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Anyone met someone naturally in their 30s?

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Mothersbeenabadgirl · 04/02/2024 17:12

I despise online apps, they've never got me anywhere whatsoever, just time wasters.
I'm 33, I just want someone who's sweet, kinda geeky, easy to get on with and has stuff in common, someone who makes me laugh.
I would just like it to happen naturally and develop.
I do parkrun but people don't seem up for talking, the ones who go for the coffee after always seem to be 60+, nothing wrong with that but not my age range.
I like art, cinema, gigs and so on.
The thing is I am quite confident, I've no issue approaching men or asking them out.
People say I'm 'sweet' and sadly I feel like a lot of men seem to want someone who's a bit 'harder' :(
I just feel Iike it won't happen :(

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littleblackcat27 · 04/02/2024 17:40

I met my DH on a weekend away with friends- he was seeing someone else at the time - so nothing happened but the spark was there and we got together a few months later.

donteatthedaisies0 · 04/02/2024 17:35

Never say no to an invite to a colleagues party, barbeque or even kids party . Siblings night out , party . You never know who's gonna introduce you to the love of your life ! Never turn down an invitation .

Veryregretful · 04/02/2024 17:26

I was having a conversation with a close friend not long ago about this. We are in our late 30s. She is in a similar situation to you re. being fed up with OLD, but also wondering how else she will meet anyone. We (sadly) concluded that almost all of our friends / siblings who are in long term, committed relationships, either met their DP / DH / DW many years ago, at school / university, or more recently via OLD.

My advice to her was to join Meetups, I was briefly on this pre covid and then it all went quiet during covid. I haven’t met a partner there, but could see that this may be a way to meet someone outside of OLD. I also met a very close (female) friend on a meetup.

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Mothersbeenabadgirl · 04/02/2024 17:22

SquashPenguin · 04/02/2024 17:21

Yep I did! We met at work, I was 33 and he was 28. Took two years before it finally happened though! Very happy together. It can definitely happen in real life!

That's lovely :) so were you friends for 2 years first? How did it happen?

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SquashPenguin · 04/02/2024 17:21

Yep I did! We met at work, I was 33 and he was 28. Took two years before it finally happened though! Very happy together. It can definitely happen in real life!

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Mothersbeenabadgirl · 04/02/2024 17:19

Many of my friends are married to people from online and I know it can work. But I seem to be really unlucky on it, the men just seem to want one thing, or last week I had someone randomly cancel with some rubbish excuse, or they'll just stop talking randomly.

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Mothersbeenabadgirl · 04/02/2024 17:18

That sounds good, I may give it a go :)
I only have 2 male friends sadly, one who's gay, and the other is someone I talk to a lot and like, but we work together and he's kinda hot and cold :(

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Blushingm · 04/02/2024 17:17

I think online is more the norm now for meeting people. I resorted to it as didn't seem to find anyone naturally - I thought because maybe people aren't really looking when they're doing normal things

Lengokengo · 04/02/2024 17:17

I met my DH at 35 in a sports club. Team sport and roughly equal men/ women. Lots of social nights. This was nearly 20 years ago so lots has changed I guess.

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Mothersbeenabadgirl · 04/02/2024 17:13

I work in the Civil Service in a massive office. There are likely men there, but people kinda stay within their teams and the good ones seem to be taken :(

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