To think I'm unemployable now?

As others have said it may be worth applying for PIP. You might not get a lot but it's better than nothing.
I have problems processing information (minor brain injury), and what I have found that helps in my job is I write everything down and revisit that every time I start my shift. I have been in this job since October and last week was the first time I went in and did my job without reading the instructions I'd written down first. I work with a lovely bunch of supportive people (the majority of which are men), and I found that being open and honest with them helped. I still get the odd comment aimed my way every now and then, but it doesn't bother me as much as it used to.
Keep going OP things will get better.

https://www.gov.uk/pip

Are there any charity/enterprises in your area that place adults with learning difficulties into work?

In my home town I know there are ones where they make fence panels.

Might be worth having a chat if any exist in your area.
You're clearly capable of something, you communicate so well here. You're not a lost cause, but you have been let down.

You should apply for PIP.

If you aren't employable you still have a right to a decent standard of living.

@sueey your literacy level kind of leans against an intellectual disability, but your daily living skills are clearly impaired. I would be inclined to ask your GP for an intellectual disability assessment - services for this are generally better established than ASD or ADHD because everyone with an ID is likely to require support of some kind, while not everyone with ASD or ADHD does.

Go to the GP and show them a printout of your post, OP.
Like others have said, you could be excellent at a nursery.

Focus on the good stuff:

1. you're clearly very literate, as your posts are very well written. If only some of my GCSE pupils could write like that!

2. You may feel socially awkward, but on a one to one level, you seem to be great with people - you found a lovely husband, you're a great mum, and you do really well in interviews.

So already you have two amazing skills going for you. You just need to find the right job that means you could use those skills without having to do the maths side.

What about working in a school? Are you good with teenagers? You have experience of struggling with a system so might be able to help others that also struggle.

Hi @sueey

Well done for writing this post and lots of very helpful suggestions.

When I was a teenager I was told that I would never pass a maths test, the teacher was laughing as he said that.

When I had my last child at 40, I decided to enrol at night class to do Maths GCSE. It took a year and a lot of effort, especially as my youngest was exclusively breast fed. I successfully passed the exam with a B. A very proud moment for me.

Exams are coming up and nearly every school needs exam invigilators. You could start with a couple of days a week in the main hall. It's not at all challenging for a beginner as someone more experienced takes the lead. Just a suggestion.

I wish you all the very best x

You really need to apply for pip. It's separate from your earnings and it is done on need.

It wouldn't stop you from working!

What about a cleaning job?

You can get Pip no matter what you or your DP earn. I work full time and get it.

It does sound very difficult. I think in terms of pension you need to make sure you’re getting credits towards your state pension. You can often get these by claiming certain benefits. Have you checked your NI contributions online? Could you and your partner make that a priority so you at least qualify for a full state pension when the time comes?

It is a competitive world in some ways, but as you’ve realised it’s no good masking at interview only for the issues to become evident further down the line. An employer can only work with what they know, if at interview you present as a typical candidate and then in practice you don’t perform as one, then you are always going to be reprimanded and ultimately let go.

It’s about applying yourself and presenting things in a particular way, but also just about playing to your strengths. If you turn up to an interview and just list the things you struggle with, then yeah you probably aren’t going to be invited back. But if you can attend an interview and be clear about your strengths, weaknesses, any diagnosis, and what support/adjustments you will require, then you’re on good ground.

I have no real advice sorry, however I really wanted to say your posts are clear, concise and very well written which is not often the case in MM and modern life in general. It might not feel like much but truthfully it’s very impressive.

Do you get Pip?

I would ring again and say you will take a cancellation. You can do it!

This could be a range of cognitive/processing disorders or quite possibly more than one co-existing together. The memory issues as you describe seem a bit different from 'just' ADHD/ASD and might indicate something else going on.

You are clearly not 'simple' as your mother puts it. You write well and have obviously got a good command of English both written and oral so you can learn things, it just has to be in a way that works for you.

Have you ever asked you mother about your birth? For example if there was any possibility you may have had birth trauma or been deprived of oxygen at birth, however briefly? All sorts of birth interventions or emergencies can cause cognitive issues. If so that's important information to tell your GP in the search for appropriate referrals.

I ask as a friends child has some memory retention issues as well as dyslexia and dyscalculia (the numbers/maths thing) and she was born very very premature, tiny and put on ECMO (an artificial lung machine to pump oxygen) as a newborn. They were told she may have some learning difficulties growing up but because they knew to watch for it she's doing well academically with support (now a young teenager).

Good luck OP I hope you find some answers and solutions.

Hi, have you tried hotel work? Cleaning rooms wouldn’t require any maths or till operation, that could suit you.

Care work- you would need to write reports, but your writing seems good. Better than average even.

You don’t seem simple in the slightest, I hope you find something perfect for you.

Did the Gp refer you for the assessment? Could you try to follow that up this week and ask them for a cancellation?

There is absolutely hope for you!! There are amazing things now for people of all abilities and a diagnosis could be life changing for you.

I have heard of some people on here mention right to choose for assessments for adhd and asd that helps get them quicker, I don't know if that is available to you? Might be worth checking?
I really hope you can find the right support.