest of us.
He is fortunate in that he will have the best doctors and the best treatment possible and it’s not going to kill him any time soon.

LoveLifeBeHappy · 06/02/2024 23:08

SweetBirdsong · 06/02/2024 23:01

@mayorofcasterbridge · Today 22:28

I was shocked. I was on the phone to my sister at the time, and she was also shocked. My 20 something daughters who aren't particularly fans of the RF were also shocked!!

Why wouldn't you be?!

Same here. Both our DDs were at our home when it was announced on the 6pm news yesterday. They came with their DH/fiance (one's married, one's engaged,) and all six of us were having dinner together that evening ...

All are 27-30, and ALL are not Royalists. Just ambivalent. Not haters, not lovers of them. We were watching the news together whilst we were waiting for dinner.

They all gasped in shock when the news was announced about King Charles, and were like OMG! Shock

Everyone I know in real life has been taken aback by it and is quite shocked. Only on mumsnet have I seen people who are being nasty and rude about King Charles, and saying they don't give a shit about him, along with a small amount of people on Twitter.

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I don’t know a single person other than my mum whose even mentioned it.

mayorofcasterbridge · 06/02/2024 23:06

Diskneedisney · 06/02/2024 11:39

I’m so glad you got seen soon and more so that it was benign, what a relief for you!

sadly I think now you roll the dice with the nhs, sometimes you have good care like with yourself and speedy referrals and other times you don’t and when you don’t, people can die or at least have worst outcomes and I think that’s the point. A man like Charles is guaranteed the best possible chance whereas joe average rolls the dice and therein lies the unfairness. I don’t think you could deny the nhs is in a dire state thanks to this government and the consequences have been deadly for many. Our health care system has gone from being one of the best to quite far behind on many key metrics such as stroke and cancer treatments.

re the chemo, my dad compared with the nhs and he couldn’t have that at home. Now don’t get me wrong, I think for the most past at home chemo is a luxury but I was just pointing out that the treatment can differ private to nhs. Then their is also the access to treatment overseas not licensed in the UK that Charles will have that someone not of exceptional wealth would

My mum had some hospital chemo and some chemo at home in the form of medication. That was nearly 18 years ago, can't believe that! She only got 2 sessions of hospital chemo before she became too ill to continue and died less than 6 months after diagnosis, still a relatively young woman.

We really didn't have the best experience with the NHS in many ways, but I wish the King all the best, because what we went through was nothing whatsoever to do with him. There would be something wrong with a country not providing the best of care, especially as he will be paying for it, to its Head of State.

LoveLifeBeHappy · 06/02/2024 23:03

mayorofcasterbridge · 06/02/2024 22:50

It was unexpected??? He's been on the throne for such a short time? His parents seemed to live forever?

I get that… But, he’s mid-70s. His mother should have stepped down earlier to give him a chance.

I still don’t see why this is shocking.

doilooklikeicare · 06/02/2024 23:02

SweetBirdsong · 06/02/2024 23:01

@mayorofcasterbridge · Today 22:28

I was shocked. I was on the phone to my sister at the time, and she was also shocked. My 20 something daughters who aren't particularly fans of the RF were also shocked!!

Why wouldn't you be?!

Same here. Both our DDs were at our home when it was announced on the 6pm news yesterday. They came with their DH/fiance (one's married, one's engaged,) and all six of us were having dinner together that evening ...

All are 27-30, and ALL are not Royalists. Just ambivalent. Not haters, not lovers of them. We were watching the news together whilst we were waiting for dinner.

They all gasped in shock when the news was announced about King Charles, and were like OMG! Shock

Everyone I know in real life has been taken aback by it and is quite shocked. Only on mumsnet have I seen people who are being nasty and rude about King Charles, and saying they don't give a shit about him, along with a small amount of people on Twitter.

.

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Would they have been shocked by 75 year old Bill next door having being diagnosed with cancer?

RickDaglass · 06/02/2024 23:02

That’s disappointing as he is very popular and was the queens favourite son. How else did he manage to get hold of £15M and pay off the lady.

SweetBirdsong · 06/02/2024 23:01

@mayorofcasterbridge · Today 22:28

I was shocked. I was on the phone to my sister at the time, and she was also shocked. My 20 something daughters who aren't particularly fans of the RF were also shocked!!

Why wouldn't you be?!

Same here. Both our DDs were at our home when it was announced on the 6pm news yesterday. They came with their DH/fiance (one's married, one's engaged,) and all six of us were having dinner together that evening ...

All are 27-30, and ALL are not Royalists. Just ambivalent. Not haters, not lovers of them. We were watching the news together whilst we were waiting for dinner.

They all gasped in shock when the news was announced about King Charles, and were like OMG! Shock

Everyone I know in real life has been taken aback by it and is quite shocked. Only on mumsnet have I seen people who are being nasty and rude about King Charles, and saying they don't give a shit about him, along with a small amount of people on Twitter.

.

doilooklikeicare · 06/02/2024 23:01

@mayorofcasterbridge again why's it shocking a 75 year old man has cancer?

He's not the number because he happens to be royalty!

I'd be shocked by one of the royal children having cancer.

So stop telling me I'm callous because I'm not shocked!

I'm not shocked, because it's not shocking!!

mayorofcasterbridge · 06/02/2024 23:00

ILoveMyCatButHesAPervert · 06/02/2024 11:34

Yes. Why not?

😂

mayorofcasterbridge · 06/02/2024 22:59

doilooklikeicare · 06/02/2024 22:56

@mayorofcasterbridge so which of you are caring and which of you are callous?

Because you thought different things, so you've got a callous family is what you're saying?

I'd just say sone of your family are realistic and some dreamers!

Please do not be so disingenuous. ALL of my family were shocked, including my young adults who aren't particularly fussed about the royal family, while we as the older generation, like the tradition without being ardent royalists the way some people are. We are ALL caring.

TG all of my family have empathy, and are capable of being shocked when someone we know or know of, gets bad news.

You are the callous one IMO.

mayorofcasterbridge · 06/02/2024 22:56

3luckystars · 06/02/2024 22:52

Well money can solve everything. I feel very sorry for them all. They have had a turbulent few years.
and now 2 of them are seriously ill.

I hope Kate makes a full recovery, and that Charles treatment goes well too. What an awful time for them.

Money can't solve everything. If it could the Queen and Prince Philip would still be alive!!!

doilooklikeicare · 06/02/2024 22:56

@mayorofcasterbridge so which of you are caring and which of you are callous?

Because you thought different things, so you've got a callous family is what you're saying?

I'd just say sone of your family are realistic and some dreamers!

mayorofcasterbridge · 06/02/2024 22:55

LoveLifeBeHappy · 06/02/2024 22:53

Why would someone worth $2.3 billion use the NHS? I wouldn’t.

Exactly! We would all go private if we could!

LoveLifeBeHappy · 06/02/2024 22:53

ILoveMyCatButHesAPervert · 06/02/2024 11:34

Yes. Why not?

Why would someone worth $2.3 billion use the NHS? I wouldn’t.

mayorofcasterbridge · 06/02/2024 22:52

doilooklikeicare · 06/02/2024 22:51

@mayorofcasterbridge none of which are reasonably be shocked...

75 year old make had cancer.....

It's not shocking at all

Who are you to tell me to be shocked or not? I was, the rest of my family was!

But then we're caring people, not callous and unfeeling!

3luckystars · 06/02/2024 22:52

Well money can solve everything. I feel very sorry for them all. They have had a turbulent few years.
and now 2 of them are seriously ill.

I hope Kate makes a full recovery, and that Charles treatment goes well too. What an awful time for them.

mayorofcasterbridge · 06/02/2024 22:52

Whatafustercluck · 06/02/2024 07:52

Sorry for him, as I am sorry for all those diagnosed with cancer. A very good friend died last year with a very aggressive form of cancer. This time a year ago she was enjoying the trip of a lifetime to New Zealand, where she fell ill. She had no idea she was dying.

The King will have a regular full MOT - multiple cancer screening tests which will likely have picked this up early. He will have the very best care, whatever his prognosis, and I wish him the best.

I am simultaneously thinking of all those others with cancer who are being treated, or waiting to be treated, in a hugely overstretched NHS. And if the King needs palliative care, I'm fairly certain it will be very much better than the palliative 'care' afforded to my friend.

No, I'm not a monarchist. But nobody deserves this. The only difference is that he will receive the very best care and stand a far better chance of a full recovery than most.

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That is so sad but how lovely that she got to experience her trip of a lifetime x